I want her to feel free to have sex. She is in control. I’ll give permission if it is a turn on for her, which it can be at times. Of course, I want it to also spice up our sex life. But there is nothing sexier than a woman who is free, confident, and sexy and makes the choice to take care of her man. That says she understands my needs and is also selfless, gracious and loyal, which are the most important qualities in a person.