Hmm, not sure how to start this conversation.
I do feel that men have it drilled into their heads that they must love sex. Otherwise, they're wrong, they're fags, they're not real men.
This means many of them might be socially pressured into having sex when they don't want to because, against popular belief, men aren't always horny.
And this culture of ''men-must-always-want-sex'' is pervasive in both hetero and queer spaces.
If you're a straight guy every other straight person in your family will develop a breeding kink and harass you so they can have more relatives.
Queer dating culture for men is heavily sex-based. Dating apps run the circus and it mostly relies on hook-ups, which are fine if you like them but make it difficult to enter the dating scene unless you're interested in putting yourself out there like that.
And I think we need to address it.
First and foremost for asexual men. I remember when one of my high school friends confessed to her crush, he told her he was asexual and she got mad and was convinced he'd only said it to avoid dating her. ''If he really didn't like me, he could have told me straight, not using an excuse!"
An excuse. Because clearly there's no other reason a man might not want sex.
But also for every other man who might not want to have sex for whatever reason and at whatever moment.
And it's not just about not wanting sex, it's about not wanting to make sexual comments, not wanting to discuss sexual encounters, and much more.
Men, you don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to.
Men, you're loved and respected even if you don't have sex with someone who likes you.
Men, you're more than what other people say about your sexual life. You're not a lesser man if you don't have sex often.