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__The newest piece of my writing was posted on: 02/14/2014 __Those of you who are TOO YOUNG to legally be here (typically set at 18) NEED TO LEAVE NOW. You should be using porn that won't get people into trouble. __Cisgender heterosexual midtwenties male in a long-term relationship. My s and I may be looking for a pet/toy some time in the future. We've recently started sending out tentative feelers; feel free to message me with any relevant questions or info. __None of the pictures here are mine, though some were injected into Tumblr by me. All models assumed to be 18 or older. If you see yours on here, want it down, and can show that it is yours, then I will do so immediately. __I guess that I will be continuing this after all. My first steps will be reblogging what I have saved--if you have a request for what kind of pics I do next, feel free to Ask. Slight update: So I got sucked into the Tumblr vortex and haven't reblogged many of my bookmarks, though I've posted some later. The offer to request something with the kind of pic posted is still open.

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    leatherlacedbass

    I'm sorry to bother you. This is probably dumb, but do you have any advice on how to handle sub drop when I haven't done well enough to deserve aftercare? I want to try and be better for Mistress :(

    *****waves red flag around****

     The only thing dumb about this is your Mistress, and the fact you think you don’t deserve aftercare/don’t get proper after-scene care in general. NOT OK. 

    *****waves red flag around****

     I don’t care if you “perform poorly” or end a scene or whatever in your book/their book is considered “ not performing well enough” YOU DESERVE AFTER CARE especially  if something wasn’t 100% flowing thru a scene. Like i feel like if its 100% great you should def have aftercare! or 50% great n 50% shitty and rocky and rough/ not vibeing well with each other today/this scene or what have you i feel like  you should have it even more because feeling like you let down your Dom/Domme/ Owner/ Daddy/Mommy/ etc can be the freaking worst. Like forget all the good feels in the good parts of the scene/play time the thought of disappointment is lot of what us subs focus on and that can be really hard if you’re not reassured you still did well, your best, and that your limits or needs are ok and that stopping a scene or w/e is fully in your control and you should not be made to feel bad for it. OR whatever happened/happens to cause this for you or anyone else. 

     YOU ALWAYS DESERVE AFTER CARE IF YOU WANT IT. I know some don’t care for it, THAT iS THE subs CHOICE. DOMS/DOMMES etc DON’T GET TO SAY “YOU DIDNT PERFORM TO MY STANDARDS NO AFTERCARE AWARD FOR YOU!”

     *****waves red flag around****

    Repeat after me: Aftercare is not a reward it a must. Communication cannot be used as a punishment, either. ie: ignoring you as a punishment/breaking communication/silence as punishment, communication is a tool, a key, not a dom/domme etc control over another—–> same thing aftercare is not a reward its a must, the final scene of your scene. you don’t get to dangle aftercare like a carrot for a bunny to jump thru every hoop properly.  That’s not how this world works. Things go hand in hand. There’s a seemingly large disconnect in the properly functioning domme party of your mistress’ brain, she needs to be made aware of your needs and concerns. if they continue to be lacking in the proper depts. pack you cuffs and gtfo. 

     *****waves red flag around****

    please come talk if you ever have more concerns. 

    enscenic

    What the actual fuck?

    USING AFTERCARE OR LACK THEREOF AS A REWARD/PUNISHMENT IS NOT OKAY.

    ubertea

    Aftercare is extremely important, even with hypnosis. The lack of it is a huge red flag!!

    arihi

    Another post on aftercare with some very informational insights.

    esuccubus

    Seconded. Aftercare, even if it can’t go above brief checking-in and some reassurances, is an essential session outprocessing tool, not a reward. This is actually a form of abuse, and I’d be afraid to know what “doing well enough” entails.

    hypnocuck

    Is everyone clear on this now?

    a-llira-day-e

    You probably have been asked this before, but anyways. Does edging and orgasm denial really increase obedience and turns you in a horny mess?

    I think it’s undeniably, irrefutably evident that I’m a horny mess. So that answers the latter half of your question.

    As to whether I’m more obedient - it’s not my place to say. I hope and would like to believe that yes, I’m more obedient when I’m denied. Because I’m denied now and to say that I’m not would be to say that I’m not more obedient now. And the goal is, really, even as I fail and flounder and regroup and resolutely try again, to be more obedient, more pleasing. Through whatever impossibly torturous and unbearable route he might choose to get me there.

    If I were braver, I would ask him directly. Please, am I more obedient now? Are you pleased with me please? Because I relentlessly, desperately seek his approval. What am I without it?

    I’m not very brave though: what if the answer is no. Hes… difficult to please. And he’s said to me a few times that this - what we have - is training. “The reinforcement will never be equal. And you have a singular talent for forgetting the positive and dwelling on the negative.” Yes, I do dwell on the angst. That’s an inseparable part of me. I’m more apt to remember the disapproval and feel overwhelmed by it, but it’s also true that there is more of that than explicit praise. So it’s hard for me to definitively say that he does find me more obedient, see.

    What I do know, because he told me so, is that I’m less obedient after he lets me cum.

    “I wish we did the denial thing where you let me cum once a week,” I sighed.

    “Indeed.”

    “Can we do that? What if it’s even better, and you just don’t know it because we haven’t tried it.”

    “But we have. Every time you cum, you get bratty and demanding. I wouldn’t want to deal with that on a constant basis. You get insolent and combative when you’re allowed to cum.”

    I want to cum, god I do, I want to cum so much that my body and mind cannot contain it. But I want more to be pleasing to him. And I’m torn and sad and wish desperately that I were better, that I could be good enough to get both.

    But since he says I’m not, since he’s determined that I’m not capable of both… I steel myself and swallow the ache and thank him for not letting me cum and for being firm and strict with me. For helping me be good. For pitying me. For training me. For denying me.

    submissivefeminist

    I see so much about orgasm denial or 'training' subs to orgasm. Despite a life long love of sex and orgasms, I can't do this, and it makes me feel sort of 'broken'. It takes me at least 20 minutes to come, and once it's over, I go sort of 'numb' down there. A previous abusive Dom claimed he could 'train' me to come. I said my body didn't work that way but he insisted. Pressured, I faked a lot of them. Am I broken or is this normal? I hear so many subs talking about coming 'over and over again'.

    There is nothing wrong with you.

    Not everyone’s body is able to cum on command. Not everyone’s body is even able to cum! I think you see so much about these things because it’s really incredible for people to experience this because it’s so out of the ordinary to imagine that happening. It’s an incredible feeling, I’m not going to lie, but please do not feel like you’re inferior for not responding a certain way that you can’t even control.

    Cumming on command takes lots of training, trial and error, and psychological molding and it’s not even possible for all bodies. People with vaginas–especially those of us who have experienced trauma–are sometimes really, really difficult to get to cum.

    You are not broken.

    xx SF

    theruleset

    I finally told my husband that what I really wanted after all of our play so far was to lick his dress shoes and like he's up for it. Why am I telling you this? I have to tell somebody. I'm shaking with excitement. He is not the vanilla man he was four years ago. I've ruined him. He used to be so shy he wouldn't even video chat with me and now he's taking pictures of me covered in his come the transformation was unreal. A Dom once lied to me and said a vanilla man couldn't be a Dom.

    Happy you could bring him out of his sexual shell.

    Of course some dry-dick rando dom would say that. It’s what he tells himself to get the confidence he has to have. “I’m 100% legit kinkster, this girl needs me to get what she needs”. It’s manipulation: partly of you, partly of himself.

    “If a monogamous relationship breaks up, people never consider monogamy to be ‘the problem’, or take it as proof that monogamy doesn’t work. But they do with polyamory.”

    —     

    Anne Hunter - The joy of polyamory

    (viaamaranthianightingale)

    True!!!!

    (via themilehighbrat)

    You’d think that they would know better, considering how incredibly often monogamous relationships crash and burn.

    chattelprod

    Daddy only let her out of her chastity belt when she was sucking his cock, when she did, she was to straddle his boot with her cunt, and rub her clit on it, for as long as she was pleasing him. After she swallowed all of Daddy’s cum, she knew immediately to lick off the mess she made on his shoes, then put her face on the ground, ass in the air, and wait for the chastity belt and gag to be locked back on, and put back into her cage. 

    romanticalice

    I’m supposed to say why each post I reblog excites me, why I’m turned on by that particular image or that caption and this one is probably the hardest one I’ve done so far because it is so much more degrading than a spanking or a threesome. And admitting that that’s why I like it is… liberating and scary as hell. 

    The image itself with her next to naked while he is clothed. His hands on her head: are they pushing her down there or just stroking her head in acknowledgment that she is doing a good job at exactly what she is supposed to be doing? And the boot licking. How low do you have to be to lick someone else’s shoe? To get turned on by it? I want to find out. 

    The caption. I like that she’s not worthy of getting pleasure at his hand or his mouth or his cock, but rather has to rub herself against his shoe to experience any and even then she doesn’t deserve an orgasm. She puts herself to use (at the only thing she is good at) making sure he cums because he wants to and it is her job to be of use whenever he wants.

    Chastity belts terrify me and arouse me so much because it really puts all the control of her cunt, and thus her orgasms, in the hands of somebody else. This idea of having no control, of turning it over to someone else, of sacrificing orgasms, is something I know we will eventually try. And a cage; we will have to try a cage one day. 

    chattelprod

    Any pleasure a sub experiences should be humiliating; it’s also not that she doesn’t necessarily deserve an orgasm, but her pathetic state is more satisfying than her defiant state when she achieves one. I strongly recommend periods of orgasm denial whenever possible, it really gets the ‘subby’ senses firing. I enjoyed reading your take on the caption too; it makes me feel very appreciated. Good luck on your exploration!  

    devotionaltraining

    Devotional Training: What’s Your Take?

    What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive

  • I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have
  • I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue
  • I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want
  • I will not tolerate slut-shaming
  • I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)
  • I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers
  • I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness
  • I think understanding of sexual consent–what it is, why it matters–is sorely lacking in society and crucially important
  • I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else
  • I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)
  • What I Don’t Mean

  • Everyone should have sex
  • Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex
  • Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail
  • Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone
  • Feminism should be all about sex
  • Sex fixes everything
  • pervertsofcolor

    How to find a kinky partner.

    Step one: Find out what you like in terms of kink. What are your interests and limits? It’s harder to find a partner when you don’t even know what you want.

    Step two: Meet lots of people. Not just ones you wanna fuck. Having kinky friends is really helpful. Being kinky will drastically lower your dating pool so it will take some searching. Be patient. Having awesome kinky friends makes you feel less lonely. Fact: Kinky friends help get kinky friends laid.

    Step three: Be verbal, clear and express what you want to people who are interested in you. Set up ground rules and boundaries. Ask them open ended questions to understand their limits. Some don’t know the buzz words to say but will open up in conversation if prompted.

    Step four: Think beyond your genitals. Just because they are sexy or popular doesn’t mean you should automatically trust them. Get to know them before making long term relationship decisions (insta-collars, ie: this is my Master and we met last week).

    Step five: Repeat steps one thru four a million times until you lose hope and decide to die buried in cats.

    Step six: On the journey to gather your horde of cats, meet a intriguing stranger and have a mind-blowing kinky good time because you never know when magic is gonna happen.

    jessalinda

    We tried out a ping pong paddle this weekend. Stingy little bastard. He went easy on me since it’s a new toy but it still made me squirm.

    akredbeard

    You need to go and find a cupcake spatula! To spank with!! Works great! !!! And only 6.99

    jessalinda

    Thanks! I’ll go check that out.