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2019-01-18 04:48:26

    The Signs with a Broken Heart

    This post is essentially based on my/my friends’ real life experiences.I’ll also try to include some advice how to get over this struggle. Your Sun & Venus Signs matter!

    I think that today, after having written some love posts, I had to think about those who spent this day alone, because they are comfortable with it, because they don’t need anyone, or maybe because their heart isn’t healed enough to start dating again. And it’s totally fair. Heartbreak is way too underrated lately in my opinion, we think about those with a sickness, we think about those who are poor, we say that as long as you are healthy, have a place to sleep, have something to eat, you must be happy, but sometimes an emotional wound is a lot harder to heal than a physical one. When you love someone, they become the most important part of your life. You share your days with them, you miss them, you decide where to go for a dinner together because you want them to be happy too, you basically change your whole lifestyle to fit theirs. And then if one day, they decide to take their love away, it feels like only half of your life is left and you ask yourself questions how it’s possible to make it stop just like that, from one minute to another. This is why it’s so hard to get over a broken heart. And sometimes it’s even worse to lose someone who never even was yours. You start questioning everything, why does life play such a prank on you and makes you meet them, like them, fall in love and all this for nothing, because they don’t share your feelings. A person questioning themselves, thinking that they aren’t good enough for a person they love, that someone else is and they aren’t, is probably one of the most hurtful feelings.

    So here’s how I see the signs being hurt and hopefully this will help a few of you. Not because you will read this post and your pain will suddenly go away, no way, I just want you to know that there’s always someone to understand exactly how you feel, that you’re not alone.


    As an Aries, you can be very emotional, but real feelings don’t reach you too often. Quite careless in your young years, you might be attracted to people physically, like them in different ways, call it love, feel sadness about losing them, but only the pain of a broken heart will tell you it was real. Because everything you feel, positive and negative emotions, you feel it in an incredibly strong way. It’s hard to get to your soul and after having felt this pain once, you will close it up even tighter, you will build a wall to protect yourself from feelings, a wall so high you will be impossible to reach emotionally, because as an Aries, you’re everything but masochistic. You will do anything to never be vulnerable again. You’re the kind of person that will never forgive someone who hurt you, if they want you back, you will deny, on and off relationships don’t work for you.

    If you got your heart broken in your young teenage years, it might make you seem heartless, emotionally unavailable, you will always conduct yourself in a restrained manner of a casual, almost meaningless relationship, where you act like friends with benefits. This might upset your partner, and as you’re not someone who opens up easily, they probably won’t understand the reason of it. 


    So if it comes to an advice, I’ll propose you to look at every partner individually. If you had the bad luck of meeting someone wrong for you once, it doesn’t mean that everyone wants to do you harm. Don’t blame innocent people for others hurting you. Give them a chance, because you’re strong enough to forgive & forget even though you might not always feel it. Always keep in mind that you’re like a diamond, precious and priceless to find, no one sane will lose you of their own free will, you just have to give them what they want and what they deserve too.


    Well, lovely Taurens are a particular story for me. You are really special and I will explain why. I used to have a best friend, we were really close, she told me everything and through many years I couldn’t stop admiring her incredible willpower and strength. She got her heart broken many times, got betrayed by her loved ones, lost family members, but she managed to never let her crown fall of her head. 

    Taureans are able to get through everything with an admirable self-respect, you will never show how hurt you are as long as it’s possible to hold back. You aren’t cold or insensitive, you feel so much more than people usually do, but still you don’t let anything bring you down, which is even more amazing in your case. You have feelings so deep, thoughts so dark and still you fight them all away. You never forget those who betrayed you, but you’re generous and intelligent enough to forgive. Not for them, for yourself. 


    An advice for my lovely hurt Taureans? You are the Queens & Kings of all the signs, forget Leos, for me it’s you. It would be madness to advise you not to get attached to people, it’s not possible, getting attached and loving deeply is in your nature, but don’t you ever dumb yourself down for anyone. If you got your heart broken, cry a river and get over it even stronger, you’re one of the few signs that can actually do it, you’re impossible to break, it’s just that not every of you is aware of it already. If you want them back, fight for it, it’s all in your hands. Not? Let them leave and don’t avenge, they lost you, what can be a worse punishment? You don’t need anyone, you’re self-sufficient. Get away from anything negative with dignity and grace as you do it so well. Don’t let meaningless people make your beautiful eyes wet and your loving heart dark!


    So how does a Gemini fall in love? It’s harder for you than for the most, because of your contradictive personality. You have the tendency to overthink every detail and look at it from every single point of view, which makes you almost impossible to take a decision. You might trust someone but still control every single step of theirs, you might love but not show it in fear to get hurt. You are very emotional, but you usually manage quite well to hide your feelings. You are way too smart to love unconditionally. Most people nevertheless will expect more from you, more understanding, more selflessness, more sentimentality, which you just cannot give. As a hurt Gemini, you will act detached and no one might ever know how you feel. You always want to seem stronger than you actually are, so you will never show your vulnerability. You often come across as a completely heartless and unemotional person with your true feelings burning deep inside. 


    It’s crazily hard for you to get over a broken heart since you never let out your true emotions. I will advise you at the first place to show affection to the people you truly love so that they can appreciate you as much as you appreciate them. Don’t be afraid to let your hard shell break. Stop insulting people you love as you do so often, being harsh to them, just to hide your sentimentality. There are two faces of you, no one can change this, but the face no one ever sees is often much more agreeable than the one you usually show. Let yourself be uncontrollable sometimes. 


    Despite all the stereotypes, as Cancers, you are very optimistic, but this is what destroys you the most. Especially in a brand new relationship, you want everything to be perfect and immediate, what you usually don’t get. It’s difficult to understand for people that have a different train of thoughts because when you’re in love (and you are able to fall in love quickly and get attached very hard) you are ready to give that person everything, all of your heart, your soul, even material things. But your partner might need a little longer to feel the same about you and all of your care and attention might become overwhelming for them. This is where problems start. As an optimist, you are hoping for the best and you see your relationship from an a little different point of view. Idealising your situations you start making plans for the future. However, whenever they break up with you, it will take long for you to actually believe in it and the feeling of betrayal from their part will stay with you forever.


    What do I say to my lovely Cancers? First of all, I totally disagree with all those people that dislike you because you’re overemotional. I’ve seen people saying this on my blog a few times. You have a heart so caring and tender that you make an easy target and people tend to use you emotionally and practically. Sometimes you are so fixed on your own feelings, busy idealising your love, that you forget to pay attention to other people’s moods, but if something is going wrong it’s usually obvious. You need to learn to let people go and not only hoping for the best. You are one of those that always keep waiting for someone old to come back instead of looking forward. Appreciate yourselves, then you deserve so much more than getting hurt all the time. Be careful who you give your love to. And how to get over it? Well, you won’t do it easily. But as Cancers, you are still a Water sign, and in the case of Water signs time actually does heal all the wounds. 


    A Leo’s love is endless, but so is your ego, commonly known. I’m sorry for mentioning this again, but I think Leo’s ego is something that can save you from pain, something you should be proud of. Whenever you decide to give your love to someone, it becomes overwhelming, uncontrollable, passionate, but of course so is the pain when the love ends. Your immediate suffering might seem impossible to handle, impossible to live with, but your feelings, positive ones just as negative ones will fade slowly. You will have a hard time to understand how they could do this to you, how is it even possible to leave someone you used to love. You will get emotional about it, crying, thinking, you even might become aggressive, but in the end, you will remember to value yourself above everything else. 


    An advice for the beautiful Leo’s? Stop appreciating the appearance of people so much. You are focused on beauty which turns you a little shallow sometimes. After getting hurt by people that don’t deserve you, you will understand that inner beauty is much more important than visible flaws. 


    So, dear Virgos, I know how difficult all of this is for you particularly. Through my whole life, I’ve been noticing how unlucky this sign is, about everything. You are so often the ones having health problems, you are the ones getting in some kind of trouble you never expected, you are the ones losing your job for no reason, you are the ones to meet dangerous people, and you are the ones to fall for the wrong person way too often. As an Earth sign, you get attached rarely, but really strongly, not without an intellectual background, though (Mercury ruler). You always think to analyse everything, thinking it over a countless number of times, but somehow, despite your intelligence, you turn out to be wrong. The worst thing is that after getting hurt by someone you love, instead of blaming them, you blame yourself. You have the tendency to idealise your own choices and if this choice, this person, was picked by you, it can’t be bad. So basically you start analysing yourself, trying to become better for them to come back. Usually, in vain. Your self-criticism often goes too far and you lose your confidence completely. Your mind is strong, but it gets destructive is it’s turned against yourself.


    As a Virgo, you are incredibly strong. In a battle that seems lost, you will be fighting until the very end, until you lose all the power and even beyond it. But somehow you forget to fight against your own mind. You need to get remembered more often how impressively strong you are, how perfect you are and that no one is able to break you when you’re aware of it. So I will take this job today. You are the greatest fighter I had the chance to meet, even though life definitely seems to push you down more than anyone. You can make it through this heartbreak, even if it takes some time, you will make it through much worse things even. Because in the end, those who lost you will regret it, in the end, you will be the one to win no matter how. In your love life, at work, in anything basically, because never giving up always gets rewarded, you just have to wait, possibly longer than all the rest, but life’s a b****, what can we do? For now, try to let all of your anger (that I know you feel and quite strongly, even if you don’t admit it) go because you’re the only one getting destructed by your own rage and disappointments. You’re usually the one trying to retaliate, but don’t, please, just believe that you will be the winner soon.


    As a Libra, considering your warm heart and your desire for true love, you are often overdramatizing your situation. A Libra lives for drama, as a very creative personality, you get bored whenever everything is going well. You always need to find some kind of an issue in everything and everyone. You might become unsuitably pessimistic about a nothing.


    Look back at your broken heart, look at it precisely. Is it really worth being hurt about it? You are someone who knows the value of love, but you never forget about common sense. You are perfect in finding the balance between them. You know how to control your emotions and what just isn’t worth worrying about. So come on, think about it with your brilliant Air mind and you will see everything is not as tragic as you thought it is.


    As a Scorpio, you are competitive and vindictive about everything including relationships, even without really realising it yourself. You feel very strongly about everything, passion, love, revenge, also pain. What you don’t understand is that once you got hurt, there’s no way back to normal, even though you want them back no matter what. You will keep fighting for them, get destructed if not managing it, depressed to a desperate level, you will think that if only they would come back, everything would be perfect like it used to be one day, even better, that they are the only thing you need in this world. But once this happens, it’s not going to be as expected. You will be finally able to see all of their flaws, you will be analysing and critical, you will finally fall out of love with them and turn into someone they never expected you to be, manipulative, sarcastic, arrogant, mocking human being. They will see the side of you, they never knew you had. Finally, you will dump them yourself, and feel no sorry, no shame, because it was them who destroyed you at first place. Once there’s a problem that hit you deeply in the relationship, there are no love feelings from your side anymore, they fade without you knowing, all that’s left is a desire to hurt them as much as they hurt you, to win them back first, to prove to yourself that you can get anything you want, make them fall for you again and then leave them with absolutely nothing as they did. This happens in your head in a weirdly unconscious way, your mind is so complicated that not even you know yourself to the deepest. You will never consider yourself as a vindictive person until you have been in a situation like this.


    What advice can I give you? To let go of course. Real love is to be able to let go of the one you love, if they are happier without you, then let them be. You often forget about it. It’s easier to say than to do, I know, but that’s the only way to escape your own and the person’s you once loved pain. Fighting for something that already died is meaningless, it’s never going to turn into anything positive. So why not be better than the one who hurt you and let them leave, simply, without drama, so that they wonder if they actually made the right choice leaving someone as self-sufficient as you?


    Everything seems so easy for a Sagittarius. And it’s true, you always get where you want to be by simple luck, by your unyielding optimism, by your joy of life and so dealing with pain isn’t what you do best. You might seem a little confused getting your heart broken. You will just stand there not knowing what to say, how to act, trying to convince that person to stay, that you can work it out, you always manage to work out everything. But as soon as it isn’t up to you to choose, you won’t know what to do. 


    It’s quite simple, you need friends, you have a personality that gets destructed from something negative quite fast since you’re used to focusing on positivity. You need friends that will take you out, have fun with you, make you meet someone new, just support you in every way and after some time the pain will be gone, just as the love you felt once. Your main goal is not to close yourself up because after getting hurt a few times, your instinct of self-preservation might hold you from falling in love again. But you don’t want to run from this amazing experience. So just leave the negativity behind and move on! Good luck, lovely!


    As a Capricorn, your problem is so often your own mind. Also a drop of cowardice sometimes. You tend to underestimate yourselves to a fault. Your broken heart is often based on a relationship that never even happened. You fall in love with someone, make up a whole story inside your own mind, decide that you’re no good for them, that they won’t like you back anyway and there you go, your heart is broken. As Capricorns, you have such a fear of exposing your feelings, of making yourselves vulnerable, that you end up hurting yourselves. You are also one-person kind of people. If you love someone, it’s forever. You will get through everything with them, you will do anything for them, you will sacrifice your whole life for them until a single moment: the moment they disappoint you. The moment you understand that they aren’t who you mistook them for. This is where your love ends since you loved another person and not the one they turned out to be. This is why the most hurtful break-ups for you are the ones that never happened. The unfinished love stories, the ones that never gave you  a chance to be disappointed about.


    I think there can only be one single advice for you, know your value! You have a strong imagination, a mind that never stops thinking, but your pessimistic Saturn nature always tends to push it the wrong way. Don’t be afraid to show your feelings from time to time. I think that if you love someone, you owe them something, and this something is you confessing it. You owe them the choice to choose you because you’re unique, impossible to replace, don’t take the happiness of loving you from them. Of course, as a Capricorn myself, I know that our love can be based on almost nothing. We make up a completely new person inside our mind if we don’t know them enough, we tend to idealise people to a fault and of course, they end up disappointing us. A Capricorn’s love is so deep, it might last many years without even anyone knowing about it, it will eat you up from inside, destroy you. Your love is so often totally ineligible, you fall for people impossible to win and there you go, your heart is broken by someone who wasn’t even yours, maybe even someone who has no idea they broke you. I think that as a Capricorn you have a person in your life you will never forget about. You might be dating other people but there will always be someone unique you’ll love forever. You will meet them sooner or later and hopefully end up with them one day. This is my only wish for you, dear Soulmates!


    How exactly does a broken Aquarius act? I don’t think anyone knows it. Aquarians are perfect actors and manipulators, you will let them see what you want them to see. You can take secrets to the grave, but inside of you, there is so much going on. Unlike many other signs, though, after a break-up, you start to analyse the person who hurt you in every single detail. This might become some kind of obsession, you are one of those who is able to start stalking their ex, you don’t agree on giving up on someone until you find the answers to everything. This makes you think about that person way too much and you end up stalking them out of hate instead of out of love eventually.


    Letting go will be the only advice of course. Not for them, for yourself, stop destroying yourself by thinking about them. Don’t forget how special you are and only look for someone who knows to appreciate all of your flaws. You are someone who is lucky enough to know their value most of them time and not focusing on the past, so usually, your broken heart doesn’t last long and gets glued together by a new love quite soon! Fingers crossed I’m right!


    As a Pisces, you tend to give up on love way too quickly. As soon as you see a problem growing, instead of trying to solve it, you decide to give up on your relationship. You are so afraid of getting hurt that you don’t think it’s worth starting a love story at all. This makes you lose so many great moments of life. As the probably least stubborn sign, you aren’t used to fighting for something you want. But way too often love is about fighting. 


    Stop feeling sorry for yourself and blame everyone for hurting you! Sometimes you need to get up and fight for what you want. Sometimes it’s all about having an argument, standing for your opinion and working everything out. Sometimes (warning! shocking information for Pisces!) it’s even your own fault! Stop idealising the world and yourself, you’re not in one of your dreams, here you have to fight and not just sit there enjoying your pain. I might sound harsh, but I really wish you the best. All I want is that you adapt yourself more to the real world by leaving your Neverland!

    Venus Signs


    Believes love should happen at first sight; likes independent, go-getters; enjoys chasing and being chased

    Arguing and friendly competition is an aphrodisiac

    Attracts love by inspiring/encouraging suitors to pursue and “win” her/him

    Flirts by teasing and picking fights; 

    Wants to be #1 in the relationship (and in her/his partner’s life) or will lose interest quickly


    Believes love should come after a lot of long-term consideration; likes (and is impressed by) wealthy people

    Rich, comfort foods, receiving massages, listening to music, and fragrances that smell like something edible (mmm vanilla!) are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by being emotionally stable and having consistent habits

    Flirts by providing physical comfort

    Wants to feel secure in relationships and “know where this is going”


    Believes love should mean never having to say, “I’m bored”; likes quotable, multifaceted people who have lots of diverse interests

    Verbal/written expressions of love are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by being infinitely entertaining

    Flirts by sharing thoughts & feelings and assigning pet names

    Wants 24/7 communication accessibility in relationships; variety, unpredictability


    Believes love should be nurturing; likes people who need mothering (or who are mothering) and are appreciative of her efforts

    Emotional bonding and cuddling are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by making people feel cozy and sheltered; 

    Flirts by feeding and/or cooking for someone, remembering preferences, giving thoughtful tokens of affection

    Wants interdependence in relationships


    Believes love should ALWAYS consist of romance, drama, fun, and loyalty; likes people who stand out in socially acceptable ways 

    Receiving awe-inspiring gifts and positive, focused attention from an audience are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by playing up strengths and downplaying weaknesses, and inspiring chivalry

    Flirts by complimenting

    Wants emotionally-moving displays of appreciation and gratitude in relationships


    Believes love should involve making a commitment to take care of someone else; likes hard-workers who pay attention to details (conversely, is also attracted to flawed, disorganized partners that need fixing)

    good hygiene, a neat appearance, and an orderly environment are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by handling all of the “dirty work” in a partner’s life

    Flirts by making analytical observations, self-deprecating humor, or offering self-improvement advice

    Wants to feel needed and useful in relationships


    Believes love should = 50/50 partnership + 24/7 romance; likes attractive, intelligent, and sociable people

    The usual romantic clichés (such as rose petals on the bed and long, moonlit walks on the beach) are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by being charming company, understanding and attentive

    Flirts indiscriminately for attention and popularity

    Wants equality, romance, and lots of attention in relationships; beauty, making plans as a couple 


    Believes love should be passionate, intense, and life-altering; likes to associate with powerful people whose sexuality comes in contradictory layers

    A strong sex drive, instant chemistry, intensity, and loyalty are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by keeping a mate’s secrets, developing an emotional bond, and not wanting to share the partner’s affection

    Flirts through seduction

    Wants to have control and trust in a relationship


    Believes love should bring happiness, great times, and good luck; likes outgoing, intelligent, independent, adventurous people

    Visiting exotic places, meeting foreign people, exploring foreign cultures, and different accents are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by being friendly, fun-loving, generous, and free-spirited

    Flirts through friendly conversation and making someone laugh

    Wants freedom, honesty, few expectations, and undefined commitment in a relationship


    Believes love should make people keep their word; likes responsible, successful people who can help with achieving aspirations

    Knowing what’s coming next is an aphrodisiac

    Attracts love by being dependable and loyal; shows affection by honoring commitments and not leaving the relationship; 

    Flirts by getting straight to the point, assessing a potential mate’s value, and showing off their dry wit as they feel more comfortable

    Wants a solid commitment from the right person in relationships


    Believes love should be dessert with friendship as the main entrée; likes free-spirited, eccentric people who aren’t afraid to go against the status quo

    Discussing new, inventive ways to have sex is an aphrodisiac

    Attracts love by being friendly to everyone

    Flirts by sharing unusual ideas and opinions

    Wants a best friend, intellectually stimulating company and emotional detachment in relationships


    Believes love should be a perfect blend of an intuitive, spiritual bond and romance; likes nonjudgmental, creative people who think and communicate in imaginative ways

    Dreamy kisses that cause tingles, foot massages, bubble baths, and mind-altering substances or practices are aphrodisiacs

    Attracts love by being infinitely compassionate and seeing the best in people

    Flirts by developing and acknowledging a special connection

    Wants empathy, kindness, and sensitivity in relationships