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they/he •23 • agender • autistic • fat • t4t ONLY! • polyam • bottom • ace butch bi lesbian bear • PLEASE READ PINNED POST! ~actively gaining~ sw: 237lbs • cw: 247lbs • gw: 300lbs

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2022-01-22 04:06:53

    hi everyone!

    CW; personal post, medical ment, mutual aid req


    I've been slowly but surely finding out more and more every day how (physically) disabled I really am (already aware of other disibilities💕) and it's been a wild ride, but I've been (emotionally) feeling a lot better. it's helping me take action in caring for myself properly

    with this, however, comes the most fun part of living in the US as a disabled person: healthcare

    I'm a currently unemployed (and cannot work!) disabled trans person with 0 consistent income, and I need all the help I can get to afford to go to the doctor as well as affording personal care and household items to help me manage my disibility

    if anyone could help me out by buying content, sending tips, or buying some stuff of my am*zon medical wishlist , I would appreciate it more than you know😖🥺❤️

    my links to content & places to tip me are here, and reblogs are heavily encouraged!! tysm❤️



    when people are doing their best to talk about weight they’ve unintentionally gained, especially during pandemic, because it can be a big change and force you to confront internalized fatphobia and body image stuff but you’re sitting there, as a friend, like…but oh my god? you look so hot? Like sincerely, truly, you look so hot? Like not even in a kinky way just like, wow but you are so pretty/handsome/gorgeous, like that is just facts? But it’s hard to tell someone that when that’s not necessarily what they want to hear in the moment. I think, and this is something I used to do when I was younger, what a lot of people are looking for is permission to “look bad” but it’s like…I’m sorry, I’m not the one who can give that to you and it’s mostly because kink aside, I truly don’t fucking believe that fat “looks bad” on anyone and I’m not going to lie to someone and tell them they’re skinny if they’re not. Skinny and fat should be neutral descriptors in the everyday.

    I just wish I had more skills to bring in body pos outside of this community where fat and gaining weight is spoken about so freely, both as a kink/fetish but also just as a reality, but weight is such a difficult issue for so many people and convincing someone it’s not a problem isn’t really something you can just solve in a singular conversation. I really freeze up when people tell me, disappointed or frustrated with themselves, that they’ve gained weight. Like I can rain compliments something biblically fierce, but it can take time to come to terms and recognize that your value as a human and someone that people care about is just as inherent as when you were thinner, and that there’s so much joy and liberation within fat bodies.

    I’m not saying it’s easy by any measure, but…yeah. I just want to work more on how to support fat liberation with people who feel like they’re starting at the beginning of that conversation, or don’t know where to start without y’know. Making it weird or inadvertently making someone feel worse.

    tl;dr: chubby and fat is pretty/cute/sexy/handsome/gorgeous and more people
    should be able to celebrate that without stigmatization.


    Personally I think about changing someone’s perception about something not as giving them information to try to convince them of my point of view, but about figuring out their fears and assumptions and helping the person question them. Fatphobia is linked to a LOT of other fears: social rejection, mortality, being seen as someone not capable of producing capital (lazy/lacking willpower), etc.

    So when people bring up weight gain in a conversation, it’s often about something or a lot of somethings that don’t actually have to do with weight. (Because fat has a lot of different meanings attached to it in our society!)

    If someone expresses disappointment at having gained weight, try asking “why do you feel disappointed in yourself?” They might say, “I should be taking better care of myself, even if it is a pandemic,” or “everyone else has been using the pandemic to be productive and get fit, yet I gained all this weight,” or “I’m worried about what people will think of me when I go back to work,” or “I’m trying to manage [health condition] and I feel like I’m failing at it,” or “I thought I had more self control than this!” or a thousand other things (or, yeah, maybe just looking for reassurance about their appearance).

    You’ve already learned more about what’s going on for this person than if you just said “but you look great!” That can open up the door to deeper connections and conversations that can lead the person to question fatphobic ideas that are causing them harm if you continue down different lines of curiosity and compassionate listening with that person.

    Even just repeating their assumption back to them can be helpful: it acknowledges their concern, but gets them to examine it more.

    For example:

    “I should be taking better care of myself, even if it is a pandemic.” -> “You don’t think you’ve been taking care of yourself properly?”

    Answer A: “I mean, I’ve been staying inside 24/7 and isolating and eating like crap and doom-scrolling through the news and I’ve been crying every day, I feel awful!” -> Oh, this person actually has a lot going on, maybe the conversation should take a turn towards how you can help this person get the support they need rather than questioning their fatphobia.

    Answer B: “Well, I’m getting fat aren’t I?” -> okay, maybe that’s more a ‘questioning fatphobia’ moment, like “what does that have to do with taking care of yourself?”

    Either way, chances are it’s not really about the weight, but about what it signifies to that person, and the path of least resistance is to poke holes in fatphobia and let them come to their own conclusions.

    If you don’t have the energy or skills for these kinds of convos, you can keep it really simple while still challenging fatphobia. I often respond to people with neutral things like “nothing wrong with being fat!” but a lot of times in these situations it can even be helpful to just nod or say “okay” while keeping a positive or calm demeanor if someone is mentioning their weight or weight gain. In most typical interactions, mentioning weight gain is probably going to result in the other person commiserating, offering advice, consoling, etc. so even starting from a neutral reaction will likely be a big change for some people.(Although that can come off as dismissing the other person’s distress, depending on the situation).

    But anyway, you don’t have to memorize a bunch of social justice talking points to have conversations with people about weight & weight gain.


    I do think it’s a Leetle Annoying when ppl are like omg american food is so narsty and unhealthy.. look at this (food that is only sold at the texas state fair)


    It does ALWAYS just come back around to saying americans are such Fatties and of course it is ~Bad To Be Fat~ It’s also very cool and fun because america is obviously the only place that uses sugar or butter to make their dishes. the only place. no other place does that


    Also the mock confusion of “why are there so many foods that use cream/milk/cheese??” in areas of the US where there are tons of cows, and “what tf is up with these corn products??” while standing literally in the middle of an american corn field 


    you’re right and you should say it (out loud)

    Brits committed genocide, globally, for spices they don’t use


    I will mock american food relentlessly for: 1. Frying everything 2. The tasteless sanitized garbage you dare calling cheese (gouda….. is not….. an extreme cheese…) 3. Not having a fresh vegetable in sight anywhere. I will never mock american food for : 1. Being based on cheap calories bc food poverty is a big thing 2. Not having traditional dishes bc its a very young country and the culinary equivalent of a teenager trying out recipes for the first time.


    “Frying everything” happens primarily in the American south and is an extension of soul food which is a southern (black) American staple.

    Not only do we consistently have and consume vegetables, we have regional and seasonal vegetable dishes and sides.

    We absolutely do have traditional dishes that are specific to the regions and cultures found throughout the United States and the varying ethnic groups found therein. We are not children floundering around in the kitchen. We have entire unique regional and cultural divisions of food all over the US that have been passed down and worked on for generations.

    You don’t know anything about American food or the cultures that curate them.


    I thought I was done, but I’m not.

    America is one of the most food diverse countries on the planet largely due to the massive variety of food profiles and cooking techniques melded together over the years.

    The southern United States alone is a culinary banquet of flavors, colors, techniques, and food history. Each southern state has its own way of preparing soul food that is specific to the spices and culture of the black people living there. Louisiana is internationally known for its soul food. Tennesse is internationally known for its soul food. Kentucky is internationally known for its soul food. Texas is internationally known for its barbecue.

    Did you know that Within the United States we have like 20 different types of barbecue and that, in the south (the real south not Texas), barbecue is not a verb? It’s a noun. It’s literally it’s own type of food that is incredibly regionally specific? It’s literally different all over and we all fight over who has the best (it’s SC).

    Thousands of cookbooks have been made to try and cover the variations in soul food alone. Like we haven’t even begin to talk about other cultural influences in American food outside of the south.

    “I know food” you don’t know anything about food and quite frankly this whole debate is low key rife with racism.


    this also completely erases the huge varieties of native american food that has existed for thousands of years the USA is a young country but people have lived here for fuckin ever and they obviously eat and are a big reason Europe has more than just turnips and depression


    Literally. “America is like a bunch of teenagers making food for the first time” yeah tell native Americans that. Tell the enslaved Africans who came here that. Tell the native Mexicans whose borders were crossed to expand America that. Like a bitch whose country is known for eating snails, frog legs, and eye of newt is going to tell us about food. Ok.


    Also like,,, saying you’re aware of the way poverty affects the food you can make and then mocking poor folks for not having fresh veggies really screams “i have never heard of a food desert before.”


    Feedee Asks!

    1. Favorite food?

    2. Into anything else?

    3. Chocolate or vanilla?

    4. Favorite meal?

    5. Favorite dessert?

    6. Favorite food to stuff with?

    7. Goal weight?

    8. Do you rp?

    9. Fantasize about immobility?

    10. Fantasize about instant weight gain?

    11. How much have you gained?

    12. Why do you like gaining?

    13. Do you like insults?

    14. Do you like humiliation?

    15. Do you like being force fed?

    16. What’s the most you’ve ever eaten?

    17. Dirtiest feederism fantasy?

    18. Fattest you could imagine being?

    19. What food are you currently craving?

    20. Want to gain mutually?

    21. Chubby boys or chubby girls?

    22. Teasing or encouragement?

    23. Messy eater?

    24. Like tummy rubs?

    25. Pizza or pasta?

    26. Ice cream or cake?

    27. Burgers or chicken nuggets?

    28. Quickest you could gain 10 pounds?

    29. Go to the gym?

    30. Like to talk with your followers?

    31. Like being chubby?

    32. How big could you get?

    33. How would you react if you woke up and you were 400 pounds?

    34. Do you have a feeder?

    35. Do you want a feeder?

    36. Does your partner know about your kink?

    37. Favorite place to be stuffed?

    38. Favorite feeder?

    39. Favorite drink?

    40. Cutest feederism fantasy?

    41. Current weight?

    42. Height?

    43. Dating someone?

    44. Favorite food to use sexually?

    45. Favorite chubby pet name?

    46. Where does most of your weight go?

    47. What’s your dress size?

    48. What’s your pants size?

    49. What’s your bra size?

    50. Anything else you’d like to be asked?


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