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Nic Buxom!
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2014-09-11 22:51:06

    Just some unedited photos of what I do at work all day! You can clearly tell me apart from the other girls, I'm the palest, furriest and most round-reared one! ;P

    anonymous

    This from the girl who gets pissy and offended when people assume she's a prostitute.

    I knew the Offended Bus was going to roll on through here but I’ll admit I’m shocked to see you’re the only passenger on it! Maybe the rest are just late for the ride. I’m certain this response will be taken as a free ticket to climb aboard. So, all aboard, let’s talk until we’re all ready to pull our panties out of our cracks!(Mine always manages to ride back up in there. ;P)Anyway, addressing your comment. I really wish I knew directly what you were referencing here so I could give you a more in-depth discourse on your statement and concerns. But I’ll do my best with what I’ve got. :)I’m assuming that at some point I let out a snarl about being confused for a prostitute. I am not a prostitute. I have a long-term monogomous partner, we have had a few threesomes together in the past but otherwise we don’t sleep with anyone else, for money or otherwise.I do work in the sex industry. Dominatrices (I always struggle with the plural of that,) strippers, camgirls and other professions are considered to be a part of “the sex industry” even though in most cases these workers are not having sex with clients. I’m not a stripper, I’m not a porn-star, I’m not a prostitute. But we all work in the sex industry and so I definitely feel we deal with alot of the same backlash and misconceptions, from both our clientele AND the public.Hopefully I have cleared a few personal misconceptions right here and now but if you or anyone else has more questions about the details of my job I am happy to expound upon it! :)Now, on to my assumed reaction to being confused for a prostitute.If I have ever reacted badly to being confused for a prostitute (And I’m certain I have) it is because I deal with these misconceptions Every. Single. Day. And, admittedly, it gets tiresome!!! As would ANY daily misconceptions.If people asked me every single day of my life if I was Norwegian (which, in the interest of being clear, I am not) I’m pretty sure I’d have days where I’d scream, “I’M NOT FUCKING NORWEGIAN, OKAY?! FUCK! GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD! I’VE NEVER EVEN BEEN TO NORWAY! I DON’T EVEN KNOW ANY NORWEGIANS! WHY DOES EVERYONE ALWAYS THINK I’m A FUCKING NORWEGIAN!!!!!??!?! GAAAAHHHH!!!”This doesn’t mean I hate people from Norway. It’s an emotional reaction to constantly having to defend against an unfounded misconception. And, as anyone who follows me may have noticed, part of my whole public internet-y deal is that I like to clear up misconceptions about my profession. :)I am not a prostitute and I am not interested in taking up prostitution.But I still believe, as I hope everyone does, that prostitutes are PEOPLE and they deserve respect and rights just like everyone else. And I’m willing to speak out about it and fight for them. Because if I can decide I want to step on guys balls for money every day then they get to decide if they want to put their mouths on those balls for money. Or not. Maybe they’re not into that. And that’s their choice! It’s our body, it’s our business.

    But I also must speak out on behalf of fellow sex workers because the dehumanization of the people in this industry is very, very alarming… There are endless horrifying atrocities committed against women in the sex industry all around the world. Murder, torture, rape, disfigurement and more. And the public perpetuates these horrible things by turning sex work titles into slurs. By telling women that any display of their sexuality or body makes them worthless. Whore. Slut. Hooker. Prostitute. Women AND men are unconsciously taught from a young age to view women within the Madonna Complex; We are virgins…. or we are whores. Debased, inhuman, worthless and disposable. How sickening that we’ve reduced human beings to that, human beings with mothers, brothers, sisters, daughters, friends, lovers and sweet little old grannies. Society tells us the whore is not human. And I NEED to fight against that. I need us to see one another as human, no matter what our differing opinions. (And I don’t mean to just address the female sex workers, this goes for ANY sex workers!)So, hopefully that’s a satisfying answer for you! I’m always open to answer more questions, statements, confusion or whatever for you all. And you don’t have to hide behind anonymous to do it. :) I attach my name and face to my statements, feel free to do so with yours! I swear I won’t stalk you!!! And, if you’re worried about backlash, maybe that’s just a reason to think a little harder about what you’re about to put out into the world. I put myself out there. I make mistakes. I offend. And I answer for it. Do my answers satisfy everyone? No. But then, I’m not in the business of satisfying people for free. ;P (Haha, sexworker joke.)I’d like to think it’s a good example to set for everyone and I encourage you to not use the anonymity of the internet as a shield to lash out. Take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, opinions and words, even if not everyone agrees with you.Love me, hate me, leave me, but here I stand! Ask away!

    (And probably expect to be inflamed. I’m a natural at that!) ;P

    (EDIT to say holy shit I'm sorry this got so long. I have so much to say!!!)

    An open letter to Sinead.

    Sinead O'Conner, I have previously admired you. And while jumping on the bandwagon of shaming Miley Cyrus and cloaking it under the guise of "motherly concern" may be the hip and exciting new way to become relevant again, I resent you saying it's not "okay to act like a prostitute." I'm sorry that you don't value sex workers, and worse, that you perpetuate public opinions that we are the lowest and most despised form of human beings, but you seem to have overlooked that WE ARE human beings. And MOST sex workers enjoy their work and have CHOSEN this profession. I resent any comparison between me and Miley but what I resent even more is the idea that it is any of your goddamn business how another girl earns her money, how she dresses or how she chooses to represent and conduct herself in any way. Miley Cyrus is not a sex worker. And using a sex worker term as a slur is an ignorant, easy, low-blow. I never thought I'd be defending Miley Cyrus but here I am to say it. Sinead, it's none of your business if Miley or anyone else wants to slap on a pair of butt-hugging latex shorts and shake it out for the world to see. Your opinion is nothing more than that and you should be ashamed that you feel you have any right to publicly slap Miley on the wrist for doing something as an adult woman. Her butt gap is none of your business. She can lick one-thousand hammers if she wants. If being naked puts a smile on Miley's face, well, then me and every toddler in the world can join in the ranks of the like-minded. Who pinned that morality badge on your chest, Sinead? You have no authority to dictate how another young woman behaves. Butt out, Sinead, you don't need to decide what validates Miley Cyrus, or any young women or sex workers. We got this.