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    Tbh I know no form of binding is actually really “safe” but I feel like some of the messages communicating this feel… Fearmongery. Trans and butch people that bind know it’s not Good for us but binding in the safest way possible helps to alleviate dysphoria and it’s like there’s a weird moralism in it like. You’re all a MENACE for your unsafe gender practices. Trans and butch people are going to continue to bind, communicating the safest ways to do so is actually a good thing. The sort of backlash this got feels like: don’t you know you need to be OKAY with your body for which I am the moral authority of its health and safety?

    Not to get galaxy brain but people don’t talk about underwire bras and high heels like they talk about binding + hormones + surgery 🤔 there’s a difference between being honest and upfront about the risks and then there’s uhhh what a lot of people do, which is try to scare you out of it or present it as a last case scenario only

    I feel this when people tell me not to wear sports bras 24/7…even a single well-fitting one…even non-compression ones. How can it possibly be worse than sleeping in an underwire bra? “It puts pressure on your ribs” Probably, but so does underwire? The 8 hour rule, while probably good sense, also has absolutely no medical backing. While the medical community has largely failed to figure out what is a risk, lesbians and transmasc people are guilted for taking any risks.

    In the spirit of putting out real, data-backed information on binding: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27300085

    and here’s one more in case you aren’t subscribed to that journal:


    This is one of the first, if not THE first large study done on binding that comes at it from a surprisingly respectful angle. And the results are pretty important:

    The 8 hour rule isn’t medically backed, as the person above me said, but in addition what IS backed is taking full days off from binding.

    So its waaaay more important to let yourself have 1 or 2 days, maybe the days you just stay home from work or school, to not bind and that can have a much stronger positive impact on your health. 

    Binding isn’t IDEAL but no one really does it for fun, and if you can strike the right balance between wearing a properly fitting binder, or even better a sports bra, and taking breaks throughout the week, and trying not to bind over 10 hours, then you can mitigate the risks inherent with binding a great deal.

    Also! If people are so concerned with trans people’s health why aren’t they concerned about the mental toll that dysphoria has on a person?

    Same reason people fat shame for “health reasons” but don’t seem to care what that does to a fat person’s psyche.

    If people can construe that trans-ness is bad for your health of course they will. It’s because they’re transphobic.




    So i went on a date to a haunted house and made friends with the girls behind us. As we’re going through, one of them is holding my hand and a guy leaps out and separates us. I panic as my date is pulling me along, I reach back for her and grab her hand in a group of three other performers and start getting out if there. After a bit I look back to check on her and I discover I’m holding the hand of a six foot tall zombie creature and not a 5'2" girl.

    Cue the most terrifying realization of my life.

    I had basically kidnapped this performer from his section and abandoned the girl and her friend behind us.

    Yes, I screamed. My date thought it was Hilarious.

    Yes, we found the girls. Turns out when I grabbed the performers hand, he grabbed theirs so our group wouldn’t be separated. So there was just this zombie in the middle of our group line for like fifty feet

    This is like a Scooby Doo bit I love it




    my little sister just found out at school that you can create a religion and wants me to help her turn Halloween into a year long religion. And i  never knew i wanted this until now. We will be the Halloween Cult. I am so ready for this.

    My sister came up with some cult rules.

    1. Do not deny the spooky.
    2. Be nice to children.
    3. Don’t be pressuring others into the religion, if they don’t want to hear leave them alone.
    4. Every second Wednesday of each month is Pumpkin Worship, that is when you eat pumpkin flavored things, carve pumpkins, or burn pumpkin spice scented candles. Just embrace the pumpkin.
    5. Don’t be mean to other people for reasons they can’t control, but hey if they are doing it on purpose just to annoy you, destroy them.
    6. No touch other people if they don’t want you to, this includes hair.
    7. Halloween is a holy day, embrace it and become one with the spooky.
    8. Costumes are an everyday thing, but sometimes it can be inappropriate, be aware of when to embrace the spooky and when to just be a little spooky.
    9. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t be spooky, and if they do tell you then they don’t know what they’re talking about. You can be all the spooky all you want.
    10. Be nice to animals.
    11. Be ready to help others when you can but still remember that you need to put your needs first.
    12. You are spooky, you are amazing, you are fabulous. Say it.
    13. idk but i think we need more, go ask you internet nerd friends.

    can yall think of anything else?

    OKay i asked her how one would join the cult and she said to light a jack-o-lantern on a full moon then yodel into the night for the pumpkin king and if he approves you, you will hear someone yell “stut the fuck up” then you are part of the cult.

    have fun yodeling my friends