Ten Things a Dom Expects a sub to know without being told

    (this piece needed some cleanup and formatting, so I’m reposting it)

    i reblogged a wonderful piece a few days ago,  “ten things a sub expects a dom to know without being told.” A really good piece, strong and thought provoking.But as is so often the case here on Tumblr, the emphasis is the same as it is in a porn flick: “It’s all about the girl.” So I decided that this called for a counterpoint to balance the dialectical scales and possibly even spur some discussion. Those who have read the piece I reblogged will recognize some of these 10 items as being more or less identical to the items in that piece. This is by design, and is intended to emphasize that so much of the glue that holds a D/s relationship together is reciprocal.

    And so without further ado …

    <>“ten things a dom expects a sub to know without being told”

    <>1. <>He needs to be the priority. Your Dominant cannot be put in the corner and trotted out when you need him. Make him your priority even during those
    times when you think you DON’T need him. Because the truth of it is, even during those times, you secretly do need him, you just aren’t consciously
    aware of it. 

    <>2. He has emotions and needs them acknowledged. The internet (and Tumblr is especially egregious in this regard) has created the toxic stereotype of
    the Dominant as this calm, cold, unemotional Olympian figure who is always as in charge of himself as he is of his submissive. Many a submissive has
    run screaming into the night at the sight of her Dominant having a moment of weakness, or self-doubt, or — The Horror! — shedding a tear. Accept that
    your Dominant is human, and respect the effort he exerts to be strong and confident for you 99% of the time.

    <>3. Know him better than others. If your Dominant is having emotional difficulties, or even something as “insignificant” as a bad day at the office, you damn well better know it before his friends do.

    <>4. Let him control things (including you). That is his responsibility. Yours is to obey.

    <>5. Abide by the rules. Your Dominant constructs various rules, tasks, rituals, etc, for a purpose. That purpose may not always be obvious to you. It doesn’t have to be. Trust that he knows what he’s doing, and accept the fact that submitting to his rules on a daily basis is just  plain hard work. If you’re not willing to put in the work, then you should do some soul-searching and evaluate how deep (or even genuine) your submission really is.

    <>6. Remember that he is yours. This is always reciprocal. Just as he expects your total devotion and commitment and fidelity, you have the right to expect those things from him. To be clear, this is not the same as taking your Dominant for granted. Just as he has to earn those things from you every day, so you also have to earn them from him every day.

    <>7. Appreciate the work he puts into you, and let him KNOW that you appreciate it. Being a dominant (especially in a day-to-day rather than sporadic relationship) is damned  hard work. Let him know how much it means to you that he considers you worthy of all that work and direction and energy.

    <>8. Be mindful of your respective positions in the D/s relationship. He is your Dominant. Can you be affectionately playful and impish? Yes; any Dominant who doesn’t  relish such from his submissive on occasion has some significant self-confidence issues. Sarcastic or willfully bratty? Not a good idea. Not a good idea AT ALL.

    <>9. Give the same respect you get. If he shows you that, despite the way your relationship might look to the vanillas, he holds you in the highest respect, then return that  respect. If you come to the conclusion that he does NOT hold you in the highest respect, you might want to evaluate your relationship and possibly move on.

    <>10. Above all else: he expects your submission to be whole and complete and without reservation, save for those things that the two of you negotiate as equals BEFORE you offer him your submission. Once you submit, he has full right and claim to ALL of you. You don’t get to cherry pick your submission. You don’t get to submit in just those areas where it’s convenient. You don’t get to submit just when you’re in the mood. There are no half-measures with your submission. If you can’t honestly say to yourself that you are all-in, then accept the fact that this means you’re not in AT ALL, and decide what to do about it.

    Whoa. I couldn’t agree more with this.

    I really like the 10 points. Sometimes it’s hard to make them all happen but the master always gets his way to the sub. One way or another!

    Truer words have not been spoken.

    Giff, from Russellville, is your typical straight fuck boy who has a girlfriend but still fucks around with other girls as long as his girlfriend doesn’t find out. He’s got a great body; too bad his dick is on the small side.

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    Y’all remember that one time I told you I hadn’t even posted B’s good stuff yet? B, as I’m sure you’ll recall, is a freshman wrestler at one of the biggest college wrestling programs in the country. Who’d like some good stuff this fine Friday morning? Y’all loved what I posted before but this is so much better! I’m such a naughty boy for holding out on y’all aren’t I?

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    B is a redshirt freshman at one of the top wrestling programs in the country…you’d know it if you heard it. It plays in some minor conference..B1G? Big XII? I always get those cupcakes confused. But I digress. He’s got a pretty impressive high school record of wins and championships as well. One wrestling analytics website even gives him about a 50% chance of making the 2020 Team USA Olympic Team! See what else he’s got that’s impressive below!

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    Nick is Bill’s younger (but still legal!) 18 year-old step-brother. A quick glance at Nick’s cut abs, cute face, and twinkish hair make it easy to see why Bill is so jealous of Nick. In fact, Bill has Nick convinced that he’s ugly and small. Nick sometimes suffers from an acute case of cut-the-dick-out-of-the-pic-itis. Fortunately, that body more than makes up for it and the doctor finds a cure long before the season finale ;) Stay tuned for more!

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    Colton, 18, from a medium sized town in Central Arkansas is a man whore. He’s the cocky guy who has literally fucked every slut within 30 miles and everybody knows it. Colton used to be a junior high football star, but got cut because he was lazy and too selfish to be part of a team. As you’ll see, just because he quit football doesn’t mean he quit the gym. In fact, his gym routine looks on point! Couple that with a thick juicy cock and Colton is quite the looker. Yes, the first few are from the bathroom at school. He had to change out of those shorts because I kept boning him…stay tuned if you wanna see him pull that dick out in class…

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    I can’t decide if I’m being nice or evil right now… Y’all obviously like B, the redshirt freshman wrestler at a major (major major) university. So, I feel like y’all are gunna love it if I post a few more of his pics, right? And like really like it if they’re pics he took in the bathroom during class, right? The question is, will you love them less when I tell you way better ones are yet to come…

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    So y’all like 18 year old small town man whore Colton, eh? I feel like taunting and teasing and stringing you along as you beg for more is the right thing to do, but, honestly, I’ve got so many pics of Colton I’m just gunna give you more! Call me Santa Clause, boys!

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    If I know Bill at all, he’s jealous as fuck that his step-brother, Nick, has more notes than him….and it’s not close. Nick is easily the most popular guy posted so far! Bill gets jealous as fuck when girls like Nick better cuz deep down he knows that no matter how much shit he talks, Nick is hotter and has a better dick. So what’s Bill going to do about ti? Let’s see!

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    Y’all keep telling me you want even MORE of Colton, the 18 year old fuckboy who has fucked every girl in his small Arkansas town. More you say? MORE? Well guess what…I got you boys! Hope y’all won’t be too mad that I been holding out the good stuff from ya. Haha!

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    Let’s play some word association. Today is Christmas Eve. On Christmas Eve, Santa delivers presents to all the boys and girls around the world. Santa is also known as St. Nicholas. St. Nicholas is sometimes shortened to St. Nick. I know a Nick. Anybody else know a Nick? How about I present to you 8 random pics of my 18 year old friend Nick! Don’t tell his step-brother Bill. He gets the jellys…HOHOHOHOHOHOHOHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

    Friendly warning: Don’t jump the gun and blow before you make it to the last pic (Hehehehehehe!!!)

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    Tyler is an 18 year old high school student from the Conway area. Every time he messages me he’s high and horny as fuck because he’s high on pot, tripping on ectasy or drunk off his ass. The tats on his hand and ankle in the first pic are homemade, btw.

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