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    leatherlacedbass

    I'm sorry to bother you. This is probably dumb, but do you have any advice on how to handle sub drop when I haven't done well enough to deserve aftercare? I want to try and be better for Mistress :(

    *****waves red flag around****

     The only thing dumb about this is your Mistress, and the fact you think you don’t deserve aftercare/don’t get proper after-scene care in general. NOT OK. 

    *****waves red flag around****

     I don’t care if you “perform poorly” or end a scene or whatever in your book/their book is considered “ not performing well enough” YOU DESERVE AFTER CARE especially  if something wasn’t 100% flowing thru a scene. Like i feel like if its 100% great you should def have aftercare! or 50% great n 50% shitty and rocky and rough/ not vibeing well with each other today/this scene or what have you i feel like  you should have it even more because feeling like you let down your Dom/Domme/ Owner/ Daddy/Mommy/ etc can be the freaking worst. Like forget all the good feels in the good parts of the scene/play time the thought of disappointment is lot of what us subs focus on and that can be really hard if you’re not reassured you still did well, your best, and that your limits or needs are ok and that stopping a scene or w/e is fully in your control and you should not be made to feel bad for it. OR whatever happened/happens to cause this for you or anyone else. 

     YOU ALWAYS DESERVE AFTER CARE IF YOU WANT IT. I know some don’t care for it, THAT iS THE subs CHOICE. DOMS/DOMMES etc DON’T GET TO SAY “YOU DIDNT PERFORM TO MY STANDARDS NO AFTERCARE AWARD FOR YOU!”

     *****waves red flag around****

    Repeat after me: Aftercare is not a reward it a must. Communication cannot be used as a punishment, either. ie: ignoring you as a punishment/breaking communication/silence as punishment, communication is a tool, a key, not a dom/domme etc control over another—–> same thing aftercare is not a reward its a must, the final scene of your scene. you don’t get to dangle aftercare like a carrot for a bunny to jump thru every hoop properly.  That’s not how this world works. Things go hand in hand. There’s a seemingly large disconnect in the properly functioning domme party of your mistress’ brain, she needs to be made aware of your needs and concerns. if they continue to be lacking in the proper depts. pack you cuffs and gtfo. 

     *****waves red flag around****

    please come talk if you ever have more concerns. 

    enscenic

    What the actual fuck?

    USING AFTERCARE OR LACK THEREOF AS A REWARD/PUNISHMENT IS NOT OKAY.

    ubertea

    Aftercare is extremely important, even with hypnosis. The lack of it is a huge red flag!!

    arihi

    Another post on aftercare with some very informational insights.

    esuccubus

    Seconded. Aftercare, even if it can’t go above brief checking-in and some reassurances, is an essential session outprocessing tool, not a reward. This is actually a form of abuse, and I’d be afraid to know what “doing well enough” entails.

    hypnocuck

    Is everyone clear on this now?

    bdsmplayground-blog

    Technical names for Kinks and what they are...

    To celebrate all the wonderful, wacky and weirdness of love we have our ”Grab a paraphilia and some bishies and run with it” challenge.

    Any bishie is up for grabs, any kink is up for grabs, the more of either or both the better. We`ll except fanart, photomanips, poems, ficlets, fics, rps, round robins just make sure you mention which kinks you have choosen and which bishies.

    You can download the list as a txt file here, or in the channel from me.

    Paraphilias in a relationship should always be approached in a safe sane and consensual way but since we`re talking fiction that becomes less of a requirement.

    This is not a complete list and in no way covers all aspects of the listed kinks. Several were left off deliberatly and in no way do inclusions and or exclusions imply our condemnation or our approval.

    If you`re writing a story that pushes the boundries of what would be healthy in a real relationship that`s alright. if you have another fetish not listed please feel free to use it as long as it does not deal with either child or animal abuse and you have a warning. please also note we reserve the right to remove anything without explanation

    The list note: in all cases these are extreme turn ons, instead of just things that one likes.

    A

    Ablutophilia - Baths or showers Acomoclitic - Hairless genitals (see gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia)  Acrophilia - High places Acrotomophilia - Amputee partner Acousticophilia - Aroused by sounds  Actirasty - Exposure to the sun’s rays Agalmatophilia/Pygmalionism - Statues/manikins or immobility  Agonophilia - Pseudo-rape, pretend struggle or wrestling play as a form of foreplay Agoraphilia - Sex in public places  Agrexophilia - Excitement from knowing that others are aware of a persons sexual activities  Algolagnia/Algalagnia - Love of pain Allorgasmia - Fantasizing about someone other than one’s partner  Allotriorasty - Partners of other nations or races  Alphmegamia - Older men Altocalciphilia - High heels (see retifism) Alvinolagnia - Stomachs (see partialism) Amaurophilia - Partner who is unable to see them during sex, blind/blindfolded sex partner  Anaclitism - Activities or items one was exposed to as an infant  Anasteemaphilia - Taller or shorter partners  Androidism - Robots with human features  Anophelorastia - Defiling or ravaging a partner  Antholagnia - Floral scent Aphephilia - Being touched Apotemnophilia - self-amputee Arachnephilia - Spiders  Asphyxiophilia - Self-strangulation Asthenolagnia - Weakness/being humiliated  Audiophilia - Recorded sound Autagonistophilia - Exposing naked body or genitals to strangers while on stage, while being photographed Autoassassinophilia - Staging one’s own murder Autonephioplia - Diapers

    B

    Belonephilia - Pins/needles/sharp objects Biastophilia - Violently raping their victims

    C

    Choreophilia - Dancing to orgasmic release  Chrematistophilia - Having to pay for sex or having a sex partner steal from them, being robbed Chrysophilia - Gold or gold colored objects (see timophilia) Claustrophilia - Being confined in a small space  Coprolalia - Using obscene language or writing  Coulrophilia - Clowns  Crurophilia - Legs  Crush fetishism - Seeing small creatures being crushed or being crushed

    D

    Dacryphilia - Seeing their partner cry  Dendrophilia - Trees or fertility worship of them  Doraphilia - Skin, animal fur, or leather (see hyphephilia) Dracophilia - Dragons and serpents  Dysmorphophilia - Deformed or physically impaired partners (see teratophilia)

    E

    Ecouteurism - Listening to others having sex without permission  Electrophilia - Electricity  Endytophilia - Partners who are clothed  Erotographomania - Writing love poems or letters Erotophonophilia - Lust murder Exhibitionism - Showing genitals in public

    F

    Fetishism - An inanimate object Fisting - pretty easy to figure out Formicophilia - Sex play with ants  Frotteurism - Rubbing one’s genitals against or fondling the body parts of a non-consenting person

    G

    Gerontophilia - Partner whose age is that of different generation  Gynelophilous - Sight/touch of pubic hair (see acomoclitic, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia)  Gymnophilia - Nudity  Gynemimetophilia - Male impersonating a female

    H

    Haematomania/Hematolagnia - Blood  Hamartophilia - Committing acts you consider to be sinful Haptephilia - Becoming extremely aroused by being touched Harmatophilia - Sexual incompetence/mistakes Harpaxophilia - Being robbed or burglarized (see chrematistophilia) Hierophilia - Sacred objects  Hirsutophilia - Armpit hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia)  Hodophilia - Traveling  Homilophilia - Hearing or giving sermons  Hybristophilia - People who have committed crimes, people who are cruel/outrageous  Hygrophilia - Body fluids or moisture  Hyphephilia - Touching skin, hair, leather, fur, or fabric/specific fabric (see acomoclitic, doraphilia,gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, pubephilia, trichophilia)  Hypoxyphilia - Sexual arousal from the limiting or withholding of oxygen

    K

    Kainotophilia - Change Kakorrhaphiphilia - Failure  Keraunophilia - Thunder and/or lightning Kinesophilia - Exercise  Kleptophilia - Stealing  Klismaphilia - Being given an enema  Knismolagnia - Being tickled Knissophilia - Incense Kopophilia - Exhaustion

    M

    Macrogenitalism - Large genitals  Macrophilia - Giants  Masochism - Being dominated/humiliated Mastigophilia - Punishment Megalophilia - Large objects Merinthophilia - Being bound Metophilia - Another person’s face Metrophilia - Poetry Mysophilia - Filth/foul odors/decaying material

    N

    Narratophilia - Discussing sex with others  Nasophilia - Noses/nose (see partialism) Neophilia - Anything new Normophilia - Acts considered normal by their religion/society  Nyctophilia - Darkness or night

    O

    Ochlophilia - Being in a crowd  Oculophilia - Eyes (see partialism) Oculolinctus - Licking their partner’s eyeball Odaxelagnia - Biting/being bitten  Odontophilia - Tooth extractions/tooth fetish  Ophidicism - Reptiles  Ozolagnia - Powerful scents

    P

    Parthenophilia - Sex with virgins Partialism - Specific parts of the body(see alvinolagnia, nasophilia, oculophilia, podophilia)  Pecattiphilia - Sinning/guilt Pediophilia - Dolls  Phallophilia - Large penis/large penis fetish  Phobophilia - Fear/hate  Phygephilia - Being a fugitive  Pictophilia - Inability to become aroused without pictorial pornography  Plushophilia - Stuffed toys  Podophilia - Feet (see partialism) Polyiterophilia - Sex with a series of partners  Psychrocism - Cold/ice  Pubephilia - Pubic hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, trichophilia)  Pygmalionis - Rubbing one’s body against a statue/statue/manikins Pygophilia - Contact with the buttocks  Pyrolagnia - Watching fire Pyrophilia - Fire or its uses in sex play

    R

    Retifism - Shoes (see altocalciphilia) Rhabdophilia - Being flagellated  Robotism - Robots in sex play

    S

    Sadism - Dominating/mistreating/humiliating one’s partner Salirophilia - Ingesting human sweat or saliva (fluids with a salt content)  Scatophilia - Obscene phone calls  Scopophilia - Being stared at oneself  Siderodromophilia - Trains  Sitophilia - Using food  Somnophilia - Fondling a stranger in their sleep  Spectrophilia - An image in an mirrors/sex with spirits  Stigmatophilia - Marking one’s own body/inserting foreign objects into it Symphorophilia - Arranging a crash/disaster/explosion

    T

    Tantalolagnia - Teasing  Taphephilia - Being buried alive  Teratophilia - Deformed or monstrous people (see dysmorphophilia) Thesauromania - Collecting women’s clothing  Thlipsosis - Pinching  Timophilia - Gold or wealth (see chrysophilia) Transformation fetish - Depictions of transformations of people into objects/other beings  Trichophilia - Hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia,)  Triolism - Three-party sex  Troilism - Couples Tripsolagnophilia - Massage

    U

    Urtication - Stinging nettles stimulating the skin

    V

    Vaccinophilia - Being vaccinated Vicarphilia - Hearing stories about other people’s lives  Vincilagnia - Being tied up Vorarephilia - Fantasies about being swallowed alive  Voyeurism - Watching others have sex

    X

    Xenophilia - Strangers

    Z

    Zelophilia - Jealousy  Zwischenstufe - Person of the same sex

    mindbrokensluts

    Trains? Giving sermons? Licking eyeballs? Does anyone actually have those fetishes?

    princesstingles

    TooDomForYou

    Tumblr won’t let me send an ask from this blog so I’ll just post and tag it. Also, I’m feeling kinda passionate and emotional about this so forgive me if I’m a little all over the place.

    I have a great many things to say about @toodomforyou.
    Some of you may remember many moons ago when there was a fake princesstingles blog dedicated to spreading vicious and slanderous lies about me. You may even remember the screenshots I posted where that blogger sent me threatening and hateful messages, first declaring themselves as my dom, then claiming to know where I live and threatening to come hurt me. What you probably don’t know is that tumblr refused my frantic requests that they remove and block this person from their site since he was obviously abusive, slanderous, and dangerous. They told me that they couldn’t prove the things he said about me weren’t true, therefore it wasn’t slander and he was allowed to remain. That was until TDFY got involved. All they did was reblog my plea for help and the link to the fake account. HUNDREDS of messages were sent to tumblr on my behalf and he was shut down.

    That is just ONE story. One small, insignificant thing that this wonderful blog has done to help someone. I’m sure there are many stories from people all over our community that have been positively touched in some way by the diligent work these bloggers do to out fakes and educate BDSM participants.

    That is why I am so disheartened to see the copious amounts of combative messages and outright hate that TDFY is receiving.

    These are real people running this blog. Let me repeat that: REAL PEOPLE RUN THIS BLOG. That means an actual human being with thoughts and feelings and emotions is forced to suffer through the absolute filth being thrown at them. And being the consummate professionals that they are, they address it respectfully and keep doing their best to help others. •You are throwing your shit at them and they are brushing it off and asking you if you’d like help wiping.•

    Being a presence on tumblr doesn’t mean that they owe you anything. If you don’t like what they post, run your own damn blog.

    I’m not saying that they are all perfect shining examples of doms and subs or that you should agree to everything they ever post without question. They’re human. Everyone has different opinions. And everyone has room to learn and to grow. But JFC can you please cut them a break. They are doing powerful good in our community and you are doing your very best to tear them down. (And fuck you very much for that by the way).

    “But Tingles, how could you expect us to be respectful to TDFY when the whole premise of their blog is them making fun of other Doms?” Well I guess that depends on one very important thing….are you one of the shitty “doms” being targeted? Because if you are, there’s definitely a valid reason. And even then, if you engage them in logical and meaningful discourse to defend your actions, they’ll gladly consider your point of view and use it as a learning experience for you both. And if you’re not one of those people, then why would you be offended by TDFY working so hard to protect others?

    I really don’t know what else to say here, because I honestly didn’t think this type of thing needed saying. But I’m over the hate and negativity so I felt compelled to speak up. That’s what the Little Army is about, defending others in our community and protecting those who need it. Even if they happen to be a massive blog that is more than capable of looking out for themselves.

    TL;DR: stop being so shitty to @toodomforyou

    Please and thank you PrincessTingles

    danipup

    I heart you so much, @princesstingles.  and i am so fucking sorry that that happened to you and you had to go through that.

    And I sit here reblogging this post from inside the home of one of the TDFY bloggers. You’re damn fucking right these are real people, and the person whose home I am in right now is not only a real person, but one of the most real, sincere, and genuinely caring people I’ve ever known in my entire life.

    Take a beat, haters, whoever you are that is trying to test TDFY this week.  I don’t know what the hell you’re trying to do, or prove, and I don’t really care, quite honestly.  

    But I know this:  you’re wrong.  

    Not for having an opinion, not those of you who might engage the blog with polite and considerate discourse, but if you don’t believe that TDFY is 100% about protection and defending this community, or more apt, defending those within it who are taken advantage of by people with nothing but ill intention, then I don’t fucking understand you. 

    And honestly, I don’t even want to.  

    Keep the fire burning, @toodomforyou.  You’re doing the good work. And I will support you to the ends of the earth.

    toodomforyou

    I ❤️you both so much. Thank for understanding that while we may be flawed, even deeply so, we are humans and we are doing the best we can to make this community that we love a safer and better place.

    -LMS

    gingah-ninjah

    Seriously tho Did everyone just conveniently forget that James Deen is a rapist or wtf…????

    the-ladythc

    Yeah I’m getting real tired of seeing his shit on my dash. Esp when people post his rape fantasy porn. And it’s always women I see reblogging it. Like “look at this rapist pretending to rape someone on camera,” fuck I don’t want to see that…

    mirahxox

    I HATE rape fantasy to begin with but like People I follow are working with him and I’m like ??????????? WHY???????? Why would you work with a promote a rapist?? Fuck that.

    the-ladythc

    Yeah it honestly blows my mind that he’s still doing porn. He should be ostracized from the porn community, what the hell…

    mirahxox

    I completely agree ESPECIALLY by other GodsGirls, I feel like.

    And I’ve seen a few people be like “but he’s so attractive” and I’m like …….and????

    juicy--kitty

    He also wasn’t stripped of his 33 nominations and was visiting the Adult Entertainment Expo where Stoya was supposed to host a panel on consent but she opted out on going (wonder why) so the consent panel was cancelled as well. It’s really disheartening that there hasn’t been enough repercussions for what he’s done, even though from mostly what I’ve read he can’t get a contract with any other company so he’s only really left to work with his company now so I guess there is that??????????? But he still won two awards out of the 33 and everyone is just okay with someone who’s been a predator on many content creators is still being allowed in the community and at expos.

    m--shea

    I’m honestly unsure if it’s the right thing to do, but my current mindset can be summed up as: he’s a terrible person, and he’s not getting a penny of my money, but why should I let the fact that he’s scum get in the way of otherwise great pornography? I just shift my focus and mentally blot his face out of the scene, as with any number of other distracting and distasteful details in pictures. 

    I don’t know, perhaps I’m just rationalizing.

    sirbind

    Training ideas for those new subs or you are new to the bdsm world, here are some positions for you to try. Credit: www.bitchslapped.co.uk

    m--shea

    sarpedom:

    My personal system:

    Unless ordered otherwise, the slave’s eyes are downcast at a 45 degree angle and her legs are shoulder width apart.  She never covers herself in any way even when allowed to relax.

    Endure, expose, and inspect are all referred to as “Display” position.  The slave is ordered to squat, kneel, or stand as necessary.  For example, a standing slave can be given the order “kneel, display”

    Wait and kneel are both the “Wait” position, again, with standing, sitting, and squatting given separately.  From “Wait”, the slave can be ordered to box her arms, which means grabbing triceps with opposite hands to either be cuffed or simply steered.

    The humble position is “Worship” for me.  I can order her to bring her elbows back for something like the punishment position.

    My rest position is similar, with eyes down and hands on the thighs, but is usually done standing or kneeling.

    This doesn’t show the “Present” command.  It’s similar in some ways to wall and rear, but feet are wider than shoulder width apart and she pulls her ass open to expose her holes.  She can do this from her knees, in which case she leans forward as far as possible, or standing.  ”Put your hands on the wall” can be added to this command.

    I also expect my girls to know “beg”, which is best done squatting but can be done from the knees.  THe slave sticks her arms down, hands dangling, and sticks out her tongue so she looks like a dog begging.

    Floor is not one I use often, but I think I might add it to my repertoire.  It would be useful to have her box her arms in this position.

    submissivefeminist

    I see so much about orgasm denial or 'training' subs to orgasm. Despite a life long love of sex and orgasms, I can't do this, and it makes me feel sort of 'broken'. It takes me at least 20 minutes to come, and once it's over, I go sort of 'numb' down there. A previous abusive Dom claimed he could 'train' me to come. I said my body didn't work that way but he insisted. Pressured, I faked a lot of them. Am I broken or is this normal? I hear so many subs talking about coming 'over and over again'.

    There is nothing wrong with you.

    Not everyone’s body is able to cum on command. Not everyone’s body is even able to cum! I think you see so much about these things because it’s really incredible for people to experience this because it’s so out of the ordinary to imagine that happening. It’s an incredible feeling, I’m not going to lie, but please do not feel like you’re inferior for not responding a certain way that you can’t even control.

    Cumming on command takes lots of training, trial and error, and psychological molding and it’s not even possible for all bodies. People with vaginas–especially those of us who have experienced trauma–are sometimes really, really difficult to get to cum.

    You are not broken.

    xx SF

    theruleset

    I finally told my husband that what I really wanted after all of our play so far was to lick his dress shoes and like he's up for it. Why am I telling you this? I have to tell somebody. I'm shaking with excitement. He is not the vanilla man he was four years ago. I've ruined him. He used to be so shy he wouldn't even video chat with me and now he's taking pictures of me covered in his come the transformation was unreal. A Dom once lied to me and said a vanilla man couldn't be a Dom.

    Happy you could bring him out of his sexual shell.

    Of course some dry-dick rando dom would say that. It’s what he tells himself to get the confidence he has to have. “I’m 100% legit kinkster, this girl needs me to get what she needs”. It’s manipulation: partly of you, partly of himself.

    People Like Us

    What does it say about me, what does it say about you, that we do the thing we do?

    What does it mean that I need you in a secret way, a way we never tell another soul? That I love to feel your hand on the back of my neck, that I bend at your word, that I go to bed, just on your say so, that I bring you the paddle when you tell me to?

    What does it do to me when you make me call you sir, when you turn me upside down and spank my bare cheeks, when you leave me red and sore and rubbing my bottom, and then I am so very much in love with you? Why do I struggle so hard against you when I know I will acquiesce? Why can’t I tell you that I want to?

    Why am I disappointed when you sigh and shake your head and then go back to what you were doing, and I am left wondering why you stopped? And I wonder if I frustrate you too much, and if you don’t want to spank me ever again. And something feels anxious and small inside me and I don’t know where to go or what to do until I hear your voice calling me to your side.

    And when you do spank me, lifting my nightgown, lowering my panties, making me feel like a little, little girl and terribly, terribly shy–and you do it so gleefully and evilly that all my doubts are gone?

    Why do I so willingly shed my power, my pose, my poise and my panties, just because you walked in the door? Why do I need it, why do I want it, why do I want more?

    Maybe it means I’m completely yours. You’re entirely mine. That the truth of us is different than the truth of us earlier, when we kept things hidden from each other, when I was afraid to let you be in charge. 

    Maybe it means nothing at all.

    Maybe it is just a thing that is. Like the north wind meeting the bared trees in winter, or dry logs catching fire at the strike of a match. Maybe it is nature and combustion and maybe it is like any man and any woman who meet without constraints, or words, or don’ts, or shouldn’ts, or we dare nots.

    Maybe it’s the slipping of a silk blouse off a woman’s shoulder and the man’s firm hand pulling her close to him and it’s the hardness of the man she feels when he does and it’s the softness of her that makes him bend his head to her neck and lift her hair and kiss below her ear while she drops her head back and moves her hands across his back and wants without words but he knows what she needs–

    Maybe it’s just us. 

    And people like us.

    What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive

  • I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have
  • I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue
  • I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want
  • I will not tolerate slut-shaming
  • I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)
  • I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers
  • I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness
  • I think understanding of sexual consent–what it is, why it matters–is sorely lacking in society and crucially important
  • I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else
  • I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)
  • What I Don’t Mean

  • Everyone should have sex
  • Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex
  • Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail
  • Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone
  • Feminism should be all about sex
  • Sex fixes everything
  • pervertsofcolor

    How to find a kinky partner.

    Step one: Find out what you like in terms of kink. What are your interests and limits? It’s harder to find a partner when you don’t even know what you want.

    Step two: Meet lots of people. Not just ones you wanna fuck. Having kinky friends is really helpful. Being kinky will drastically lower your dating pool so it will take some searching. Be patient. Having awesome kinky friends makes you feel less lonely. Fact: Kinky friends help get kinky friends laid.

    Step three: Be verbal, clear and express what you want to people who are interested in you. Set up ground rules and boundaries. Ask them open ended questions to understand their limits. Some don’t know the buzz words to say but will open up in conversation if prompted.

    Step four: Think beyond your genitals. Just because they are sexy or popular doesn’t mean you should automatically trust them. Get to know them before making long term relationship decisions (insta-collars, ie: this is my Master and we met last week).

    Step five: Repeat steps one thru four a million times until you lose hope and decide to die buried in cats.

    Step six: On the journey to gather your horde of cats, meet a intriguing stranger and have a mind-blowing kinky good time because you never know when magic is gonna happen.

    sillysexystupid-deactivated2020

    It makes me really sad and uncomfortable to realize that there are people on here who are genuinely ignorant and dysfunctional and that actually believe themselves to be superior to women. I could post a disclaimer, wash my hands of people who cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality, and dismiss any effect I or my blog may have on their skewed beliefs, but it doesn’t feel that simple.

    Running this blog, posting some of the things I post - it would be easy for anyone to perceive my fantasy as my reality. Whatever they take away from my blog, I do not want it to justify their distorted views on things. I do not want to validate their assumed position of superiority.

    I don’t know. I’m really disenchanted with all of this tonight.

    brentsirnah

    I think I loose some followers for doing this but I feel like I have an obligation to bring up the issue periodically, even if it is a buzzkill and even if there are women who don’t follow me cause this makes me a “fake” dom. The truth is that it is just too important to relegate it to some tiny forgotten disclaimer somewhere in the FAQs.

    Nobody deserves abuse! that means NOBODY. If it is an exciting sexual fantasy then feel no shame in seeking it out. But no one should be degraded because the deserve it, only if the want it.

    And by the way guys. To tops of all genders and orientation: Can you not see how fucking LUCKY we are that there are subs with the bravery and honesty to seek out the things that it gives us pleasure to provide? To say that you are just showing them the way the world works is both erroneous AND arrogantly dismissive of something that we are lucky to receive. Never forget to notice your good fortune.

    We now return you to your regularly scheduled debauchery.