Go Forth and Educate Yourselves!
I’d also highly recommend watching the Jane Elliot Brown-eye/Blue-eye experiments, which can be found here:
After only six weeks, Janet was the model of submission. She knew she would never live the life of a normal wife; Jack was insistent she learn how to be a good submissive. So each morning she kneeled patiently as he finished the paper, hoping he wouldn’t lock her away for the day while he was gone.
Seriously tho Did everyone just conveniently forget that James Deen is a rapist or wtf…????
Yeah I’m getting real tired of seeing his shit on my dash. Esp when people post his rape fantasy porn. And it’s always women I see reblogging it. Like “look at this rapist pretending to rape someone on camera,” fuck I don’t want to see that…
I HATE rape fantasy to begin with but like People I follow are working with him and I’m like ??????????? WHY???????? Why would you work with a promote a rapist?? Fuck that.
Yeah it honestly blows my mind that he’s still doing porn. He should be ostracized from the porn community, what the hell…
I completely agree ESPECIALLY by other GodsGirls, I feel like.
And I’ve seen a few people be like “but he’s so attractive” and I’m like …….and????
He also wasn’t stripped of his 33 nominations and was visiting the Adult Entertainment Expo where Stoya was supposed to host a panel on consent but she opted out on going (wonder why) so the consent panel was cancelled as well. It’s really disheartening that there hasn’t been enough repercussions for what he’s done, even though from mostly what I’ve read he can’t get a contract with any other company so he’s only really left to work with his company now so I guess there is that??????????? But he still won two awards out of the 33 and everyone is just okay with someone who’s been a predator on many content creators is still being allowed in the community and at expos.
I’m honestly unsure if it’s the right thing to do, but my current mindset can be summed up as: he’s a terrible person, and he’s not getting a penny of my money, but why should I let the fact that he’s scum get in the way of otherwise great pornography? I just shift my focus and mentally blot his face out of the scene, as with any number of other distracting and distasteful details in pictures.
I don’t know, perhaps I’m just rationalizing.
Well first of all you should be paying for all of your pornography so this doesn’t really work at all? Secondly, I don’t know how you rationalize porn as “great” if it involves a rapist.
@juicy--kitty: Fair enough.
@mirahxox: I suppose that I should have clarified. I do not go out and pirate pornography--all of the porn that I was referring to is on Tumblr. I’m having trouble finding a phrasing that doesn’t sound defensive or pissy, but generally speaking, people do not pay for porn that is posted on Tumblr (unless you want content behind paywalls, commissioned stuff, etc.) so if I reblog posts that have him in it, it does not feed him money. Do you object to all of the free pornography posted on Tumblr? As for your second point, I said “otherwise great,” as in, “I’m quite enjoying the picture until I notice his face.” Again, I’m having trouble with non-aggressive phrasing, but I was pretty explicitly saying that the pornography is great except for his presence. (Also, I’m human. We can--and do--rationalize all sorts of crazy and stupid ideas. Just look at America’s current political clusterfuck. That doesn’t make it okay, hence my uncertainty above, but it does make it more understandable.)
So, the other day I met one of Sir’s partners on Skype. The two of them had recently been out with each other and I had gotten really anxious in the middle and broke down and called him up. I wasn’t proud of it, but I just get scared.
Basically, she meets a lot of the stuff that I really can’t for Sir. And so my head runs through all these crazy possibilities like, “oh my gosh he’s going to realize that she’s better at this and that and he’s going to be done with me.” I recognize I’ve got a serious fear of abandonment, which naturally goes just peachy with ethical non-monogamy.
But, when Sir and I sat down to talk, I wound up just getting really shy. I was a little embarrassed about having placed the call the other day while they were together and I’m just generally a kind of shy person. So, I kept hiding my face and getting nervous.
For the most part, I was a nervous, shy mess. But, we all kind of flirted a little and, gosh, I don’t know. I think I’d be down for doing something as the three of us. I just need to sort out some of my anxieties and remember that in the same way none of my partners will “replace” any other, the same holds true for Sir.
It’s kind of alarming that even in the face of the logic of my own non-monogamy, I can’t shake that feeling of inadequacy or precariousness in my primary relationship.
Mind if I join you?
“Are you finished in the shower, slave?”
“Yes, Master. slave was about to switch it off.”
“No you’re not, slave. you might be clean, but I’m not. Step back in and get to work. you know what to do.”
“Yes, Master. slave obeys.”
Thought I’d publish this now, rather than in April, which is where my queue will currently end. :-)