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2020-01-29 04:34:35

    Boys, protect girls. Call people out when they make offensive jokes. Stand up to those who treat girls like objects. Walk a girl home if she feels unsafe. Listen to them and be considerate of their feelings. Destroy that myth that women are inferior.

    Girls, protect boys. Call people out when they make fun of a boy for showing emotion. Stand up to those who tell boys to ‘man up.’ Support boys who enjoy feminine things. Destroy the myth that men can’t be victims and that women can’t be predators.

    Boys, protect boys. Protect your bros from violent relationships. Comfort your bros when they need somebody. Stand up for your bros who are ridiculed for not wanting/liking sex. Destroy the myth that two men can’t be close without it being “gay.”

    Girls, protect girls. Defend sisters who enjoy having sex. Stand up to those who define sisters for what they wear. Don’t judge your sister’s worth from how many boyfriend’s she’s had. Destroy the myth that girls have to constantly compete with each other.

    Protect everyone from the patriarchy. 




    Fucking important. Idc.


    she literally tried to deal drugs to the cops I just.. fucken.. WHAT 


    He didn’t arrest her he warned her it was illegal….. Warned !!!!!!! Wtfffffffffffffffffff


    I’m not at all denying that white privilege exists, but I can’t help but wonder how much of this was because she’s an attractive woman, rather than her race. 


    To donate £5 to the charity supporting the male victims of domestic abuse, text the message: MKDV46 to 70070

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    At first I though this was a joke


    Don’t ignore this Tumblr


    Yet they still do even when it’s right in their face.




    When she’s shy: ‘She’s too shy bruh. It can be annoying sometimes. I like a confident girl’

    When she’s confident: ‘This girl needs to learn to keep shut. It’s not everything you feel that you say’

    When she’s very private with her body: ‘Fuckin prude’

    When she’s body confident: ‘Hoe’

    When she’s super supportive: ‘Bitch is too clingy’

    When she doesn’t show her emotions: ‘She’s like a man’

    When she shows her emotions: ‘She’s like a child’

    When she doesn’t show affection: ‘I’m a guy but we need more than sex too’

    When she loves you too much: ‘I like the chase. It’s too easy with her’

    -Data Pepple


    Ooooh. I don’t even like tea *sips* but this cup alright here *sips*


    Pour me some doeee 👏🏽






    You know what this tells me? This tell me that men now have another “excuse” to rape women. “Oh, well it’s not like I got her pregnant! My switch was turned off!!” or, “But officer, who care if she was underage? My switch was off so there’s no way she could get pregnant?” Or even, “Babe so what if I slept with Jenny next door? You know I only love YOU because I’d never turn my sperm on for HER!!” Also with that second one it fulfills the pleasures of creepy old men who sexually abuse small children… this is disgusting. Please disown ANYONE who would invests in this.


    I truly have no idea why any woman would be against men getting birth control

    I HATE hormonal birth control.. HATE it. It messed my body up so badly

    This is a godsend


    The original article is from Inquisitr, which--unless I seriously misremember--does not have any credibility. 

    It’s pointed out that it takes up to 3 months or 30 ejaculations to clear all of your sperm, and that it’s recommended to check with a doctor after a month, so it’s definitely not a ‘heat of the moment’ invention. 

    Snopes says that it’s a real thing, but points out that it hasn’t even begun human testing (besides the inventor, apparently) so it’s a long way from completion.

    Personally, the biggest social impact I could see it having is furthering the spread of VDs, by people who think that contraception is purely for baby-prevention. 

    This would be the abbreviated version, after my computer ate the longer one 😑 


    It makes me really sad and uncomfortable to realize that there are people on here who are genuinely ignorant and dysfunctional and that actually believe themselves to be superior to women. I could post a disclaimer, wash my hands of people who cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality, and dismiss any effect I or my blog may have on their skewed beliefs, but it doesn’t feel that simple.

    Running this blog, posting some of the things I post - it would be easy for anyone to perceive my fantasy as my reality. Whatever they take away from my blog, I do not want it to justify their distorted views on things. I do not want to validate their assumed position of superiority.

    I don’t know. I’m really disenchanted with all of this tonight.


    I think I loose some followers for doing this but I feel like I have an obligation to bring up the issue periodically, even if it is a buzzkill and even if there are women who don’t follow me cause this makes me a “fake” dom. The truth is that it is just too important to relegate it to some tiny forgotten disclaimer somewhere in the FAQs.

    Nobody deserves abuse! that means NOBODY. If it is an exciting sexual fantasy then feel no shame in seeking it out. But no one should be degraded because the deserve it, only if the want it.

    And by the way guys. To tops of all genders and orientation: Can you not see how fucking LUCKY we are that there are subs with the bravery and honesty to seek out the things that it gives us pleasure to provide? To say that you are just showing them the way the world works is both erroneous AND arrogantly dismissive of something that we are lucky to receive. Never forget to notice your good fortune.

    We now return you to your regularly scheduled debauchery.


    Star Wars is not here for your armor misconceptions. In a response that’s getting some digital ink, the official Star Wars page’s reply to a clueless comment on Phasma’s armor. Just say no to actually dangerous boob-plates!


    I love this.


    It’s a shame that the character didn’t live up to this.


    I wonder how feminists will react to this

    Probably ignore it then go back to making male tears mugs and gifs 


    Actually this is a very common idea among feminists

    It’s something feminists have been talking about for years it’s called toxic masculinity and it’s one of the common threads among the topic of ‘Patriarchy hurts men too’. If fact the first time I read about toxic masculinity was on a feminist blog.

    If you actually read things feminists talk about instead of straw manning them you might know this but OH WELL


    Please don’t compare me to James Deen anymore

    The sick thing was, I was about to make a new post last night. The gif featured James Deen. Then I read Stoya’s tweet and felt sick to my stomach. I couldn’t make any posts last night after reading that. It might take a while to write any posts at all, honestly. I want to go through and delete every post that I’ve made with Deen in it …and that would be a lot of posts. 

    And the other thing that made me sick last night? I saw a lot of rape fetishization on my dash. I saw guys use the word rape as an adjective for sex, writing horrid captions under their gifs. I saw tons of reblogs for those captions. I saw women speak affectionately for that kind of language being used, wishing it was being done to them.

    I don’t care of it’s fantasy talk or not. Don’t fetishize rape. Don’t wish that on yourself and don’t talk about doing it to others. Don’t normalize it. Don’t sexualize it. It’s unnecessary. Use your imagination. Use other words to describe rough sex. In the very least, make sure to indicate that you’re writing a scene speaking to a particular fetish – consensual non-consent. Because otherwise you are a terrible, horrid human being that supports one of the worst crimes that can be committed. If I see it, I’ll report you, drop you and call you out for being an asshole. There aren’t any excuses for this. Say whatever you want – if you are actively participating in this kind of behavior, you’re normalizing and sexualizing one of the worst things you could possibly do to someone, which pretty much makes you the worst type of human garbage imaginable. Stop.


    I appreciate that you are speaking up for what you believe is an important cause. Most of this post I agree with.

    However, as a victim of sexual assault, I choose to participate in rape-roleplay within the confines of my relationships to help me cope with what happened to me. I will do whatever it takes (as long as it isn’t at the expense of others, obviously) to come to terms with what multiple people have done to me. It isn’t your place, any man’s place, or any woman’s place to tell me how to cope with that trauma. I will not stop and I am most certainly not human garbage because of how I choose to handle the emotional scars I’ve been left with as a result of multiple sexual assaults. 

    Except for one person, the people who have assaulted me have been men. There isn’t a fucking chance in hell I would take advice from another man about how I’m handling my body and my sexuality in an inappropriate manner. 

    It isn’t your business what I or any other woman do with their body, during sex, or within their sexual relationships. You don’t get to tell us we aren’t using our bodies in a way you do not approve of. Our bodies are not for you to approve of. The sexual activities we choose to engage in or not to engage in are not for you to approve of. It matters not one bit whether you like it. A lot of people might think that sounds harsh, but that’s because women aren’t supposed to be forthright with men. We’re supposed to just nod or tell them what they want to hear. The fact of the matter is, how other people fuck is none of your business so long as it isn’t hurting other people. None. Of. Your. Business.

    How about you speak up about men raping and the silent approval rapists get when other men laugh at rape jokes or make objectifying comments about women without their consent? How about you spend more fucking energy not dictating how women should be having sex and instead make this about what men need to be doing to improve the current rape culture climate? Maybe take a few moments to talk about the sanctity of safe words and consent directed at the men in the lifestyle who seem to have a difficult time grasping those concepts? How about you not make sweeping generalizations about what is morally acceptable and unacceptable about something you don’t seem to be all that educated on? Morality is not always universal. 

    You’ve not lived my life. You were not present in my body and mind and heart during those sexual assaults, therefore, you do not get to tell how to cope.


    Morality may not be universal, but we can all agree that rape is wrong, yes? And that our society does not do enough to prevent rape from happening, prevent it from being normalized. Right? And that spreading the concept of rape as normal in a public form like Tumblr is something that needs to be dealt with carefully. If not, it goes beyond sexualizing rape and normalizes it to an unhealthy degree.  I’m sorry you felt that my response was critical of you and your sexuality, but please note that I did not condemn rape roleplay in the slightest in my post, nor was I dictating how you or any woman should express your sexuality or deal with your abuse. In the very least, that was not my intention.  What I was attempting to do was call attention to the gross amount of sexualization concerning rape on Tumblr, a majority of which comes from men and a majority of which I’ve seen is bent strictly towards male rape fantasies.  If you’re roleplaying rape, you’re not sexualizing it in the same way as these posts I’m talking about. The posts are undoubtedly making light of real rape, sexualizing real rape. Maybe that wasn’t clear because I failed to provide specific examples (I don’t wish to provide these posts with any traffic). But as I said before, indicating that the intent of these posts is roleplaying is the very least one can do because it makes a clear distinction between fantasy and reality. I don’t believe that’s too much to ask and I don’t believe that’s me, as a male, dictating your sexuality. If the only way you can get off is to spread the belief that the sexualization of rape is a normal, positive thing? Too bad. It’s wrong, it’s gross and I have no sympathy for you. That’s not what you’re talking about, though. You’re talking about sexualizing the roleplay and power dynamics that come with consensual non-consent. All I’m saying is that for that sexualization to be a healthy one in the confines of a public forum like Tumblr, that distinction needs to be very, very clear. 


    MWH has spoken about many of the things the commenter mentioned before on his blog quite a bit, and he always makes an effort to help people who have suffered rape or sexual assault and to help people identify and avoid it when it seems apparent but not for certain. Given the circumstances though, I understand why the commenter would respond the way she did. She’s right; no one has the right to dictate what she does in her bedroom as long as it’s legal and consensual. And he’s right; the existence of consensual non consent has made an even larger grey area in the topic of rape and sexual assault for some, while showing others the nuances of that distinction, and it does need to be clarified for those who are confused or who are wrongfully taking advantage of that grey area.

    All of that said, the news about James Deen shook a lot of people. It triggered a fear in me that I didn’t expect. James Deen is a professional in an industry where consent is key. It always is, but when your work consists of having sex with people, it’s that much more important that you explicitly understand and respect it. Stoya was previously raped and was actually forced into sex work, which I’m sure he knew. They were in a romantic relationship together and she trusted him with more than just her body. And he betrayed that and knowingly took advantage of her. There are no excuses to be made here for him. He is disgusting and cruel and heartless and a criminal.

    And yet, a lot of people are saying she deserved it, or calling her a liar, or bringing up the fact that she’s a porn star as if that means constant and implicit consent. So I’m glad MWH decided to make this post because some people clearly don’t understand what rape is and what rape does. He’s also the only one of the 20-30 porn bloggers I follow, some of whom enjoy consensual non consent, who took the time to address this. I appreciate that.