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    anonymous

    Hi, I read that you've dealt with with impostor syndrome in the past, and I'm really struggling with that right now. I'm in a good place and my friends are going through a lot, and I'm struggling to justify my success to myself when such amazing people are unhappy. I was wondering if you have any tips to feel less like this and maybe be kinder to myself, but without hurting anyone around me. It's a big ask, I know, but any help would make my life a lot less stressful

    The best help I can offer is to point you to Amy Cuddy’s book, Presence. She talks about Imposter Syndrome (and interviews me in it) and offers helpful insight.

    The second best help might be in the form of an anecdote. Some years ago, I was lucky enough invited to a gathering of great and good people: artists and scientists, writers and discoverers of things. And I felt that at any moment they would realise that I didn’t qualify to be there, among these people who had really done things.

    On my second or third night there, I was standing at the back of the hall, while a musical entertainment happened, and I started talking to a very nice, polite, elderly gentleman about several things, including our shared first name. And then he pointed to the hall of people, and said words to the effect of, “I just look at all these people, and I think, what the heck am I doing here? They’ve made amazing things. I just went where I was sent.”

    And I said, “Yes. But you were the first man on the moon. I think that counts for something.”

    And I felt a bit better. Because if Neil Armstrong felt like an imposter, maybe everyone did. Maybe there weren’t any grown-ups, only people who had worked hard and also got lucky and were slightly out of their depth, all of us doing the best job we could, which is all we can really hope for.

    (There’s a wonderful photograph of the Three Neils even if one of us was a Neal at http://journal.neilgaiman.com/2012/08/neil-armstrong.html)

    Reblogging, as perhaps someone needs this.

    Just had my nth conversation with someone about mask-wearing today - yet another well-intentioned moron who was like 

  • ‘But the virus is gone now’ (it isn’t) 
  • ‘But the mask is uncomfortable’ (ventilators are worse)
  • ‘But you’re young, you won’t die’ (having this thing could impact my health for decades to come + it’s my responsability to protect those who’re more vulnerable than I am because that’s how society works)
  • ‘But are you going to live in fear for the rest of your life’ (taking concrete safety measures actually helps me feel more in control and less worried)
  • ‘But are you going to give up everything and stay inside like a rat’ (no, but I’m definitely going to decide what’s worth risking my health for, and shopping for bread rolls is not very high on my list of literally-to-die-for activities)
  • ‘But what if they never find a vaccine’ (then we’ll get used to the situation just like we got used to a thousand other things like seat belts, bike helmets, and increasingly weird true crime podcasts). 
  • I know it’s tiring to have people call you paranoid all the time - bu<>t you’re right and they’re wrong. Check the news, keep a safe distance from others whenever possible and keep wearing your mask!

    (Btw that thread is full of interesting stuff.)

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    Newly Released Police Body Cam Footage Shows Moments Before Rayshard Brooks Was Murdered by Police

    For those who don’t kno<>w, Rayshard Brooks, 27 yr old father of, was shot and killed by an Atlanta police officer at a Wendy’s parking lot in Atlanta Friday night.

    <>In the video, Mr. Brooks is seen calmly and politely speaking with Officers after falling asleep at a Wendys parking lot because he said he was“Too intoxicated to drive<>.” The officers could have done the right thing and stayed with him until someone picked him up, allowed him to walk to his home (which he offered to do) or even offered him a ride home, but instead they decided to escalate the situation and kill him. 

    Source /Source / Full Video

    <>#WakeUp<>

    soappppp

    yall I fucking bled for this peice of trash pls like it 

    oh. I thought it was a photo.

    Damn it took me 5 minutes to figure out why you wanted people to like a picture of soap. You did such a good job people think you are just posting random pics of soap.

    this isn’t the fist time this has happened, I painted lube and everyone was confused that I posted a picture of lube 

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    celticpyro

    This is such a Monkey’s Paw kind of talent. Being so talented at hyperrealistic art that people just think they’re photos and don’t care.

    The shine on that lube is SO good tho kudos

    cakeandrevolution

    Damn that’s impressive!

    newagerebellions

    HOW TF U DO THAT

    These literally look like pictures omg how I love the soap

    fun fact: any policy on drugs that isn’t harm reduction is going to cause addicts to suffer and die

    fun fact: Drug addiction is a public health issue, and approaching it as if it were a law enforcement issue is prejudicial to addicts and will result in their suffering and death

    if you just assume addiction is a method of self-medicating, you’ll pretty much never be wrong.

    now, not everything people self-medicate for actually has a proper treatment. i’m pretty sure the reason my uncle made sure to be slightly drunk at all times ‘to round the sharp corners off of things’ was sensory processing disorder. i have that too, and i just kind of accept that i’m going to randomly get my brain sandpapered from time to time. there is no medication for that. all you can do is dull your senses. i’ve chosen not to, but i can’t blame him for his decisions. when a ringing phone feels like getting hit upside the head with a frying pan, liver damage sounds like a fair price to pay.

    anyway, it seems really self-evident to me that people don’t enjoy living the life of an addict, they do it because the alternative looks worse. people don’t get addicted to substances just for funsies. they start making a habit of taking something because of insomnia, or grief, or headaches, or depression, or seething undirected rage and terror they can’t put a name to – something that they can’t ignore or shrug off. and for whatever reason – lack of access, lack of knowlege, lack of money, or it just plain doesn’t exist – they aren’t able to apply the Approved Correct Remedy. they use what they can get.

    addicts aren’t some weird otherfolk who inexplicably just Do Drugs because they’re Bad. addicts are you with a problem you can’t solve.

    these facts aren’t fun but they are pretty important

    nandalorian

    I can promise you that however bad you think drug addicts and/or alcoholics are making society, their experience of it is still worse. It’s the responsibility of policymakers to find solutions and treatment options that address the issue in such a way that views and respects addicts as members of society who need help and support, not external evil forces who need to be eradicated in order for society to function “properly.”

    another article. it looks like mainstream media is saying nothing about this so far. wonder if theres a media blackout

    https://www.thecanary.co/trending/2020/06/09/seattle-sleepless-as-authorities-mobilise-after-locals-declare-free-zone/

    losing my mind guys

    heres some pics of the claimed area

    taken from first twitter link

    taken from r/seattle

    another one from this morning

    Welcome To The Cool Zone!!!!

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    update: city councilmember and socialist comrade kshama sawant has LET THEM INTO CITY HALL. the revolution is now

    another article. it looks like mainstream media is saying nothing about this so far. wonder if theres a media blackout

    https://www.thecanary.co/trending/2020/06/09/seattle-sleepless-as-authorities-mobilise-after-locals-declare-free-zone/

    losing my mind guys

    heres some pics of the claimed area

    taken from first twitter link

    taken from r/seattle

    another one from this morning

    Welcome To The Cool Zone!!!!

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    update: city councilmember and socialist comrade kshama sawant has LET THEM INTO CITY HALL. the revolution is now

    What have the protests accomplished?

    5/264 officers fired for murdering George Floyd
    5/27 Charges dropped for Kenneth Walker (Breonna Taylor’s boyfriend, who police accused of killing her)
    5/28 University of Minnesota cancels contract with police
    5/28 3rd precinct police station neutralized by protesters
    5/28 Minneapolis transit union refuses to bring police officers to protests or transport arrested protesters
    5/29 Activists commandeer Minneapolis hotel to provide shelter to homeless
    5/29 Former officer Chauvin arrested and charged with murder
    5/29 Louisville Mayor suspends “no-knock” warrants
    5/30 US Embassies across Africa condemn police murder of Geo
    rge Floyd
    5/30 Minnesota Attorney General Keith Ellison takes over prosecution of the murderi
    ng officer
    5/30 Transport Workers Union refuses to help NYPD transport arrests
    protesters
    5/30 Maryland lawmakers forming work group on police reform, ac
    countability
    5/31 2 abusive officers fired for pulling a couple out of their car and tasing them
    - Atlanta, GA
    6/1 Minneapolis public schools end contra
    ct with police
    6/1 Confederate monument removed after being toppled by protesters -
    Birmingham, AL
    6/1 CA prosecutors launch campaign to stop DAs from accepting pol
    ice union money
    6/1 Tulsa Mayor agrees to not renew L
    ive PD contract
    6/1 Louisville police chief fired after shooting
    of David Mcatee
    6/1 Congress begins bipartisan push to cut off police access
    to military gear
    6/1 Atlanta announces plans to create a task force and public database to track police brutality in me
    tro Atlanta area
    6/2 Minneapolis AFL-CIO calls for resignation of police union president Bob Kroll, a vocal
    white supremest
    6/2 Pittsburgh transit union announces refusal to transport police officers or
    arrest protesters
    6/2 Racist ex-mayor Frank Rizzo statue remov
    ed in Philadelphia
    6/2 6 abusive officers charged for violence against residents and prote
    sters - Atlanta, GA
    6/2 Civil rights investigation of Minneapolis
    Police Dept launched
    6/2 San Francisco resolution to prevent law enforcement from hiring officers with
    history of misconduct
    6/2 Survey indicates that 64% of those polled are sympathetic to protesters, 47% disapprove of police handling of the protests, and 54% think the burning down of the Minneapolis police precinct was fully
    or partially justified
    6/2 Trenton NJ anno
    unces policing reforms
    6/2 Minneapolis City Council members conside
    r disbanding the police
    6/2 Confederate statue rem
    oved from Alexandria, VA
    6/3 Officer fired for tweets promoting violence against
    protesters - Denver, CO
    6/3 Walker Art Center and the Minneapolis Institute of A
    rt cut ties with the MPD
    6/3 Chauvin charges upgraded to second degree murder, remaining 3 officers also charg
    ed and taken into custody
    6/3 Richmond VA Mayor Stoney announces RPD reform measures: establish “Marcus” alert for folks experiencing mental health crises, establish independent Citizen Review Board, an ordinance to remove Confederate monuments, and
    implement racial equity study
    6/3 County commissioners deny proposal for $23 million
    expansion of Fulton County jail
    6/3 Minneapolis Park and Recreation Board unanimous
    ly votes to sever ties with MPD
    6/3 Seattle withdraws request to end federal oversight/con
    sent decree of police department
    6/
    3 Breonna Taylor’s case reopened
    6/3 Louisville police department (Breonna Taylor’s murderers) will now be under review from an outside agency, which will include review on training,
    bias-free policing and accountability
    6/3 Colorado lawmakers introduce a police reform bill that includes body cam laws, repealing the “fleeing
    felon statute, and banning chokeholds
    6/3 Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti announces plans to reduce funding to police department by $150M a
    nd instead invest in minority communities
    6/4 Virginia governor announces plans to
    remove Robert E. Lee statue from Richmond
    6/4 Portland schools superintendent discontinues pr
    esence of armed police officers in schools
    6/4 MBTA (Metro Boston) board orders that buses wont transport
    police to protests, or protesters to police
    6/4 King County Labor Federation issues ultimatum to police unions: admit to and
    address racism in Seattle PD, or be removed
    6/5 City
    of Minneapolis bans all chokeholds by police
    6/5 Racist e
    x-mayor Hubbard statue removed - Dearborn, MI
    6/5 NFL condemns racism and admit
    s it should have listened to players’ protests
    6/5 California Governor Gavin Newsom calls for statewide use-of-force standard made alon
    g with community leaders and ban on carotid holds
    6/5 2 Buffalo officers suspended within a day of pushing 75 yea
    r old protester to the ground, and lying about it
    6/5 2 NYPD officer
    s suspended after videos of violence to protesters
    6/5 
    The US Marines bans display of the Confederate flag
    6/5 Dallas adopts a “duty to intervene” rule that requires officers to st
    op other cops who are engaging in excessive use of force
    6/5 Dallas City Manager T.C. Broadnax rele
    ases an 11-point action plan for immediate police reforms
    6/6 Statue of Confederat
    e general Williams Carter Wickham torn down - Richmond, VA
    6/6 2 Buffalo officers
    charged with second-degree assault for shoving elderly man
    6/6 San Francisco Mayor London Breed announces e
    ffort to defund police and redirect funds to Black community
    6/7 Frank Rizzo mura
    l removed, to be replaced with new artwork - Philadelphia, PA
    6/7 Minneapolis City Council members announce intent to disband the p
    olice department, invest in proven community-led public safety
    6/7 Protesters in Bristol topp
    le statue of slave trader Edward Colston, throw it in the river
    6/7 NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio vows for the
    first time to cut funding for NYPD, redirect to social services
    6/7 A Virginia p
    olice officer faces charges after using a stun gun on a black man
    6/8 NY State Assembly passes the Eric Garner Anti-Chokehold Act
    6/8 Democrats in Cong
    ress unveil a bill to rein in bias and excessive force in policing
    6/8 Black lawmakers block a le
    gislative session in Pennsylvania to demand action on police reform
    6/8 France bans police use of chokehold
    s
    6/8 Seattle council members join calls to defund police department
    6/8 Boston reevaluates how it funds police department
    6/8 Honolulu P
    olice Commission nominees voice support for more transparency, reforms
    6/8 Rights groups and Floyd’s family call for
    a UN inquiry into American policing and help with systemic police reform

    <>No, it’s not enough, but this is only the beginning. Keep fighting!!!

    (This list comes fromMara Ahmed’s blog post and was compiled by Fahd Ahmed; I added sources and new entries. Please reblog with further additions.)