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    Progress to normality: constant chastity and orgasm denial 2021-10-15

    I was hesitant to ask. I wanted to speak, but I didn’t want to push. The request “Can I stay caged?”was bouncing around in my head.

    She watched my face and told me:

    “It’s ok. You don’t need to cum. We have it in writing.”

    😍omg… my wife was pushing my buttons, and reading my mind.

  • I had been flashing back to September 2019 earlier this morning. 93 days of orgasm denial had given me the courage to email and then face a new doctor to get her opinion about the long term safety of avoiding climax, and living with swollen balls. She gave me direct answers, a thorough examination, snd assurances.
  • Of course guys think their orgasms seem important. But no, I don’t need to cum. And my juicy balls won’t burst from tease and denial.
  • I had been perfectly compliant and polite during the exam. I stood with my hands behind my back, eyes averted, with my pants and underwear (obviously damp with precum) about my ankles. My simmering arousal was obvious.
  • She relaxed completely and spent extra time to talk afterwards. My concerns were earnest, but my research was sound. She expressed wonder, joy, and was open with her enjoyment of couples like us. I gushed, expanding the wet spot precum, and squirmed a bit in my chair. I got only praise and encouragement from her, and her nurse.
  • “I was a brave boy” I said.

    My wife agreed.

    I asked her “can I stay caged?”

    She said “Yes. This is what you want.”

    She continued…

    “But you like gushing too.”

    I squirmed.

    “I can keep you edged. With just a single finger keeping you so high and floaty.”

    She knows she can do anything she wants with me, and that I’m all hers.

    “I like you juicy and meaty” … “it’s ok. You can squirm… squeak….Rustle…”

    I’m fun to bite.

    I admit that I dreamed immediately of being let out to fuck her. I gripped her hip and thrusted. She smirked.

    But it’s ok. I am not feeling sad about not getting to “fuck”. I’m feeling grateful for being her squeaky toy. She hasn’t had me penetrate her since July. Before the break.

    Last summer I went 5 months and 23 days without PIV. And 3 months and 24 days in the beginning of this year. It’s only been 3 months and five days. But I’m really not counting the days. I needed to check my journal to report these facts.

    Right now she grabs my ass and I melt. I want to be fucked. Taken. She tugs my ears and pinches my nipples and grips my meaty ass. She makes me feel delicious.

    If I can manage it, I plan to have no more uncaged orgasms this year. If I do spill in my cage, that’s a bonus. If I get a little climax and get some relief. It’s ok. There’s nothing to be scared of. It’s not something to worry about.

    That’s the goal. Float. Don’t fret. Don’t flail. Live caged, indefinitely. Don’t even worry about masturbation denial, how much PIV we have, or whether actually have an orgasm or not. Stop trying to push myself down the rabbit hole to permanent chastity.

    I can do this. I can stop pushing her, or feeling disappointed that I’m not getting my ass taken or my prostate milked. Stop worrying about having prowess. It’s not a competition. Just be happy and let her enjoy her floaty balloon, and casually snack on her prey.

    I can want. I can desire. I can yearn. I can hunger. It’s ok. There’s no reason to be sad.

    She loves me. We are kissing and cuddling. She gives me spanks, slaps, squeezes, tugs, pinched, bites. She’s pushing buttons in my mind again.

    Most importantly: she trusts me. She forgives me.

    There’s no resentment or fear. No hint of any.

    She is resolute that chastity is my decision, and she’s not hinting about taking the keys back. Real enforced chastity went sideways after 13 months. Someday I’ll ask her how it made her feel. She was good at it. She was steely and guilt free. Maybe we can get back to that.

    But I need to square things in my head. Real surrender worked for a while but I broke. I flailed. I broke the spell. We were disillusioned and I do miss it

    I need to deal with the reality. I’m in chastity because I wanted it. This is my kink.

    I’m the one who wanted orgasm denial. I’m the one who dreamed for decades about getting pierced and caged. I’m the one who voluntarily gave up masturbation.

    I’m the one who’s given her my heart.

    So… indefinite enforced chastity was too much. I think “permanence” will remain a fantasy. Someday I’ll beg her to keep me caged, let me greedily devour her pussy, and finger and fuck my ass. But not now.

    I’m just thrilled she’s relaxed and happy with me.

    In a sense I’m getting back to reality.

    I stopped giving you my narrative so often because I needed to quiet my own mind.

    I’ve tried to keep things real here. No overinflated projections of fantasies.

    I hope to get back to writing soon. Journaling helps me. And I value my friends here. I’ve missed you.

    nice-predator

    The reflection and quiet time were important of course, but it is wonderful to see your writing back ❤️

    Male chastity sample rules

    It is up to you to decide what the rules are, these are simple suggestions to make your life easier. Copy and paste the once you like and then have your man agree to the rules. The suggested rules are designed to make your life easier and you should of course think about your own needs and wants from this game and add them as rules.

    Have him read your rules and simply state that they are your conditions for playing the chastity game. Negotiate where you must, but then make those rules stand.

    Sample rules to avoid problems in the game

    Forbid him to ask directly for anything sexual (he could never have been that straight forward about his carnal desires during early stages of courtship anyway). This is to prevent him for constantly asking you for sex, which he will do and it becomes annoying quick. Instead, he’ll have to romance you, flirt with you, pamper you and learn to please his prey, his ultimate desire, slowly wearing her down and getting her panties off. I do want my husband to initiate sex in other ways than asking for it, but the decision is ultimately up to me. When he asks directly for sex, I add 3 days of chastity, in the form of 3 beads to his chastity jar. See the Games section for more info on that.

    I and I alone get to decide on the length of the lock up. If I want it to indefinite, that is my decision.

    I alone decide when he gets to orgasm. If he feels an orgasm coming on, he must ask me to stop immediately.

    I also get to decide how he cums and when and how we have sex.

    Sex does not require unlocking of the penis unless I say so.

    He is not allowed to touch his genitalia in a sexual way or try to circumvent his device for obvious reasons. They are now my property, and mine alone. The seed are also considered my exclusive property. All involuntary ejaculations and the reasons will be reported as soon as possible.

    All ejaculations that were not sanctioned by me must have a penalty (unless they were wet dreams). The penalty I set for unauthorized ejaculations was recycling the semen by having him swallow it. If the semen cannot be retrieved, he will have to swallow his next load. This rule is extremely effective from preventing my husband from not having any unwanted orgasms.

    No porn, no magazines, nothing that could give you a glimpse of a naked female body. The only naked body he ever gets to see is mine. Since you can’t take his word for this, here’s a primer on how to block his porn. If I need him to access adult sites when working on his sex education (in order to find ways to bring me to new highs) I simply lend him my Mac (I’m a Mac, he’s a PC and we look it). My Mac, iPhone and iPad are password protected to prevent him from abusing it to find porn on days when he is alone at home.

    For every fight we have, no matter who was right or wrong, he must stay a week in chastity without any release or any game playing. He will remind me of this rule after every fight and I too cannot override this rule. This is to ensure that we both learn to communicate like proper adults. During this period I too am unable to enjoy unlocking him or any access to his penis, so the rule is in part a strong signal to myself that I have to learn to control my temper too. If I am displeased with his behavior in public, I just say a number and he immediately understands that is the extra days he’ll have to suffer in chastity without any release for that behavior. If he keeps it up, I just keep saying higher numbers.

    He must keep his genitalia shaved at all times. No kink here, it is a requirement for the hygienic wearing of his chastity device.

    I reserve the right to tell 1 or 2 of my close friends about our arrangement and his device. I’ve only told one friend so far, who also blogs on this site and since has locked her husband in chastity. She did it because his sex drive was so much higher than hers. That way I can make sense of it all when I need to talk to someone close to me and he cannot feel betrayed afterwards. It was also kind of hot to have him show his chastity device to her one evening, when she wanted to understand the concept better. Don’t worry, we don’t swing. But you want that option if you want to prevent from being alone without friendly female input once in a while. I also had him agree to let me network with other “keyholders” online, but there isn’t much risk there to him, because I mainly socialize on forums where no-one knows my real identity.

    He must always sleep naked and locked in his chastity device. I tell him this is because I want access to his body whenever I desire it, which makes him feel sexually desired. The only reason I require this is is because it gets him horny. And a horny man is a happy man. One day, when the kids are out of the house, I might instruct him to always be naked as soon as he enters the house, just to amp it up a bit. During sex he must listen to my directions, not that I often feel the need to give directions. I explain to him that this is because he is my sex toy, which gets him horny. But for me it makes it easy to teach him about my body and how to make me orgasm. Before chastity, I was shy about communicating advise on how he could please me better and this was frustrating for both of us, because he really wanted to get me off but never received the needed feedback. Thanks to this rule, I feel unabashed in giving him helpful feedback and he in turn has become a more confident lover.

    These are just a few sample rules, I have more, but they wouldn’t apply to your situation.

    In order to create extra rules, ask yourself the following questions:

    What areas in your relationship would you and him like to change? Find 10 or less things to increase intimacy and romance (e.g. have him prepare a romantic candlelight dinner sometimes).

    Find 10 or less ways to increase your sensual pleasure (I personally insist he takes initiative to offer me back and foot rubs frequently).

    Find 10 or less ways your family life and domestic life could improve (this is how I finally got him to keep the toilet seat down).

    Ask him these same questions and, if he wants you to, use your chastity game to coach him to fulfill his ambitions.

    10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

    I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

    • It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.                              
    • Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages  per week than you’ve ever had before.                         
    • Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring.                                                                               
    • His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.                                                           
    • You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if youre in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please.                                                               
    • The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, theres no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.                                                                                           
    • You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;)  its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.                                        
    • Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.                        
    • He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?                                                       
    • He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

    In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.

    -For chastity alternatives click > Here <

    -If you’re a girl and have questions about denying your man click   > Here

    If you agree with this list then please reblog so more couples are better informed and can seriously consider exploring chastity / forced denial

    Just remember to keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

    Yours truly

    -Tatiana xoxo     http://maleslaveswanted.tumblr.com/ 

    cuckoldhusbandobediencetraining

    The Hotwife Lifestyle

    So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If you’re not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned.

    If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny.

    Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet.

    He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Don’t feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever.

    You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife.

    A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husband’s involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her.

    Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before.

    I assume you’re reading this because you’ve finally found out about your husband’s desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice.

    First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you.

    If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!

    In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband:

    1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know you’re married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single.

    2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your “dates”). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters.

    3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husband’s presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all.

    As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic ménage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences.

    Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. It’s important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the “other” man fully understands everything as well. It’s important for him to know upfront where he fits into the couple’s relationship. It’s also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband).

    With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge.

    As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that.

    Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him.

    Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.)

    Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it?

    First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman.

    DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. That’s NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why).

    When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that you’re in charge.

    If you want, it’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!).

    It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant.

    This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH.

    When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household.

    Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc.

    Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together.

    If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch.

    When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husband’s role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you.

    First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. But the excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting.

    When the man arrives at your home, don’t be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. It’s too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows he’s there for sex. There’s no reason to delay. Since it’s all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your “take charge” persona that comes with the control you’ve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches.

    If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my “date” right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope.

    Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay.

    You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. It’s up to you. You’re the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. It’s up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge.

    My advice is to NOT look at or talk to your husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. Many women feel a need to talk to their husband for reassurance. But try to resist this.

    Don’t glance at him constantly asking if it’s OK. Try to totally PRETEND HE’S NOT THERE. Watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. They want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience.

    Here’s more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Put your husband out of your mind. Don’t be shy or act inhibited. Don’t be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him.

    Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal.

    Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door.

    After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet.

    The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN!

    Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Each relationship is different. Do what’s right for you two.

    But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husband’s arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again.

    Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you.

    Chances are you’ll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. That’s just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, you’ll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he.

    If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled.

    There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.

    elpasolace

    Input on the hotwife - cuckold sexual lifestyle … I don’t agree with all of it … but it is by far the most customizable lifestyle to have … especially for the wife … I absolutely love it and would never go back to straight vanilla … ever …

    keephimcaged

    So mean, so fun...

    So hubby had been out a few days and I decided to find a way to get him back in his cage, and have some fun being mean.

    In the morning I woke before him and leaned over and started playing with his cock to wake him up, and then went down and sucked on him - I love how hard he gets first thing when I do that. Although I have to confess it turns me on when he wakes from an erection in a cage now… I’m definitely getting into this!

    So, pretty quickly I got him close and then I came up and kept playing with my hand and said, ‘Honey, I want to be filled tonight, fucked hard and deep - how about we cage you up so you get even more horny thinking about that all day?’

    Unsurprisingly he agreed, he he.

    It was a lovely day, with lots more cute sexy messages from him and all the extra attention I get when he’s caged. And sure enough, he was crazily horny by the evening. We got the kids down and then went to bed early, and after snuggling and watching a tv show as I played with his nipples, I even suggested we put on some porn if he’d let me restrain his hands. I think at that point he knew I was planning something but he loves it when I do, so he played along.

    He picked some porn he’d found he thought I’d like, and then I tied his hands up. I told him I needed more warming up so I promptly knelt either side of his head and let him lick my clit, completely blocking his view of the porn of course, lol.

    After a good ten minutes which included me kissing his caged cock and playing with his balls, I turned and said ‘I need to be fucked, I’ve only wanted it more and more all day. Would you like that honey, to fuck me nice and deep?

    At this point I brought out the strap on that we own. The noise of horny frustration he let out was hard to describe - so hot.

    I slipped it up his legs(it’s like pulling up a thong really) and positioned it just above his cage.

    ‘Oh sorry honey, did you think I meant your cock?’ I said, grinning. leaning in close and whispering, ‘I needed something bigger’.

    He begged to be let out and be able to fuck me, he might have been playing along a bit but he was pretty earnest! Either way it was super sexy.

    Then I got to watch his reaction as I slowly worked myself up and down it. He seemed to really like what I’d whispered so I said a few extra things like, ‘Oh god honey, this feels so good, I wish you were this big’ and I pinched his nipples really hard too. Oh the key was on a chain around my neck, naturally.

    After a little while I said, ‘Why should I do all the work?’ and I climbed off and had him fuck me with the strap on. It got me really close to cumming but I wanted to cum on his face so I had him go down and lick me to orgasm, twice lol

    ‘Can I please come out now?’ he said after I was done.

    ‘Nope’ I replied, ‘maybe after we use the strap on again tomorrow. I think it’s my turn to wear it though’ and I gave him a kiss and went to sleep as he curled up pushing his aching caged cock against my bottom.

    He whispered how much he loved me as I drifted off.

    teamgreed

    Male chastity is one of the most exquisite and profound lifestyle choices any couple can make… and…

    …if you crave male chastity and denial, but you’re strug­gling to get your Beloved to understand…  frus­trated at the exquisite pleasure you know you’re both miss­ing out on — and you know just one small but impor­tant step in the right direc­tion, one last small piece of the “male chastity puzzle” is going to be enough to make it all start hap­pen­ing for you… then your day just got a lot better.

    Because strict male chastity really can be yours if you approach it in the right way.

    Read more at http://www.malechastityblog.com/

    A guide to entering the Hotwife lifestyle

    So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If you’re not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned. If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny. Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet. He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Don’t feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever. You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife. A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husband’s involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her. Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before. I assume you’re reading this because you’ve finally found out about your husband’s desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice. First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you. If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage! In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband: 1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know you’re married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single. 2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your “dates”). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters, except possibly left to hear them via an open phone call while they are happening. 3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husband’s presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you, ménage à trois style. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all. As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic ménage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences. Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. It’s important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the “other” man fully understands everything as well. It’s important for him to know upfront where he fits into the couple’s relationship. It’s also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband). With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge. As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that. Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him. Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.) Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it? First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman. DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. That’s NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why). When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that you’re in charge. If you want, it’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!). It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant. This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH. When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household. Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc. Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together. If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch. When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husband’s role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you. First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. The excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting. When the man arrives at your home, don’t be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. It’s too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows he’s there for sex. There’s no reason to delay. Since it’s all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your “take charge” persona that comes with the control you’ve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches. If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my “date” right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope. Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay. You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. It’s up to you. You’re the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. It’s up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge. Some wives like to NOT look at or talk to their husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. But some husbands want their wives to look them in the eye while they’re enjoying their new lover. It can be very exciting to tell your husband how GOOD it feels, how much BIGGER he is than your husband, and how much BETTER the sex feels. Cuckold husbands want their hotwives to have the BEST sexual experience of their lives, so let him know that is what you are getting. It can be extremely sexy either to ask if it’s OK for your lover to cum inside of you, or for your husband to hear you TELL your lover to cum inside of you. And be sure to let your husband know each and every time you orgasm with your new lover. On the other hand, you can try to totally PRETEND HE’S NOT THERE. Some watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. But in any case, they want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience. Here’s more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Don’t be shy or act inhibited. Don’t be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him. Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal. Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door. After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet. The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN! Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Many husbands will want to perform CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wife’s pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! It’s a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husband’s subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband may want you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. This maintains the woman’s sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. But each relationship is different. Do what’s right for you two. But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husband’s arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again. Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you. Chances are you’ll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. That’s just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, you’ll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he. If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled. There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.

    How to Cuckold Your Husband (A Must Read)

    How to Cuckold Your Husband

    Introduction Turning your husband into a cuckold can be one of the most rewarding things you ever do. A successfully cuckolded husband will be completely submissive. He will satisfy all your sexual cravings, manage all the mundane chores of your life, allow you to sleep with whomever you wish, subject himself to any amount of humiliation you desire, and of course, love you unconditionally. But be warned, cuckolding can also be one of the most challenging things you ever do. The process is long, complicated, energy consuming, and by no means sure of success. The strain on your marriage will be unbelievable, and it may be weeks or months before you succeed. In the end though, it will be worth it. Hopefully this will help educate women on how to begin the wonderful journey of female domination and to hopefully relieve some of the apprehension that might prevent a woman from ever trying. After reading this it will be clearer that cuckolding your husband is not as hard as it seems, and that accomplishing this feat is more possible than you thought. The most common reason a women doesn’t cuckold her husband is that she thinks he’ll never go for it - that he’s not the type. This is such a myth that it must be dispelled immediately. Many cuckolds begin as ordinary husbands. Your husband may even be as manly as men come, but don’t worry, cuckolding is often a just a matter of helping your hubby discover his submissive side. Take heart in the fact that underneath all his machissimo and pride, there is a cock loving wimp that is begging you to force him to do all sorts of nasty things.  First train yourself Think of cuckolding as an expertise. For the wife who decides to cuckold her husband, she must have complete mastery of certain skills. Much like in any profession - she must go to school, read, and practice. So like a professional, before you ever begin training your husband, you must first train yourself. You’re about to go on an incredible journey; you want to be prepared, right?  The world of cuckolding is unlike the normal world. It has various rules and customs that are different from everyday life, of which you must be aware. You must immerse yourself in this new culture. To begin, start reading erotic stories that deal with cuckolding. Many women before you have cuckolded their husbands and recorded their experiences. Also many men have written about their decent into female domination. Learn from them. Reading stories will acquaint you to the new world of cuckolding and will prevent you from having to reinvent anything. Beyond stories, you may want to read books on female domination, and buy videos of dominatrixes humiliating men.  You must also train yourself to be sexually independent. If you want to control your husband you need to not need his penis. In the future you will need to deny your husband the pleasures of your body and this will be only possible if you are strong enough to abstain from sex. Sex between you and your hubby is probably pretty vanilla anyway if you’re thinking about cuckolding him, so it shouldn’t be too hard. Masturbate often. Splurge on vibrators, dildos, lotions, clothing, and pornography. Have fun! Visit your local sex shop and ask for ideas. You may also want to think about buying toys that, after using on yourself, you can also use on your husband once he’s properly trained. The key is whenever you really have the urge for a fucking, train yourself to seek satisfaction from a source other than your husband. For example, when you’re horny, take out your vibrator.  A good way to help your training along is to change your appearance. Make it your goal to become a hotwife. The prime focus of a hotwife is expressing her sexuality in all manners, from the type of shoes she wears to the way she shaves her pussy. A hotwife wears tight fitting clothes as much as she can. She wears short skirts, perfume, and high-heels all the time. She does her hair and wears makeup daily. At night she wears sexy lingerie. She goes to the gym often. When she goes to the grocery store she doesn’t wear underwear. If you start doing thing like these, not only will you be sending a signal to your husband that you’ve changed, but you’ll be sending a signal to yourself. Because you look like a hotwife, you’ll think you’re a hotwife, and then you’ll be a hotwife! The advantages to being a hotwife are numerous. You’re husband will lust for you much more, even if he doesn’t show it, other men will croon over you (this will increase your confidence), and your sexual energy will increase, all of which you can channel into power. Also feel free to start flirting. It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted with another man, so you’ll need practice. Look men in the eyes and smile. If you drop something in the office, bend over without bending your knees. At night go out with girlfriends that like to party. Make it a goal to flirt with at least one man a day. The key is to increase you’re confidence. Not only will it be very satisfying to know that there are other men out there who are interested in you, but in the back of your mind you can use this knowledge as leverage against your husband. Beginning Once you’ve properly educated yourself in the art cuckolding, freed yourself from your husband’s dick, and increased your confidence, it’s time to begin. The first submission of your husband is the most challenging phase of the process. Even if he wants to be your slave, he will resist. There are many reasons he will do this like gender stereotypes and the years of routine between you, but first and foremost will be that he wants to save-face. Not only can he not admit to you that he wants to be your bitch, but he can’t admit it to himself either. He will never just give you power over him even though he wants to. This would violate his manhood. You need to take it from him - it’s the only way.  During this time, the power in your relationship will be in flux. Neither of you will be sure where the other stands. This uncertainty will be uncomfortable for both of you because it is human nature to order the world. You will have doubts such as, “Am I being too hard on him?” “Was this a good idea?” “Did I ruin our marriage?” These are completely normal thoughts, but you must never share them with your husband. It will have to be your own private burden. Sharing thoughts of uncertainty will only insert doubt in his mind and show weakness. His uncertainty will be twice that of yours, so you must be the guiding hand for him.  Broaching the Subject You’ll definitely want to let him know what’s going on. If he doesn’t, how can he play along? Remember, you husband wants to be cuckolded. You only need to break the ice. For example: Has your husband ever mentioned how you’d feel about a threesome, swinging, or anything extramarital? This may be a good place to start if he did. First make your husband really hot in a way that still allows you to talk to him, like by giving him a hand job. Once he’s near orgasm ask him, “Hey honey, remember that time you mentioned having a threesome? Do you still feel the same about it?” Judge his reaction. His eyes may light up or his heart may start beating faster. He’ll try to hide his excitement of course. He’ll ask, “Would you really consider it?” And you can say, “Well I’ve been thinking about it. It might be fun to make some changes.” or  If you suspect your husband masturbates often, try to catch him in the act. Then you can give him hell. “Honey, I’ve had it with you! This is the last time I catch you masturbating. It’s disrespectful and disgusting. Things are going to be changing around here!” These are just a few examples of how to broach cuckolding with your husband. Note the range in ways. Also note cuckolding was never mentioned. At this early stage there is no need to be specific. The only thing you need to be concerned about is the main message: “Things are going to be changing.” Of all the stories you’ve read about wives cuckolding their husbands, choose the method you are most comfortable with.  Being Mean After you’ve let him know that things will be changing around the house, you have to follow through. Remember, he won’t just give you control, you have to take it from him. Basically you’re going to have to be mean to him. If you were raised right this will probably not be easy for you. You were taught to treat everyone with the same respect you wish to have. This is one of the hardest parts of cuckolding because you’ll be breaking the golden rule, but once you get used to it, it becomes natural. Start by taking aspects of his life away from him. One of the first things you can do is to take is his identity away. For example, feminize your husband’s name; Jack can become Jackie, Dan can become Danielle. Or childize his name; John can become Johnny, Bill can become Billy. You’re main objective is equate him with weakness - historically women and children. Actually have a conversation with him about this. Let him know that you will be calling him something new from now on. Also don’t let him call you by name anymore. Only equals can call each other by name. Force him to refer to you as “Mistress” or “Goddess.” When you ask him a yes or no question, make him respond with “Yes, Mam” or “No, Mam.” This will help condition him as a subordinate. On the same lines, you can call him nicknames like, “Little One” or “Tiny.” And refer to his penis as a “dicklet.” This will strike his insecurity with his penis size, and if he never had an insecurity, it will create one.  Other examples of being mean to your husband are to take his free time away by giving him chores, his money and possessions away by demanding he be frugal, and his sex life away by withdrawing sex. Start small, but be firm. You want him to get used to submitting, and you used to dominating. For example, make him make the bed every morning from now on instead of you. Even something as inconsequential as making the bed will have a submissive effect on him and it will be something to build on later. For example, when you feel the time is right you can add to his responsibilities, “Honey, since you’re doing such a great job making the bed everyday, I’m going to have you clean the entire bedroom every morning from now on too.” Take you time being mean. It’s more important that you are comfortable with the process than the actual process. You are training yourself to be the beautiful and terrifying wife whose husband begs to please you. Be strict with the rules you make. If your husband doesn’t take out the trash let him know your displeasure. Punish him with real consequences if he messes up.  Punishment may be many different things depending on your style. You can be passive aggressive by withdrawing sex. You can be very aggressive and spank him. You can force him to do something perverted like eating his own semen. Just make sure you communicate with him at the time of his infracture that you are displeased with him, and that there will be consequences.  Being Nice The beauty of being mean to your husband isn’t in its direct benefits, but in how it redefines being nice. Things that used to be normal for him are now special treats. He used to be able to have sex with you whenever he wanted, but because you’ve withdrawn sex from him, you’ve made it a rare event - something to behold. By being constantly mean to you husband, you’ll lower his standard of what is considered nice.  Use this concept once you’ve established a baseline of meanness, which will probably take few weeks. Once being mean has become the norm you can start. For example, let him know a reward will follow his future good behavior. You can say, “I’ve decided today that if you’re a good boy all week and do all your chores, I’ll give you a blowjob at the end of the week.” A blowjob only a few weeks ago was not worth doing an entire week of chores for, but because you’re mean now, a blowjob’s value has greatly increased. Being “nice” like this you give your husband an incentive to follow your rules — further deepening your control. It’s all about sticks and carrots. Reward him for good behavior, punish him for bad, and most importantly, remind him that he’s lessor to you. Your Pleasure First Once you’ve mastered being mean to him, you can progress to a new lesson. Train him to subordinate his pleasure to yours. His new reason for being will be solely to please his mistress. Let him know this. Things like the new car he was planning on buying make off limits. Nights out with his friends, no — he has to stay in and clean. Fishing? Nope, he’s got to do laundry.  Not only will this degrade him, but it will give you more free time. Take advantage of this and enjoy it! Go to the pool and relax, go out with your friends at night, go on dates with other men. You won’t have to worry about the kids anymore because your husband is watching them. And because you’ve forbidden him from buying that big ticket item he’s been saving for, go shopping! There’s plenty of money now, right? This the time to be a hotwife — go for it. If you don’t do these things by deciding you’d rather be nice to him, it will be to your determent. It’s up to you to fill the void of your husband’s powerlessness. If you only force him not to buy the car, but then don’t spend the freed money, you’re sending him an incomplete message. Spend the car money on yourself, and let him know, “I, your wife, don’t care about your pleasure because mine is more important.” Make sure you fill the void; you don’t want all your hard work wasted.  Changing the definition of sex This lesson is especially important. Definitely no more blowjobs. The blowjob is the epitome of giving him pleasure. Don’t even have sexual intercourse with him. Intercourse equates both of your pleasures, not exactly the message you want to send him either. If he insists on sex, have him fuck you with your favorite dildo. Make sure to mention how much bigger it is than his penis and how much you enjoy having a “real cock” in you. If you absolutely must have sex with him a good idea may be to make him wear one or two “long lasting” or numbing condoms. This will greatly reduce his pleasure. The best thing you can turn sex into is him eating you out, period. You may want to squat on his face and force him to eat your pussy, or lay on your back and make him beg to eat you. Either way, he should soon learn what you mean when you say, “Let’s have sex.” For him, at most, let him masturbate afterwards and only if he did a good job. Conditions From here you can take things further. A good way to do this is with conditions. A condition is basically a trade. For example, “Okay wimp, I’ll let you cum tonight, but you have to cum in your hand and eat it afterwards,” or “Alright bitch, I’m going to be nice tonight and let you fuck me, but afterwards you’re going to have to eat your cum from my pussy.” By using conditions, you can bring him to higher levels of submission voluntarily. This is more than worth the momentary pleasure you trade him. Once you’ve gotten your hubby to do a degrading act for the first time with a condition, the subsequent times become much easier. Let’s say it had been a month since you let you husband stick his dick in you. Then one night you offered him the chance to fuck you as long as you got to fuck him afterwards. He was so desperate to feel your soft, warm pussy, he jumped at the chance. That night you give him a good cum, then put on your strap-on dildo and stuck it in his ass for the first time. You’ve now made it much easier to fuck him in the ass for a 2nd time by breaking that initial barrier. You probably won’t need to bargain with him again, just force him. Using a condition at every major cuckold milestone is recommended. For example, when you bring another man into the relationship. This is a big step for him, so you’ll have to coax him along with rewards. Don’t use conditions forever. They are just a tool to use in the beginning stages of taming your husband. After a while you will have amassed so much power, there will be no need for them. You can just make him do whatever you want. Once you’ve reached this point using a condition will actually make you look weaker.  Congratulations!

    Sometime around this point you will have reached a milestone in which you can say you’ve officially conditioned your husband to be your cuckold. Usually it occurs after you’ve forced your husband to do something so depraved that he has no self respect anymore. It may be the night you take his anal virginity, the night you come home from a bar and make him eat another man’s cum from your pussy, or the time you force him to suck another man’s larger penis. All the hard work you have done training yourself and your husband culminates here. For afterwards the change in your relationship will be so apparent that both of you will never be able to go back. He will be stricken with terrible shame and embarrassment, and you will have finally tasted the ecstasy of pure power. Also remember that with great power comes responsibility. You are now responsible for another human being. You will have to make many more decisions because he has deferred authority to you, his dominatrix. You have changed his life purpose from the pursuit of happiness to the pursuit of your happiness; you must give him every opportunity to fulfill this new mission and he will be grateful to serve you. Now relax, you’ve made it! Enjoy the lifestyle perks that cuckolding has to offer. Live a life of leisure. Have you husband take care of all the mundane things. Make him do all sorts of nasty and perverted things. Sleep with other men and bring them home to play. Whatever you choose to do with your cuckold, enjoy the luxury of having the choice…:)

    ow that you’ve cuckolded your husband, your job as mistress is only beginning. From now on you have full control and you’ll need to use it. Your husband will need a strong hand to guide him. You’ll be telling him what to wear, what to eat, and how to spend him time and his money. His only purpose will be to serve to you. Here are some ideas on how to keep up the dominance.  Semen On the surface your husband’s semen can seem like an annoyance. It’s messy, it tastes bad, and it stains linens. But actually it is a great tool for dominating him. The most common way to use it is to force him to eat it. Normally after a man ejaculates he wants to just relax and not think. He wants nothing to do with sex for a while. So having him deal with his cum after an orgasm is something unnatural to him. He absolutely won’t want to do it. Therefore it will require a command from you and an act of submission from him - great practice for more advanced cuckolding. This is great training since he will be doing many more “unnatural” things later.  Do this by making the rule, “From now, on every time you cum, you have to eat your semen.” If you let him jackoff, make him lick it up. If he’s wearing a condom, pour its contents into his mouth. If he cums in your pussy, make him eat a creampie. You can get creative too, like making him cum in a glass then drink it at dinner. Or save each one of his cums in the freezer to eventually make a cumsicle for him.  He doesn’t have to necessarily eat it either. If you really feel like humiliating him, you can make him cum all over his face and then not let him wash for a while. As his semen slowly dries on his face, he’ll become uncomfortable and wish he had never cum. Another related rule to make is that you no longer want his cum touching you. Say, “It’s dirty”. The contrast of him eating and wearing his own cum while you refuse to even touch it will speak volumes. You’re obviously too good for his lowly seed. His Penis Another seeming headache for you will be you husband’s penis. It’s small, it cums too fast, and it doesn’t give you pleasure. If you’re smart though, it can be a useful tool in humiliating him. Feel free to openly make fun of his penis. Call it demeaning nicknames like “Dicklette,” or “Pee-pee.” Don’t call him by his real name either, refer to him by his penis, like, “Come here, Tiny”. Let him know constantly that you think his cock is inadequate. Contrast this to praising your dildo. Let him be in the room with you as you masturbate with it. Let him know how good it feels to be fucked by a “real cock.” Make sure to cum real hard on it. After you’re finished pleasuring yourself, show him you used and pussy and tell him, “This is what my pussy looks like after a real cock has been in it.” Then make him lick the dildo clean and to treat it like a holy object. He will always want to be using his penis too, either by fucking you or by pleasing himself. It will be easy to deny him sex, but him secretly masturbating will be a problem. If you let your husband masturbate, he won’t crave for your pussy and therefore the sexual power you have over him will be reduced. His release must be only through you. Forbid any self pleasure. Let him know that his penis is your property and that he’s not allowed to sexually touch it without your permission. Definitely realize that he will masturbate no matter what you do unless you put him in a cock cage (see below). Be openly suspicious about his masturbation. Constantly ask him if he’s jerked off and let him know that you’re on the watch for mischief. Also don’t be afraid to spy on him to make sure he is obeying you, even if you don’t suspect anything. Men are notorious for hiding masturbation. Setup a secret camera pointing at the computer, buy a program that will track all websites he visits, even look through the trash for sticky tissues. If you catch him, severely punish him. Masturbation is explicitly prohibited, his penis belongs to you and he is not allowed to use it.  Cock Cages A cock cage is a chastity device that denies a man the ability to become erect, though he can still urinate and wear normal clothing. Most look like a little plastic cage that locks around the penis. It’s impossible to keep your husband from masturbating without one, even if you could watch him 24/7. Men, if horny enough, can masturbate in seconds. You’d never know. In order for you to completely control your husband’s sexuality you’ll need this device.  To start, try to catch him in the act of masturbating. If you can’t do that, find some porn on his computer. All you have to do is search for “Jenna Jameson” or search the cookies for porn sites. You should already have a rule that he can’t masturbate, so once you catch him, you’re perfectly inline to confront him, and then punish him with a cock cage. Tell him, “Since you can’t control yourself, I’m going to do it for you”. Once he’s in one, you should control the key by at the very least hiding it. A great idea though is to keep the cage’s key on you at all times as a necklace. The symbol of your dominance, right there, dangling in his face, is a great way to taunt him. If anyone asks about it, you can say your hubby gave it to you as the “key to his heart”. Let him out for a cum every 3-4 days if he’s been good and 5-7 days if he’s been bad. Don’t keep him locked up forever. The point of a cage is control, not torture.  Your Pussy While you are busy making your husband’s penis inconsequential, you should be doing the opposite with your pussy. Let him know the new center of his universe will be your vagina. His life should revolve around pleasuring it. He will be eating your pussy constantly and let him know it. Even if you don’t feel horny have him lick your pussy. Have him talk to it, compliment it, and explain why it’s so beautiful. After a long day out have him soak it and caress it. When you come back from the gym shove his face into it for a good long whiff. Let him know you’ll no longer be using an alarm clock because you expect his tongue on you every morning.  The contrast of how he treats your pussy (the alter on which he worships you) to the way you treat his dick (something useless and to be forgotten about) will speak volumes. Strap-ons A strap-on penis can be a great tool to use while cuckolding your husband. Nothing quite says, “You’re my bitch” like fucking him hard in the ass. Buy one that you are comfortable with then bring it home and show your husband. Tell him, “Since I’m man of the house now, I figure I should have a penis to fuck you with.” Prepare him with butt plugs for a few days before to make him ready for a sizable one. Let him cum when you’re fucking him, at least for the first few times. Even encourage it. You want him to equate getting fucked by you, i.e. being your bitch, to being a pleasurable experience. When you fuck him, make sure you use lube.  If you really have a need to get fucked, you can put the strap-on on him, over his penis. Then you can either ride him or have him on top. Doing this will satisfy you while driving him completely insane because all the other sensations of sex will be there. He’ll be able to smell the sex in the air, he’ll feel your hot body, and sense the passion in your orgasms, but he won’t be able to feel anything down there. This will leave him extremely horny and frustrated. The bathroom Of course the house is now your domain, but this is one area you might have forgotten about. Allow him absolutely no privacy. Require him to keep the door fully open at all times when he is in there. If you have opaque shower curtains, get clear ones. Make him pee sitting down like a woman. If he takes a shit, make him apologize for the smell and if he doesn’t apologize before you have smelled it, punish him. If you’re feminizing him, he should be shaving in your full view. Future lovers One of the more challenging aspects of bringing home another man is picking the right one. Try to pick a man that is younger, good-looking, and more well-endowed than your husband. You want him to struggle with some jealousy. Before you chose one, sample a few. Inspect not only their obvious traits like penis size, strength, and stamina, but also their personalities. You want a man that is not to hot and not too cold, that is, he has the will to take control of you and your husband at home, but won’t cross the line. He should be physically more prow than your husband in all ways and you should enjoy having sex with him.  To start, be honest with your lover immediately. Let him know you are married and that your husband is a huge wimp. Don’t be completely honest with your husband though at first. You’ll always want to keep him guessing. When you go out, allude to your husband that you’ll be fucking someone else, but don’t actually say it. Say, “I’m going out tonight with some friends, I might not be back till late…” When you don’t come back until late, or not at all, his imagination will run wild. All sorts of emotions will run through him, concern, anger, lust, helplessness, etc… While you are out on the town flirting and dancing with other men, your husband will be at home in a state of mental anguish. Before you actually bring another man home though, you’ll have to let you husband in on what’s been going on. Though don’t have a conversation with him about it - show him. Start coming home with hickies, bite marks, or scratches. Have your hair be a mess, and your clothes on wrong. If he asks, feel free to tell him, “Oh that’s from my new boyfriend. He’s a little rough”, but deflect any questions he has about specifics. Then after a while come home late one night, wake him up, and force him to lick your stretched pussy. He’ll know immediately what you’ve been up to, but will not have time to think about it because your pussy will be right in front of his face. He’ll have no choice but to eat you. Once he’s gotten used to that, bring home your pussy filled with cum. Taking these steps will get your husband used to your infidelity and make it less of a shock when you finally bring a lover home. Once you finally bring him home, introduce your hubby to him as your boyfriend. By now your husband should know everything about your boyfriend and what you’ve been doing. Let your husband know that he is to be respectful at all times when your boyfriend is here and to do anything he says. Let your hubby know, “Tonight a real man will be fucking me, not you”. For the first couple times, go to the bedroom with your lover and lock out your husband. Make sure you are noisy though. Having him comfortable with the sounds of you being fucked will make it easier for when he has to watch. He might even begin to anticipate watching you.  When you finally let him watch, do all sorts of nasty things with your lover that you’d never do with your husband. Worship your bull’s penis, voraciously suck it, deepthroat him, comment on its size and how much larger it is than your husband’s. Let him fuck you roughly, let him cum inside you, give him your ass. Transform yourself into the slut your husband can’t have and let him know that this all could have been him, but he willingly gave up his chance like an idiot.  Keep your husband actively involved in his own humiliation. Make him beg your lover to fuck you. Make him suck your lover hard or have him put your lover’s dick in your pussy. Talk to him too, like, “Oh he’s so much bigger than you,” or “This is how a real man fucks your wife”. Whenever your husband is idle, don’t let him touch his penis, a good way to do this is to make him sit on his hands. Once your lover is finally finished with you, have your husband clean the juices off his penis with his tongue. Have him thank your bull for the great fucking he just gave you. Then make him crawl to you and clean up your used pussy….

    FEMDOM IDEAS FOR COUPLES

    FEMDOM IDEAS

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    Here are some ideas on how to tease, humiliate, punish, and torment Your favorite male submissive. Have fun!

    This is a list of ideas and activities for Dominant Women to use on their submissive men. i’m posting this list because i hope people will continue to send comments and additions It could be used as a starting point for couples who would like some new ideas… As a basis for various games (a couple rolls of the dice to see where his future lies, spin the wheel… someone mentioned using the daily lottery numbers for determining the ‘punishment of the day’…) Please add Your ideas. Thank You very much.

    List
    of Teases:
    - Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he’ll “Do Anything to please You”
    - Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.
    - Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.
    - Have him address You as ‘Mistress’
    - Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.
    - Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth.
    - Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time.
    - Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes.
    - Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!
    - Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.
    - Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.
    - Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum.
    -Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty.
    -Scratch him with Your finger nails.
    -Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.
    -Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.
    -Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do.
    -Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises
    -Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.
    - Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.
    - Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.
    - Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.
    - Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it.
    - Make him lick the dildo clean.
    - Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.
    - Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.
    - Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)
     

    List of Humiliations:  Once he’ll “Do Anything to please You” here’s some ideas that will keep Your slave attentive and in his proper place, and will hopefully be entertaining for You.

    - Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid.
    - Make him do housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes.
    - Have him pamper You, have him:
    - give You a foot/back/full body massage
    - give You a pedicure/manicure,
    - paint Your finger/toe nails.
    - bathe You/shave your legs.
    - cook and serve You a nice dinner.
    - Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie.
    - Make him polish Your shoes with his tongue.
    - Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.
    - Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that.
    - Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.
    - Ride him around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop?
    - Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!)
    - Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.
    - Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does.
    - Make him screw himself with a dildo.
    - Make him earn his rewards; for example:
    - Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.
    - 1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours.  5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times.  Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.
    - If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean.
    - Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want)
    - If he’s really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time.
    - Always make him lick You clean after sex.
    - When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.
    - Lock a padlock on his balls.
    - Give him a golden shower.
    - Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)

    List of Punishments:  If he’s not performing to Your satisfaction, or You just feel the need to assert Your right to punish Your slave.

    - Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)
    - Tie him in an uncomfortable position.
    - Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.
    - Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)
    - Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.
    - In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.
    - Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.
    - Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.
    - Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.
    - Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.
    - Enema.
    - Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels.
    - Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.
    - Have him lick You clean after you pee.
    - Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples.
    - Drip candle wax on him.
    - Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…)
    - Humiliate him in public…take him shopping for panties/lingerie

    ADD MORE IDEAS TO THIS LIST

    rejectmeplease

    reject’s top tips for beta males looking for love

    You meet a girl or woman that you find attractive. You get to know her. She is really hot and such a nice person :)
    Try these ideas to help you move the relationship in the direction you want it to go:
    Serious note: none of the following should be undertaken in a creepy stalker-ish fashion. If your goddess ever tells you to leave her the f* alone then you must. A true beta will respect her wishes and do so. If you continue to pester her you are not a true beta, just a creepy stalker and please leave my blog. Don’t be a creepy stalker.

    Golden ru
    le: Jerk off to thoughts of her as often as possible. But never fantasise about you being with her intimately. Only think about her in all her glory, or about her with other men. Never ever cum while thinking of her.

    Always say ‘hi’ with a pleasant smile, but try to avoid eye contact at all times. You’re not worthy.

    Rehearse what you are going to say to her over and over in your head, so that when you eventually do it comes out as forced and awkward.

    Remember she is way out of your league. If you don’t feel nervous and uncomfortable in her company then you’re not being sufficiently respectful to her.

    Always hold the door open for her, and anyone else, male or female she is with.

    If she ever even hints at having any financial issues you should offer to lend her whatever she needs, as a friend. Never ask for this loan to be repaid and when she pretends that she intends to pay you back sometime soon always say “no problem, just whenever” with a smile.

    If she is a work colleague offer to help her with any workload that is getting on top of her, no matter how busy you already are. Sacrifice your own performance and deadlines for hers if necessary.

    Ask her how her weekend was, and if she asks what you got up to always smile and politely reply “Oh, not much, pretty boring really” (she is just being polite, she doesn’t really want to know what a loser like you did on the weekend, so don’t waste her time).

    Make it obvious that you fancy her, but always make out that it isn’t breaking your heart when you find out she’s messing around with other guys. Don’t worry, she will be able to tell anyway.

    If she ever pays you a compliment like “oh, you are such a sweetheart” etc, always blush profusely like the wimp you are.

    I learned this one the hard way, and I’m ashamed now at how foolish I was to do this, but never, ever, ask her out on an actual date. If this girl is as hot as you think she is, then she would never date a beta loser like you. So don’t insult her by suggesting that she might do.

    Always compliment her, but only in a pleasant non romantic way. Don’t be a creep. e.g. Compliment her work etc, not her appearance. She doesn’t want to think that creepy losers like you are perving at her from across the room (even though you are of course).

    If you have a rival for her affections then never get in his way. He might seem like a big dumb brute to you, but that is because you are a confused and jealous beta. betas can struggle with this situation but you have no right to be jealous of him. He is superior to you and if she likes him it just proves that he is a real man and you are a beta wimp. If you ever find out that he managed to get into her pants then you should feel grateful to him for pleasuring your goddess in a way that you never could. So even though he will find it really weird if a wimp like you tried to talk to him, be polite and try to be his friend. Basically, you owe him for making her happy.

    Always attempt to be a shoulder to cry on should she need one. This is one of the most important duties of a friendzoned beta male. Comfort her and do whatever it takes to cheer her up. Of course, never expect anything in return.

    If you find yourself hopelessly in love with her, and she starts saying things like “you are such a great friend” then congratulations. Mission accomplished. You are now fulfilling your role as a friendzoned beta male. Continue with all of the above until she tires of you and pushes you away. That is the end of your relationship with her. Of course you can (and should) continue to whack off to thoughts of her at home with your tissues, preferably while crying your eyes out like the sad pathetic beta that you are.

    Finally, talk about her to all your loser beta friends (if you have any) and pay money for tumblr bloggers to do captioned sets of pictures around the concept of you not being good enough for her. Do your best to keep her memory alive and your feelings for her fresh and painful and use it all as jack off material. You might eventually find another goddess and then be able to repeat the cycle, but you should always remember every unobtainable woman who helped you become a better beta. Offer up worship strokes and edges to her once in a while, and crucially…refer to the golden rule.

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    Let’s see… I have been the friend-zoned beta boy for Jennifer J, Kim, Jennifer P, Karen, Liz, Dhea, Tina, Marin, Lisa, Jen H, Nadyne, Amanda. 

    Wow… never wrote them all out at one time. I was ‘good friends’ to all of them. They all told me about their sexual exploits with men. I never kissed any of them except Dhea, Tina, and Lisa.  I never had sex with any of them. 

    They called me, sweetie, darling, warm bread, lovie, bitsy, etc. They all said I was handsome and that some girl would be lucky to have me as a boyfriend. When I would suggest that maybe we could go out I’d hear, “awwe you’re so sweet.  Dont be silly. “

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    A very thoughtful and helpful read for all beta losers no matter what stage of their evolution they’re in. I agree that these are all important things to keep in mind at all times. It’ll help you remember who you are and what you should ultimately be striving for. The one correction I would make is that I wholeheartedly believe you should cum when you think of her with other men. In fact exclusively to that thought only and also cum often. Soon enough the mere thought of her being with someone you once hated or were jealous about will become overwhelmingly arousing. So much so you’d do anything for her to be with him even just for the stories to fuel your own sex life with your hand. You should bend over backwards to do anything possible to keep their relationship intact and them ultimately sexually fulfilled.

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    My Birthday Gift

    So it’s my Birthday soon.

    One of the presents my girlfriend has got me is a voucher (one she hand made herself).

    On it she promises to take me to a strip club and pay for several private lap dances!

    BUT I don’t get to take off my chastity! AND I have to tell the girl that I’m in chastity! AND if she isn’t freaked out by that, or shows curiosity I’m to tell her that I’m a cuckold and what that means.

    HOWEVER if I do all those things and the girl is cool about it. My GF will give the girl the chastity key on a chain to wear around her sexy naked body as she dances over me!

    (In U.K. strippers are allowed to go fully naked and you’re allowed to touch anywhere but the pussy directly.)

    So I may go insane.

    Best. Gift. Ever.

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    So Wow.

    This happened this weekend. I almost thought it was going to be just a tease. Like - nice idea - but it’s not REALLY happening.

    But it did. My girlfriend’s rationale: these exotic dancers have seen and heard it all.

    They haven’t.

    It didn’t go exactly to plan, but it had the right result.

    We went to a smaller lap dancing club. Not a huge chain where everything is 100% under scrutiny by bouncers and the girls are super precious. We went to one with maybe 15 girls and a smaller stage.

    As soon as we got in 2 girls came up and introduced themselves. They offered private dances and asked who my girlfriend was. I told them. They said they both did girls too if she wanted or to just watch, but that was extra.

    I went on my own at first. My cage was already crushing my cock. The girl had the tiniest fuck kitten outfit and a pretty perfect light tan.

    Her outfit was all red silk ribbons that curved around her ass and pussy then just loosely covered her nipples.

    To be continued…

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    So I was really turned on.

    But I was also nervous and the girls seemed to pick up on this and asked if this was my first time.

    They were trying to talk me into having the most expensive lapdance which lasts a while and they’d both be fully naked. They start touching me on the shoulders and legs.

    So I took a deep breath and said that my girlfriend had told me I had to tell them something.

    “What’s a chastity cage?” Was the first question one asked after I told them. I explained and she was like. “You have it on right now? Why?”

    They’re both still touching me, so I didn’t worry too much and they’re both looking so nice. The one with the ribbons lingerie who led me into the stall said.

    “So it’s a kink you two have? You get a lap dance but only in a chastity cage” “Yeah” The other girl gets up at this point and says she’d need more money for that.

    I said I can’t. She leaves. The atmosphere was awkward but by this point my kink is on the table and I though, fuck it.

    So I told the last girl in the silk ribbon outfit that I’m in chastity and that I’m a cuckold and I have a small dick. I can see this girl is mentally adjusting to me as not a normal customer. She asks what a cuckold is. I tell her. And then there’s this pause after all the explanations are done.

    I think it’s going to get weird or end.

    Instead the dancer decided to sit over my lap. The next music track starts and she just starts to give me a regular lap dance.

    Only, it’s not. 10 seconds in she whispers in my ear. “Is your tiny dick getting nice and tight in there?”

    I practically came hearing that from someone new.

    “Yes. It’s really tight”. I told her.

    Then she actually reached down my front and felt the cage through my trousers.

    “Oh my god. That feels weird. So your girl keeps you like that when she’s fucking other guys? I’m not surprised. It seems so small.”

    Her ass was just an inch from my face only a second ago. Her perfume is amazing. Her hands are on my cage and her perfect tits are pressed to my chest and chin.

    “Bit of a loser aren’t you?” She said!!

    I think I died, went to heaven, then died again.

    To be continued…

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    After my first lap dance, the girl offered a more ‘intense’ lap dance in a private booth at the far end of the club.

    40mins, fully naked, lots of fun.

    But first I had to go back to my girlfriend who was sat at the bar talking to another girl who was wearing just a tiny pair of red panties and a red bra.

    I did my bit proving what I’d done, to which she laughed and looked a little red, but mostly fine.

    As promised she got out my chastity key and took the girl who’d danced for me to one side.

    They talked for nearly 5mins. Then the girl came back. She led me off to get the 40min special treatment.

    If I could say one thing about this experience which felt funny, it was the reverse cuckold element of it. It was great, apart from that. It made me feel too equal to her, when I should be at her feet.

    The exotic dancer sorted that out.

    She spent the entire 40mins, her tight, toned naked body writhing over mine, with, as promised, the chastity key around her neck.

    She whispered in my ear repeatedly, things like:

    “I bet you wish you weren’t such a cuckold loser, then maybe girls would fuck you instead of using you, taking your cash and leaving you desperate.”

    I could tell my girlfriend had told her the kinds of things to say. It had her 'edge’ on all the things the girl said.

    The girl touched my caged dick quite often which I wasn’t expecting.

    “No dick loser” “I bet I could make you suck a dick to get out of that chastity right now couldn’t I.” “Do you want me to unlock you, grab your cock and balls as your little cock unrolls? Too bad loser” “Maybe I should join your girlfriend next time she’s fucking her other man. Can you imagine this ass bouncing on his big cock. Or these tits jerking him off on my face?”

    Seems my GF told her to rub her butt on nearly every part of me. Crotch, chest, face. She even sat over my leg and jerked herself off in front of me.

    I nearly burst. And all the time. That key. Right there.

    My GF let me unlock when we got home. I came so much.

    Best. Gift. Ever.

    Love her. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🔑

    mary-willows

    What exactly is a handsfree orgasm, sissygasm or assgasm ?

    I would like to give an explanation about the different orgasm types and hope to bring some light in the dark because people often seem to mix up these expressions. First of all I have to say that I am not sure if a correct definition even exist. Everybody has it’s own understanding from these different types of orgasms. I personally use the following definitions:

    Handsfree orgasm

    The name already says that it’s an orgasm without using your hands. Originally it means to cum completely without penile stimulation. However, this definition has some space for different interpretations and I distinguish between two different types of handsfree orgasms:

    - Orgasm with penile stimulation

    95% of all handsfree orgasms which occur on the internet are achived with a preceding penile stimulation or masturbation. Jerking a cock and then just take the hands off before cumming is indeed a ‘handsfree orgasms’, but only in the widest sense. If an orgasm is achived with initial masturbation I prefer the wide spread wording ‘ruined orgasm’, because it’s nothing more than that.

    - Orgasm without penile stimulation

    This is a real handsfree orgasm and can be achived by using the PC-Muscle. Easy said it’s the muscle you use to make your cock bounce. This muscle is also always strained when you have an orgasm because it stimulates the prostate. Alternate straining and relaxing of this muscle will lead to an orgasm completely without touching your cock for a single second. Of course this requires some exercise.

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    How to train it ? -> Making your cock bounce is of course already a training of this muscle. But instead of quickly strain and relax it, you should strain it for a longer period of time (5 to 10 seconds) before relaxing.  When you try this some minutes you will probably already start to leak precum, depending when you had your last orgasm. Of course there are much more exercises to trainthis muscle, therefore have a search on google.

    Sissygasm

    A sissygasm is an orgasm you can achive through anal penetration and therefore frequenting penetration of your prostate.

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    Your cock doesn’t necessarily need to be hard to cum like that. The fact that you can cum with a limp makes this kind of orgasm very intensive and you can milk yourself for a long period of time. I sometimes do that during 2 hours (of course with some breaks). As you know you can see the result in several videos of me :)

    Just by definition a sissygasm’ is also a ‘handsfree orgasm’. You see there is space for different interpretations.

    To learn how to achive a sissygasm I would like to refer to this great guide of Jenna Chaste:

    http://jennachaste.tumblr.com/post/127028661593/jennas-quick-guide-to-anal-orgasms

    People often tell me that they did some anal play and ask if they just had a sissygasm just because they dripped some precum. I can tell you: If you have to ask if you had one it was definitive none.

    Assgasm / Analgasm

    I personally think that it’s the same than a sissygasm. But I also know that some people say that it’s an orgasm without ejaculation, caused by anal stimulation. Maybe this is possible but at least I never experienced something like that. Maybe this happens to people who doesn’t tend to cum a lot. Since everybody is different there are people who don’t produce a lot of cum or precum. It is therefore thinkable that these people achive a sissygasm without ejaculating. Unfortunately I can’t give a real statement regarding this topic.

    Important

    Whichever of the above orgasms you want to achive, it is mandatory that you don’t masturbate and cum for at least 1 to 2 weeks to increase your sexual sensitivity. To experience these types of orgasms you need concentration and discipline. Furthermore you need time and a relaxed environment. These types of orgasms are directly linked to you mind and require devotion. If you are stressed, take medics or anything else which compromise your sexual sensitivity, it won’t work. It also won’t work if you try too hard. Often they happen when they happen and if you force it, it will never happen because your mind is blocked. If you have patience and motivation you will try again and again until you achive your goal. I personally can say that it’s definitive worth the hard work. It’s like an internal explosion which will drive you crazy. Furthermore these orgasms also last much longer than normal orgasms.

    Furthermore I would like to mention that there is the danger that you can’t go back to normal sex or orgasms after this experience. Since the above orgasms are much more intense and fun, you will start to feel that ‘normal’ cumming is boring and just waste of your love-juice.

    If you have more questions you can find a lot of guides on google. Of course you can also gladly contact me if you have any questions.

    I wish good luck and a lot of fun!

    secret-sissy-side

    sissygasm (noun) – orgasm induced in a submissive (”sissy”) homosexual male or transgender (MtF) by anal penetration.

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    Learning how to orgasm from anal penetration is a basic goal of the process of psychosexual reorientation (feminization) known as sissy training.

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    👍♥️

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    So I want to take a mind sissy dick in my mouth and get sweet juice 😭😋😘😍👄💋❤️

    cuckjoy

    Every sexless beta male should give this a thorough read and begin practicing today.

    flr-reading

    Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

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    I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

    Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

    Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

    I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

    DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

    This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

    Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

  • High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
  • Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
  • Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.
  • Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
  • Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
  • French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.
  • Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
  • Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
  • Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
  • Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
  • Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
  • Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
  • Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

  • Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)
  • EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

  • Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
  • Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
  • Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
  • Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

    Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

    Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

    Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

    Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

    • You degrading him.
  • Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
  • Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
  • Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”
  • Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.
  • Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
  • Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
    • Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
  • Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
  • Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).
  • Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
  • Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
  • Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

  • Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
  • Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
  • And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

    Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

  • Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
  • Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
  • If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
  • While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
  • Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
  • Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
  • However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
  • EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

    ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

    For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

    PAIN AND CONTROL

    DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

    There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

    Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

    Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

    Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

    Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

  • Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
  • Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
  • Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
  • Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
  • Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

    Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

  • Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.
  • Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
  • Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.
  • Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

    Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

    Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

    Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

    This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

    FRUSTRATION/TEASING

    This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

    Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

    There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

  • Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
  • Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.
  • Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
  • Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

    One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

    The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

    I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

    Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

    Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

    SERVICE

    So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

    Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

    Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

    As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

    The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

    But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

    Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

    This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

    Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

  • Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
  • Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 
  • Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 
  • Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
  • PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

    I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

    I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

    For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

    I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

    I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

    Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

    So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

    There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

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    This is about as comprehensive as it gets. Alot of time and thought and care went into this, clearly.

    The Wives' View

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    Submitted by: Mistress Angela

    Chastity is something that Mark, my husband of 12 years, and I have had an interest in for some time. It became an important part of our life five years ago. I work in the insurance industry and have to travel a lot. He often has to work long hours. We realized that our sexual life was fading away. After Mark gave me a strong nudge to consider using chastity for him, I decided it was worth looking into almost anything to put the spark back into our marriage. Since Mark was an executive at an engineering firm, I let him do the initial research on finding the right chastity device, while I put a lot of effort into researching how to make chastity work for us.

    I have always felt that being well informed about something enables you to do it well. Whether you are reading this to help you do your own research on chastity or your partner gave this to you one thing is apparent, you obviously have some sort of interest or you wouldn’t be taking the time to read about the amazing concept of male chastity and its benefits. There is a lot on the internet on chastity including a wonderful commentary by Marie which I took as a starting point, and there are several internet support groups and chat rooms which seem to startup and die down as people move around. I have communicated over the years with over two dozen wives who keep their husbands chaste. I have met several of them in person and the one thing they all agreed on was that the benefits of chastity for their husbands were incredible. It may amaze you, as it did me, to find out that so many men and women use chastity as part of their relationship, really more than you could imagine. There was a newspaper article a while back that stated that well over a million of the plastic CB2000/3000 type chastity devices have been sold. This just goes to show that male chastity is less bizarre than you probably thought and there is a lot of it being practiced, probably by some of your girlfriends. This document is a summary of what I have found out talking with many other women and practicing chastity with Mark for several years. I hope that it will help other wives considering a chastity lifestyle for their husbands.

    Before you embark on considering putting your man in a chastity device, you need to ask yourself the following questions. Are you unhappy with how much attention he now pays to you? Do you think that at least part of the problem is that he is paying too much attention to pornography or other women? Has he admitted to you that he masturbates too much? Would you be willing to give up intercourse, if you got a lot more attention including a lot more oral sex? Do you recognize that you too have also let your relationship dwindle over time as he has grown more distant? Are you willing to take control and put in the effort to make your relationship work in a new and exciting way? If yes, you should consider chastity for your husband.

    To put this in pop psychology terms, Mars and Venus were attracted to each other, romanced each other and fell in love. Mars and Venus got married. Mars eventually retreated into his cave as men are apt to do and while there found it convenient to masturbate rather than be with Venus. All too rarely does he emerge to pay any attention to Venus. Venus thought that with marriage Mars was hers and that life would be a forever version of their fairytale courtship days. She ignored the advice of wise mothers to daughters for generations that if you want to keep your man you have to keep making him want you because it sounded sexist and not needed in the modern world. What is a wise Venus to do if she wants a happy lifelong marriage? She has to stop passively letting her marriage pass her by. The first step is that Venus needs to take control by keeping Mars from masturbating in the cave by locking him in a chastity device. The second step is for Venus to enthusiastically embrace her biological and psychological role in keeping Mars turned on. The third step is for Venus to get Mars’ problem solving nature focused on how he can please her and for her to stop thinking the answer is to their happiness is to figure out what she can do please him.

    To make chastity work you need to first develop a plan and then whole heartedly put it into action. I read a lot and communicated with many others and the strong consensus was that chastity to change your marriage has to be real and not a game. It has to be a 24/7 part of your relationship. 24/7 is the foundation; it is what changes men for the positive because they shouldn’t have the opportunity to control their sexual release. This is one of the areas that the goddess, lady, mistress, keyholder or whatever you prefer to be known as must have absolute control of. Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that you and he are still a couple in a relationship, he is still your husband and that shouldn’t be forgotten, your relationship only changes once you close the bedroom door. Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. Your dominance should not interfere in other areas though you will find he will react differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change.

    Whether this is something that he initiated, the two of you mutually agreed upon or something that you requested from him – one thing is a necessity, there needs to be something for him to gain. He is giving up something that is a very important part of a male’s life, his sexual abilities – and for that you need to realize that he should be rewarded as you will be, but obviously in a much different way. You know the things that he likes, that arouse him and put a smile on his face. Often times we find that these are things that really do not interest us but considering the sacrifice that he is making you too can make sacrifices. Like marriage, chastity needs mutual rewards and often you will find those things that you reward him with will lead to an increase in his being aroused and enhancing his over all demeanor. It could be giving massages or trying sexual things that he likes but you never desired to try. You know how to dress to turn him on and you need to find out his fetishes if you don’t know them already and indulge them. All of this will heighten his happiness and arousal. He is making a permanent change in his lifestyle and you too may need to make some permanent adjustments so that he feels things are fair.

    All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women. However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you. Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.

    How to do it, that is an extremely important decision. Developing the correct plan, one that would work for my husband, was the most detailed part of the research process. By taking the advice of many other women, I was able to put a well informed plan together that I was confident that would be successful. I followed this plan from day one and still, do to this day. I have found it works. At least a dozen other ladies have also utilized variations on this plan successfully. We must always remember that sexually we are always in command and that first and foremost we will always be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job. Mark does so anywhere and anytime I say and by any means that I demand. His not being able to experience the pleasure of an orgasm only means that I experience many more than ever before.

    You may think that this works only to your advantage and that is a common misconception. It is just as advantageous for him. He must keep you satisfied to eventually get his release and every time he satisfies you he is happy because he has made you happy. It is important to instill to him that his primary means of sexual gratification will be through yours. Eventually every time you experience an orgasm he will have a sense of sexual satisfaction. How you will accomplish this I will explain in a moment. What could be better, your being pleasured any way you like and experiencing wonderful sensations. He can not have an orgasm but he feels satisfied because you are and he will maintain a high libido. Although you’re still equals outside of the home you are the queen of the bedroom and he is your slave. To enforce that you do have a certain amount of control it is important that he is forced to do and maintain a change in his appearance, something between you and he. This must be something that would be embarrassing for him when out in the general public so it should be concealed. Generally something under his clothes; replacing his underwear with ladies panties or requiring him to wear a girdle if he is overweight are popular examples. Some of the women think that a man’s feet are best, easily covered or uncovered based on your orders and modifications could be removed when you feel it is necessary and reapplied when the time is suitable. In my case, Mark wears a gold ankle bracelet and must paint his nails with clear polish except for occasions that I instruct him to do something different. With the exception of work and exercise he must wear whatever footwear I designate. High heels are a particular favorite since he likes these on me and he looks so funny when he tries to walk in them. I find this does absolutely nothing for me sexually but it re-enforces to him the fact that I am in control.

    Achieving your desired results is easier than you might think. It is an empowering experience. Depending on your situation there will be differences but there are parameters that should be followed to achieve the greatest results. The most important step is always the first one. This is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure from this point forward. Most of the women I have talked with agree that it is best to lay out the terms of your new relationship with him in the strongest possible terms. Most favor a written contract, which I followed, so there is no room for confusion. My terms and the consensus advice from those women I talked with are that he agrees to having his penis pierced and permanently locked in a chastity device of your choosing, that you alone have the power to grant him an orgasm and that you may decide never to allow him to have another one, that he agrees perform all services, domestic and sexual, that you request, that he agrees to being disciplined in any way you deem appropriate, and that because he is locked in a chastity device that you may need to find other people to meet some of your sexual needs. Anything less than this and he has either not admitted that there is a problem, that the solution has to be permanent and completely effective, or that he has to give up total control of his sexuality and yours to you.

    Your having other sexually partners or cuckholding as it is called is a controversial issue. A couple of the women I communicated had long had many partners in addition to their locked up hubby. A couple of bisexual women had female partners but only their hubby on the male side. A nice arrangement if your proclivities run in that direction. A few of the women have had a fling or two and maybe their agreement with their husband made them more comfortable doing this. Most of the women I talked with, though, did not carry on with other sexual partners because once their hubbies were locked up they were getting all the sex and attention they could ever want. Some of them do tease their husbands about the possibility of seeing other men. A few of the women I talked with volunteered that if things had kept going like they had been in their marriages they would have to had sought out an affair because they felt so unloved.

    It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits. Preventing him from having an orgasm for three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately upon his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time. If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave Mark a one week extension as a warning about whining about getting out and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense. I tend to agree that with the more experienced women that I talked with that you can not be too strict with respect to the initial lockup period if you want to achieve the triple goals of getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms, getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you, and your becoming comfortable with being in charge. If you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time. In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on Mark and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms.

    After my experience and talking with several other women, I have come to strongly hold the view that it would be even better if the initial chastity period is set at one year with further extensions for any serious misbehavior. After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways once you let them cum and they expect future orgasms on a regular basis. He will have signed a contract with you saying that you can deny him permanently but believe me there is a big difference between telling a man that he can have an orgasm at the end of three months and telling him that it will be at least a year. A year’s time horizon puts an end to all the fun and games and excitement he may associate with chastity. It makes your agreeing to lock him up permanently the very serious proposition that it is. A year’s initial lock up tells him that you are committed to making your relationship work long term and that once he hands you the keys there is no turning back. A chastity lifestyle will be very hard on him initially and a year without a release will make that very clear to him. You will have put a permanent end to his days of masturbating behind your back. His life will never be the same after. Rather than pleasuring himself when he wants, he will become dedicated to pleasuring you when you want it and how you want it. Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a year’s lock up. If so he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain. You too also need more time than three months to explore how make his chastity work best for you. I was counting the days until I could have intercourse with Mark again. If you know it is going to be at least a year you will start to experiment and think about how to train him to pleasure you without worrying about his having an orgasm. When you can do this it will have change the dynamic of your relationship in a way that set you and him on the path to long term happiness.

    Upon completing his initial confinement period I assure you that you can give him an experience like he has never had before, this is a reward for the couple. You will have a sense of strength for enforcing it and him for getting thru it. You should make his orgasm a slow drawn out one with lots of teasing. It will be all too easy for him to cum very quickly. You may need to tie him down to keep him on edge but when you finally do let him cum it will be almost too much for his body to handle.

    Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow, how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. A very important step during any release period is to ensure that you will get him right back in to his device. Some of the women do this by always tying him down before the device is removed. While this has its old school charms, there are lots of other options. Locking his hands behind his back in a pair of steel handcuffs is a quick way to keep him from grabbing his penis if you are teasing him. I also have a waist belt with a pair of leather cuffs attached which is easy and fun to use. You can get something similar for cuffing his hands to his thighs. A wonderful device called a humbler works well if you want him to have use of his hands to pleasure you. If all you are doing is inspecting penis and making sure the device is cleaned then I just put the handcuffs on one of his wrists or ankles prior to removing his device. Before the cuff comes off he has to be secured back in his chastity tube. I am confident that he would not be willing to go to work with the dangling cuff. Several of the other women have tried this trick and found it works well. The less that you have to worry about his arguing that the device doesn’t have to immediately go back on the more likely you are to take it off frequently which promotes both teasing and keeping the tube and his penis clean.

    There were a number of different views about how often a male should be allowed to cum after the initial denial period. Some of the women with younger males let theirs have an orgasm about once a week. I suspect that they were masturbating a couple times a day before this so that once a week is a big reduction. Most of the women I talked to though thought that it was best to strike a balance between keeping them completely denied and giving them some hope of gaining a release. You will need to experiment and ultimately you will need to do what works best for you, recognizing that the less often for him the better. The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not very often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so. Several women who I have become friendly with though believe that once a year is the right number. Some of the women liked to think about how often hubby could have an orgasm as a small fraction of the number of orgasms they had. A hundred to one ratio was popular but you can pick the number to suit your needs and gets the time between releases just about right. This approach gives him a strong incentive to initiate sex. I suspect that Mark would be unbearable and unstoppable if this was the rule but you know yourself and your hubby and can always experiment.

    Some of the other women like to set goals for their hubbies where they be allowed an orgasm earlier than scheduled if a big goal was met. One of the women I talked with wanted her husband to lose 40 pounds. After he completed the initial three month lock up, he was given a mind blowing orgasm that seemed to make all worthwhile to him. She brought him back down to earth by telling him that their relationship was so much better with him locked in his chastity tube that he would now get out only once a year for a release. She then told that she would let him out early one time during the year for each ten pounds that he lost and that for each five pounds he gained he would get three months added on to his lockup. She was thrilled with the results. He got fifty pounds off during the year and got five extra orgasms. Now, he is right where she wants him, fifty pounds lighter and locked on a one year interval with the threat that it will be over two years if he gains back even half the weight he lost.

    Males who had cheated with other women rather than by being chronic masturbators usually got very harsher treatment meted out by their wives. The other wives are quick to talk a newcomer out of any thought of leniency for her husband if had sex with another woman. Several of these males are locked up permanently in some very mean devices with no chance of release ever as a condition of not being divorced. I have told Mark that he is lucky that he is locked up and cannot stray because I now know what can be done to an adulterous husband to make him suffer evermore. He knows he would get the full treatment and then some.

    I personally have found that a good baseline is to not allow double digit releases, meaning less than ten per year. You may find that you allow him to be released monthly and then decide that you would enjoy making him go for a longer period. It is alright to suddenly increase the time. He might ask why and you simply need to tell him why; I have responded with “because I am in control of your sexual abilities and I enjoy denying you, the longer I deny you the more you become frustratingly horny and thus I feel a sense of satisfaction”. Right now I am following the advice of several of the women I am friends with to have Mark go an entire year without an orgasm just to see how hard I can push him and how well he can handle it. We are eight months into it now and it has been wonderful. I have really stepped up the teasing and managing Mark takes more time and discipline. The payoff is that I have had more great sex than I have ever had and Mark has become sweeter and more devoted to trying to please me than I ever thought possible. He has done this without any whining since I told him that I would happily add on another year if he did.

    The most common question women new to chastity ask is what type of device to put him in. The consensus advice, which now unfortunately now with too much experience I have to concur, is to prepare yourself for some frustrating trial and error to find the right device and the right fit. There is no right device for all males. It is a bit like finding the perfect pair of shoes. The chastity device needs to be custom fit. It has to be comfortable if he is going to live with it on 24/7 and it has to be completely secure and effective if you are going to be happy with it. There are two basic types of devices, chastity tubes and chastity belts. The chastity tubes usually have the tube attached to a ring that goes over his cock and behind his balls. The belts go around the waist. They also have a tube which is attached to the front shield part that forces the penis straight downward. With a narrow tube, a good belt is very effective at preventing erections. Some of belts come with attachment points so you can hook a dildo to the front shield for you to use or to insert a dildo into his anus. The main drawback with the chastity belts is that they are expensive, bulky and much less comfortable than the tube devices for many men to wear. They also need to be sent back for waist adjustments if his waist size goes up and down. Most of the women I have talked with use tube type devices but there are some women with custom made belts by Neosteel (neosteel.de) that love them. I have two chastity tube devices from Mistress Lori (chastitytube.com), a woman on a mission to put an end to male erections, masturbation, and cheating. I have her number 7 which is a short straight steel tube which has a ring that goes behind the balls for normal use, and an acrylic number 14, which I use on Mark when he travels and has to go through metal detectors. Many of the other women have tube devices from Lori. Once you have get the right fit in one of her tubes you could lock your hubby up forever and he will never been able masturbate again. There are men who have been locked in her tubes that have not been allowed to cum for over a decade.

    It was not easy though getting a belt or a tube to fit right. Many of the women have had to go through several devices or alternations to finally get the right one. A few got lucky the first time but don’t count on it. The best advice here is to be patient and let your hubby put in most of the effort into getting a device that fits right. He is the one who has to wear it all the time. Have trial lock ups until he is ready to be locked down permanently. Don’t be surprised even then if you have to stop a week or two into the lock up to get something fixed or let the piercing tough up some more. If there is a problem take off the device and see if it can be quickly fixed. Sometimes there is just a spot that has been rubbed raw and needs some ointment or the device left off for a couple of days.. If you have to send the device back to be altered, start the clock over when it comes back and you lock him up again. Eventually, the device kinks will get work out. I just wish I had been aware of this when because there were some discouraging times until Mark was able to wear the device without problems for over a month. I slowly came to terms with being able to permanently lock him up and the satisfaction of knowing that his days of masturbating behind my back were finally over.

    For both kinds of chastity devices, there are three things to remember. First, his penis needs to be pierced so that a bar or loop can be put through it and locked to the device. Otherwise, as many of the women I have talked to found out the hard way with CB3000 type devices, he will eventually figure out how to pull his cock and whack off behind your back. Once he can do this chastity is just a game for him. It is not real and he not you is in control. A lot of the women I talked to balked initially at getting their husband’s penis pierced. Some of the women were turned off by the thought of the pain in having it done or by the look or what they thought it would feel like inside of them. Not a single one of women I talked with regretted having their hubby pierced once he had been securely locked down tight in the chastity device for a while. Getting the piercing doesn’t hurt him that much and if you don’t like the look or feel of the piercing jewelry then don’t use him with it in. I just leave the rod from the chastity tube on the table next to the device when I take it off. With the device off, Mark has two small holes on the underside of his penis that are not very unnoticeable when the rod is out.

    The usual comment I got from many women I talked with was that they were sorry they had wasted time playing around with toy chastity devices like the CB3000. They felt a sense of betrayal when they finally figured why chastity no longer seem to be working – their hubbies had figure out how to secretly pull their cocks out of it and have fun on their own. The advice of the other women when this sort of cheating was uncovered was always to take the male to get pierced immediately and then to lock him up after the piercing was fully healed for a year rather than three months because of the dishonesty. That is was one of the ways several of us started to notice how much better a year’s initial lockup worked than three months.

    You can get him a Prince Albert or PA piercing which is a single hole (6 or 8 gauge) through the underside of his penis and out though the pee slit or a frenum piercing (6 or 8 gauge) which is sideways piercing on the underside behind the head of his penis. Both have their advantages and problems. A lot of men do not want to get a Prince Albert piercing since they now spray pee out of the bottom hole as well as the slit. This means always having to sit down to pee but they will have to do this anyway since they once they are permanently locked up in a chastity device. I think the women of the world would rejoice if all males were chastised and no more toilet seats were left up. A PA piercing is almost painless to get and heals fairly quickly although it can be painful for him to pee the first couple of times afterwards and it can bleed a fair amount for the first couple of days. It is best to wait at least three months to make sure it is healed before putting the chastity device on and, if it seem tender then after some trial break in days, you might need to wait a month or two longer.

    The frenum piercing that Mark has is less conspicuous than the ring that usually goes through the PA since it is a bar that goes through the skin underneath the penis. Its main problems are that it does not heal as quickly and the first time it is done the piercing often does what is called migrating. That is it moves forward through the skin until it breaks free or has to be taken out because it will break free. This happened to me with Mark and several of the other women I talked with had the same experience. The usual suspect for causing this problem is putting the chastity device on before the piercing has fully healed, but I think that having the first frenum piercing migrate out is almost inevitable for many men. Fortunately, he can be pierced again with another frenum behind the first one. The second one is usually charmed. It is likely to hold if you wait about four months until it is fully healed since scar tissue from the first frenum usually prevents the second one from migrating. I think that I might have gone with a PA if I had known about the problems the first frenum caused even though Mark was very reluctant to get a PA.

    The frenum though does have three advantages. The big one is that inflicts much more pain when his penis tries to become erect than the PA. This is because, as the penis gets hard, the frenum rod digs deeply into the bottom of the penis right behind the sensitive head. This makes the deflating pinch a Lori’s tube is designed to deliver much nastier. All in all a Lori’s tube with frenum a much more severe chastity device than one with a PA. Mark has now tasted this property of the frenum many many times and I suspect if given the choice over he would jump at the chance to have a PA rather than a frenum. I have really come like this feature of the frenum though because I don’t want to Mark to be able to hard at all even in the confined space of his chastity tube unless I decided to let him. I also think that a frenum helps to reduce your hubby’s wanting to be all over you physically. This is a problem most women have once he is in chastity which is a little odd after years of little physical affection from him. This problem has to be dealt with by your being firm about what you are willing to allow and where. When I deliberately tease Mark, I sometimes pull the frenum rod out of the chastity tube as a signal that it is ok to now try to get an erection without being punished for the effort by the frenum rod. You don’t need to worry though because the tube will still stop the erection from going very far and increase his frustration. One of the women I talked with, whose hubby had a problem with his PA piercing, got him pierced the second time with a frenum and put him in a tighter Lori’s tube. She said that with his PA tube on he still looked at porn all the time, although the PA tube had prevented him from successfully masturbating so the porn just made him hornier. The much greater pain the smaller frenum tube inflicted on any attempted erection, however, put a stop to his porn habit. Another upside of the frenum is that the PA bar can have a mean pinch for some men if their penis shrinks too much but the pull on the frenum is quite mild if the tube is short enough. The last advantage is that the two holes that the frenum rod goes through will close up much like an earring hole if it is not used whereas as the PA hole is more or less permanent. This would not be an issue for me now that I have seen the benefits of permanent chastity and would never go back to letting Mark freely masturbate. It might be though for a woman who initially wanted to try out a serious chastity program but was not sure it was going to work.

    One of the questions that is often asked is what should you do during while the piercing is healing. During the first month his penis should not have sex of any kind but after that it is ok with a condom. You can use the time period when the piercing is healing to get him started on pleasuring you. Some of the women also bought a CB3000 chastity device to help get the process started of hubby’s being in chastity started. This seems to work well. The CB3000 will toughen up the skin behind where the teste ring will fit on a Lori’s tube and if you get him an insert for CB3000 from keptforher.com or luvtolock.comit will be very difficult for him to pull out and almost impossible for him to get his penis back in. These inserts can cause edema or swelling so I don’t think they are a good long term solution. I have a CB3000 with an insert and it works well for a few days. I still use my CB3000 occasionally when I want to give him a break from his Lori’s tube without letting him out of chastity. All chastity devices can some time rub spots in the wrong way occasionally so it is not bad to have a couple which fit differently if you can afford it. If you cannot afford a custom fit device it is possible make a CB3000 secure if you lock his piercing to it. This is not good to lock his penis to a chastity device until it is fully healed no matter how much you want to get started. Long term a custom fit device is going to be more comfortable for him to wear and will prevent erections which a CB3000 does not. I think it is worth the investment.

    The second thing you need in a chastity device is to get him in the smallest tube his penis will fit in while soft so he can not get an erection in the device. Because a small tube quickly limits the growth of his penis it also keeps the pressure off the piercing. Often the original tube ordered turned out to be too wide or too long because of the male’s optimistic measurements or fear of being too confined. After a while in a chastity tube, the penis has a tendency to shrink a bit which makes the getting the right sizing initially difficult. Males who are what is known as growers, their penis get much larger when excited, are much harder to fit than those who are showers, those whose penis gets hard but not much larger. If you get the tube too small his penis will get fluid retention which is called edema but otherwise, smaller is better. You want him completely dependent on you for getting an erection and a smaller tube will actually be more comfortable after he has adjusted to it. A loose tube can also allow enough growth from an erection that with sliding the tube up and down or using a vibrator on it some males can successfully masturbate.

    The last thing is that the device needs to prevent him from rubbing his penis particularly the head. Many males if they can rub the head can cum although it is a pretty frustrating orgasm almost akin to milking and hence not much to worry about except that you want him completely under your control. Chastity belts work best on this account since they completely deny access to the penis. If you get a Lori’s tube or one its competitors make sure you get it with extra bars over the penis head area. I don’t know why Lori doesn’t do this automatically for all of her devices.

    Lori does make short device in both stainless steel and acrylic without any hood she calls a wedding ring that attaches with a frenum piercing. Several of the women I talked with have one. Some use it full time and some put it on when they want to engage in really heavy teasing. If you get this narrow enough he cannot get off a real orgasm but can get off what is a very painful version of what is sometimes called a ruined orgasm where his body thinks it is going to cum but then the semen just dribbles out without any sense of relief. I don’t want my hubby to have any access to his penis much less be able to do this on his own. However, some of the women like it though since it tends to make their hubby even more frustrated. Lori’s wedding ring is lightweight and has no teste ring so it is much more comfortable for a male to wear. I have been thinking about getting one but just for teasing since it allows you to get at all the most sensitive parts of his penis without worrying about his being able cum.

    From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for what ever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment but you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you which I don’t. As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time that is already required. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time. You could also be creative by locking him up for one month for every time you orgasm and really go to town.

    Different from failing to do something is a sort of agitation that many males including mine sometimes get when they are in chastity as a result of their sexual frustration. Most of the time this finds a positive outlet in terms of showering you with attention, but sometimes your hubby will just need to be toned down. Good old fashion discipline in the form of corporal punishment is what many of us have found works well. Almost all the women I have talked with know their husbands are submissive to them but they are not wimps. In other parts of their life they tend to be dominant A-personalities types who exert lots of authority and are often high strung. Many have masochist tendencies as well. You can beat them yourself or it is easy to find a professional dominatrix who will do it for you. If you decided on the latter option, pro-doms are easy to find in most major cities and advertise openly on the internet. Look for a no-nonsense disciplinarian type rather than a sensuous or man hating type. The disciplinarian types almost all believe that married men should be locked up in chastity devices and know that if they deliver a well whipped hubby back to you that they will have a long term client. This has become an increasing part of their business as the number of chastity devices sold increases since some wives no longer fear that the dominatrix would have sex with their husband if he is sent to be disciplined locked up. This is probably the last thing you need to worry about though since the last thing a well established pro-dom wants to do is have sex with a client.

    If you think you might be tempted to let your hubby out early have the pro-dom hold the keys until the anniversary of his lockup and tell her to talk you out of earlier relief when you have those thoughts. You can always pick up the key from her for a scheduled teasing or inspection. You can also send him to the pro-dom to have his tube and penis inspected if he complains that he is having problems with his tube. Having her administer severe punishment if the request is not justified should nip this type of behavior in the bud before it gets started. You can also have a girlfriend you trust hold the keys. If you think a little humiliation would do him some good, send him over to clean her house and let her increase his lockup time for less than perfect work. He will never get out.

    I use to think that disciplining my hubby was a chore. Now when I beat him long and hard, though, he sometimes just melts under my cane and breaks down and cries. Afterward, I hold him tight in my arms for a long time and then have him go down on me. The feeling I get is hard to describe. It is almost magical. I now feel sorry that most wives will never experience moments of this intense closeness with their husband.

    There are times when Mark does something that really makes me mad. When he does I send him to a great pro-dom I found. She usually starts with milking him, because when this happens he always gets at least a month added to his lock up. She really works over and he is always on his best behavior for quite a while after he comes back. I recommend this strategy for any woman who wants to separate out the loving discipline that their husband occasionally needs from them and the serious punishment he sometimes richly deserves, which can be contracted out to a merciless third party.

    Prostate milking is a necessity if your male is locked up for over a month otherwise his prostate can get clogged up and his chance of getting prostate cancer increased. Milking causes a release of semen clearing out the prostrate but provides none of the satisfaction of an orgasm. A male is usually even more frustrated after a milking than before because he has been stimulated similar to an orgasm but not allowed to have it. Milking also helps to prevent nocturnal or spontaneous orgasms which can happen if he is locked up long enough without being milked or allowed to cum. You can look at prostate milking as a necessary procedure, a form of punishment or just fun. There are a number of ways to do it and milking is psychological more effective if done with the chastity device on. Some of the women use a rubber glove or anal probe specially designed for the purpose. This works but is slow and tedious. Using a strap-on and taking your man anally also works well if you go at it long enough and figure how to stimulate his prostrate. This is a favorite of many of the women I have talked with. They find it most amusing to orgasm themselves while forcing the semen to drool out of hubby’s chastity device with each in and out thrust. I give it a go every so often particularly when I want some penetration with a great arched doubled sided feeldoe dildo that some clever woman designed.

    You can also use an electrical stimulation device. This is usually a quick and almost clinical procedure if done right. It is what I typically do since I usually like to think of milking as something that should be done for medical reasons without even a hint of sexual enjoyment for him. I have a PES unit which requires two attachments to complete the circuit. One of attachments is an anal probe that slides right in with some lube and hits the prostate. The other is a strap that goes around his balls. I put him in a humbler on his hands and knees. Then, I turn up the dials to the right frequency, which I had to experiment with some to find, and the semen just steadily drips out. A professional dominatrix is also usually happy to milk hubby if you don’t want to and corporal punishment administered after a milking is more effective. Prostate milking is a wonderful thing to do and it is hard to over do. The semen drooling out will reduce the male’s testosterone level though so he will be more mellow and docile after the milking. If you think that he is getting testy just put him on the milking stand and pump it out. Many men do not enjoy being penetrated rectally and they all really despise seeing their ejaculate expelled dripped out slowly without any sense of pleasure or release. Milking is a great way of reinforcing your complete control over his sexuality.

    There may be times where you feel you have to unlock him to use his penis. Fortunately, there is a way to do this without letting him orgasm by using elamax numbing creme and a several condoms. This usually works but there is always a small risk that he will cum especially if he has been locked for a long time. There are other alternatives that allow penetration without this risk. The easiest is to use is a strap-on dildo. There are two models, the feeldoe and nexus that were designed by women that will give you great stimulation while allowing you to taken him anally. The Tickleberry and Good Vibration’s websites are good places to look. There are also a number double sided penis gags that you can use to ride his face and there is even a dildo you can strap around his thigh. The most fiendish devices are those that fit over his penis. Lori sells a dildo sleeve that fits over her tubes. A chastity tube does not have quite the right shape so it is not the most comfortable ride for you, but if you really want to get to him on the tease side it is hard to beat. He will be a wreck as there is no way the Lori’s tube will let him get erect but his mind and body will just keep on trying. Somewhat better for your pleasure is a new device called Her Delight from the keptforher.com company that makes an insert to help prevent males from pulling out of their CB3000. This device uses the CB3000 teste ring to anchor a dildo that slides over hubby’s penis.This dildo is harder than Lori’s sleeve, but not too hard. Although he can get reasonably hard in it, he will get very little in the way of stimulation that might lead to an orgasm. You on the other hand can keep at it as long you want with no worries that he will cum at all, much less too soon.

    Every so often I and many of the women I have talked with want the real thing. To make these rare opportunities for him to have intercourse with you work for both of you, you need to recognize that after being locked up for a long time he will cum with a hair trigger. He is also unlikely to get as large as he did before long term chastity unless you take him out of the tube and get him hard on a frequent basis. You can avoid disappointment if you stimulate him to orgasm in some way other than intercourse when you first let him out of the tube. After he cums give him a Viagra and wait an hour or so before you use him for up. It is good for about three hours or you can give him a Cialis if you want to do an all day thing. Once he has cum the first time and recovered by the time the erection drug takes effect, he will not orgasm nearly as easily and either of the two drugs will get and keep him really hard even if he has another orgasm. Some of the women use their hubbies for intercourse for several days in a row treating the whole event as a single release period before they lock him back up for a prolonged duration.

    The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself. The two can be one and the same thing. Having him perform cunnalingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately, for you the chastity device will keep him from going over. Just think the more sex you get without letting him cum the more he wants you. If more women knew this secret there would be a lot more locked up husbands and boyfriends. Remember you have all the time in the world to train him to do the way you want without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide if you want to be the one that initiates sex or whether you want him to. My usual rule with Mark is that I will tell him when and how I want to be pleasured and he is expected to drop everything when this happens. This is clearly a control issue for me but your tastes may differ. One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock. Mark is not quite there yet but he is getting there.

    There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him. There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the tube and work over his cock for hours. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow. You may find that you have to ice down is penis to get back in the tube. Dress up in the way that drives him crazy and stand him at attention nude in his chastity tube while you softly stroke him all over except for ignoring his cock. He will struggle to stand tall as his cock struggles to grow in the chastity tube. Every woman needs to develop her own style. You can keep things fresh by continuing to experiment. It may seem like a lot of work but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again.

    If he doesn’t already, he will want to workshop you as a goddess after you have locked him up for a while. This initially bothered some of the women I talked with who felt their hubby’s new found attention to be artificial. It is driven partially by his newly increased testosterone level but that is what also drove his courting of you. Most often he has agreed to being locked up because he desperately wants to want you that badly again. You need to reciprocate by demanding that he worship you as a goddess but you also need to figure out how to channel his attention in directions that are good and work for you. Those may be very different from his ideas of how he should worship you, but this is an area where your desires come first and you need to maintain strict control if you are going to be happy with the chastity arrangement.

    While it is hard to do too much physical teasing, conversation, by far, plays the bigger part. It takes very little energy and allows you to increase his frustration without having to do anything. Telling him what you like about his predicament, letting him know how much you appreciate what he has done to become a better spouse, partner, friend and lover. Let him know how his being chaste turns you on, if seeing him struggle thru sexual frustration entertains you let him know. Maybe you enjoy his not being able to touch himself, whatever it is communicate it. You should also not forget that all of those things that use to drive you crazy like porn and ogling pretty young things can now be used against him. There is nothing like knowing that the chastity tube is really biting as his favorite eye candy passes by. The beauty of a good chastity device is that not only does it prevent him from getting an erection and masturbating but that the device is always working for you. It stimulates him at the first sign of arousal and then quickly constraining the budding erection. You should never miss an opportunity to point things that might arouse him. You might even pick up a copy of his previously favorite masturbatory reading material and thumb through it with him.

    It is understandable that there may be days that you want to ignore his situation. It is alright to not care that all the time that he is not no longer in control of his manhood and you can let him know that you don’t. Still you should not let this go more than a few days without making positive comments about his being locked up for you. The main thing if you are going to lock him up is that you need to make a commitment to yourself and him to make this work. I have told women who were thinking about chastity that if they were not willing to take control of the teasing, discipline and the frequency with which they had sex and the effort this entails that they might be better off in their old relationship where he ignored you and you ignored him. There is a way to get what you want but it will not happen by itself. He cannot change himself, but a chastity device and a lot of hard work on your part can mold him into the husband you have always dreamed about.

    As the endeavor in to chastity continues you will be able to add ideas and musings to your relationship that you find works well. Remembering the basic principles of how to keep your hubby under your spell will let you, and him, discover chastity’s amazing rewards. Always maintain the upper hand, do those things to show both you and him that your requests are nothing less than a requirement for him. You will never want to let things revert back to his self “lack of” control again. Believe me, the routine is effective and over the long term you’ll not regret it even though at times it seems like a lot of work.

    There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them – be careful what you wish for. I think some of the husbands would given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his. I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials and tribulations of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier.

    WHY I AM FOR MALE CHASTITY

    Alright, so the idea of male chastity, from the outside looking in, for many people, is a scary idea.  It’s scary, weird, bizarre, and conflicts with so many beliefs systems that many can’t take the idea seriously.  It’s a taboo.  Which is really ashame, because the benefits of it are so incredible, that it should be something people are shouting from rooftops about.

    When you look at society today, and see how driven it is by objectifying women, the one thing people fail to notice, is the actual psychological effect it has on men.  Advertisers know that if they stimulate the male libido, they are likely to sell more products.  So women are used to seduce them into buying anything.   They understand the psychology behind it.  But what most people don’t see, is the raw feminine power.

    Advertisers are using women, as a weapon against men, because men are weak against women, use women to promote a product, and they’ll have less resistance, and want to buy it.  Men are mostly oblivious to all of this.  They get overrun by their desire, and want women to “ get off” to get laid.  To make that exquisite itch go away in a burst of 4 seconds of pleasure.

    So men are too busy chasing their own desire, which is being manipulated by society in hundreds of different ways, which naturally, suppresses women, making them fall victim to things like rape, or being cheated on. Society further promotes this through drinking, and one night stands.  It’s also why so many “flings” never mount to anything more, because all he wanted was her body, and had no interest in her as a person.

    Relationships that do succeed, tend to have a period of discovery phase, which may last as long as 6 months.  Eventually however, it tends to fade, the sex life wanes, everything becomes routine maybe even boring, he orgasms through masturbation, and she probably doesn’t at all. Then they get married. A kid comes along and makes things interesting, but the sex life still sucks and the bickering starts, if it hadn’t already, and they live out their lives having a mediocre time. This is the typical relationship. It’s very common.  Of course it can be adjusted for each couple, but generally, most people never even know, to explore their inner desires.  Some do, and are to afraid to bring it up for fear of losing them. Some bring it up and are shut down.  But if you’re lucky, it’s brought up, and accepted, and then explored. This is when taboo has a chance to thrive.

    Or you could just skip all that and pay attention.  Male chastity.  This can work for many men, even if they’re dominant, many switch once discovering chastity. Some don't, there is no one size fits all solution in relationships.  But there can be one size fits most. It’s worth trying just for fun if nothing else. What good is life if you’re not experimenting and learning what life is all about? You can be close minded when you’re dead.

    So, lets get to the point shall we?  Male chastity, is something that can rekindle, or better yet, light the fire of passion in your relationship.  Yes, it’s a device, that yes, gets locked onto his penis so that he may not have erections or touch himself.  Yes, that puts his partner, in control of when he gets a release. For the sake of the theme of my blog, the partner is female, but this can be interchanged to make it suit you. 

    She gets to control when he gets sexual pleasure.  This should automatically, turn most males on like nothing else.  The grass is always greener on the otherside of the fence.... He’s going to want what he can’t have.  His sexual desire is therefor going to shoot through the roof. You see, chastity, is like one of those advertisements.  It stimulates the libido, but you see, the problem is, there’s no product.  It’s being stimulated, and he’s helpless to purchase the merchandise to “ get off.” Instead, his partner demands that all that extra energy he can’t spend, gets directed toward her.

    Since he cannot spend his own energy, his own sexual desire humbles him.  It’s like a feedback loop.  It’s a self perpetuating cycle that keeps him constantly craving release, yet being humbled by his own desire enough to focus entirely on his partner.  Making her pleasure the primary focus.  With male chastity becoming a constant theme in the relationship.....something magical happens.

    Are you ready for it?

    The period of discovery that disappears from conventional relationships within a few months, never ends once he is in chastity!  The raw feminine power of his partner overpowers him and his own desire makes him submit to her, because he’s powerless to even want to stop her.  The chastity device keeps his passion high at all times.  He will always want what she wants. And as long as she isn’t cruel, and shows that she cares about him, and allows him a release once in a while, he will forever be head over heels in love with her.

    Her power of controlling his chastity, will also become extremely addicting for her, because he is meeting her on every level she has ever dreamed of.  Allowing her to open fully in trust to him, and relax completely, knowing its safe.  A feeling typically never discovered in conventional relationships.  She can be her complete feminine self, and let go of all her inhibitions, and sleep soundly, knowing he desires her at any moment.  The relationship can then be led by her desire. 

    Female desire.  This is what powered the period of discovery phase of a conventional relationship.  His need to court her, his need for manners, and courage and chivalry and romance.... Fueled by her power over him.  With chastity, her power never wanes, and as she learns to use her power in new ways, her desire flourishes.  She can guide him in so many ways, and he will learn so much about himself as a result.  It benefits both of them in ways that can only be experienced.

    A relationship that includes male chastity, is as close to a Disney princess happy ending as you can get.  Male chastity doesn’t have to be weird or bizarre or taboo.  Try it out, and men will discover the fulfillment they have always been chasing, and she will discover all the attention and emotional support she has ever wanted.  A perfect connection between male and female, where understanding is the fundamental foundation from which everything else is built. 

    That is why I promote male chastity, because men have been confused by advertisements and porn for far too long that they’re confused about their own bodies. Male chastity can help men remember who they are, understand their own libido, and empower them to be better men in this world. Not just for the women, but for all of humanity.  Male chastity, with a woman’s guidance, can actually turn him into a creative genius. More focused, more clarity, more motivation, more energy, more alive, more vitality, more emotional, more sexually fulfilled.  Male chastity will teach a man that it’s not ejaculation that he wants, it’s the desire, and the surrender to his own desire, where his true fulfillment waits to be liberated.

    So... now that you know the benefits, how can you not at least want to try it?

    Audio Training

    I have recently started using audio in my training and control of Luv. I have purchased a tiny Bluetooth receiver that normal ear buds can plug into. His ear buds are installed in his ears, plugged into the receiver, and the whole thing is small enough to tuck into his locking hood or his baby bonnet.

    I have recorded my voice giving commands, humiliations, loving affirmations and rule reminders, all in separate, very short mp3 files, which are mixed into playlists with various, random lengths of silence. Each audio clip has been recorded multiple times in slightly different ways so that it doesn’t always sound exactly the same, some in a normal voice, some using baby-talk for a touch of humiliation and at bedtime, and some using a more stern voice during commands and rule reminders.

    My android tablet is left running, locked up out of his reach, feeding the audio via Bluetooth to the earbuds locked in his ears. The Bluetooth receiver can run for up to 20 hours before it needs recharging.

    The great thing about this is, once it’s initially set up, I can actively command and control him for hours without any effort on my part. All I have to do is start the playlist and after that, sit back and relax. It’s great for those times you just don’t feel very dominant, but still want to give him the experience.

    When He’s Left Home Alone

    Before I go out shopping, I can put his earbuds in, lock his hood on with the eye and mouth covers removed, and leave a playlist running. The playlist will give him various commands, whisper humiliating things in his ear, or just remind him that I own and love him. It can control him for the whole time I’m absent.

    It’s easy to tell if he is obeying the commands given to him while gone. I leave a surveillance camera video recording him that I can review whenever I feel like it. I know from the playlist what commands were given at what time and can check the video to see if he obeyed them.

    For instance, if the playlist gives him a command to do corner-time 45 minutes after the playlist starts, I can go to the 45 minute mark on the video to ensure he did as he was told. With the video sped up, I can watch for him removing his nose from the corner.

    I can quickly review a video that lasts for hours in only a few minutes and assign punishment demerit points for disobeying the commands on the playlist. I don’t even have to review the video each time as just the threat of doing so will be enough to ensure he obeys. I usually do though, because I love watching them in my spare time.

    I like to set the playlist up so that it orders him to snap the blindfold and gag onto his hood and wait kneeling at the door before I get home as I love it when he greets me like that.

    I have created over 20 different playlists for when I leave him at home and continue to add more so that it never gets repetitious or he knows what’s going to happen.

    Night Time Locked In His Cage

    I always make him wear his adult baby bonnet when he sleeps in his cage. I have sewn a little pouch inside to hold the Bluetooth receiver. With his earbuds in, I put his bonnet on and tie it in place, and then lock his fist mitts on ensuring he can’t remove the bonnet.

    I have many special playlists for bedtime that I play on the nights he is locked in his kennel. I use baby-talk a lot in his night time playlists. He will fall asleep to my voice whispering in his ear what a good little bitch he is, how much I love him, how much I love owning him, that he is too precious to be left free, and that is why I lock him up every night.  Since I make him wear a diaper at night while caged, I like to see if I can make him wet himself while sleeping. The playlists are set up so around 5 o'clock in the morning, the sound of running water will be played just loud enough that he can hear it, but not enough to wake him up. My recorded voice will softly whisper gentle commands in his ear telling him to go pee in his diaper. It hasn’t been entirely successful yet, but I think if I work on getting him used to peeing on my command in the daytime, it may help.

    Future Plans

    In the future, I will explore the idea of using audio for punishments. I can use annoying sounds on their own for minor punishments or to enhance other punishments like corner time or guarding the stairs. Sitting on a hard step with your wrist handcuffed to the rail for a few hours is bad enough, but add to that the constant sound of a baby crying, or bagpipe music, would make it much worse.

    How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps

    1:  You  need to get into his head.

    -Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.  Use this information against him and to Your advantage.

    -Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

    -Make him show his loyalty to You regularly.  Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.

    - Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy.  Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”  

    -Make him need You for everything.  Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.

    - Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.

    2:  Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!

    - Don’t let him get away with anything!  When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

    - You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.

    - Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

    - Long term bondage

    - Corner time

    - Food restrictions

    - Writing standards/lines\

    - Write a book report or essay.

    - Ground him/take away privileges.

    - Wash his mouth out with soap.

    - Make him do anything he hates.

    - Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

    - Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment.  That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

    3:  Routinely discipline him.  This is different than punishment.

    - Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.

    -Humiliate him often.

    - 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.

    - If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while.  You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this.  For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

    - Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run.  You will have to punish him less as a result.

    - Taking care of You can be part of his discipline.  Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.

    4:  On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.

    - Talk sexy to him.

    -Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.

    - Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.

    - Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.

    - Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

    - Make him give You orgasms.  This is different from sex.  This is a service.

    - Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.

    - Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.

    - Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.

    5:  Control Your own feelings of guilt.

    -      Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him.  You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!

    -      Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.

    -      Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.

    -      Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak.  You need to control that shit.

    -      Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them.  Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior.  This can’t always be done by talking.  And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

    -      Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs.  You are filling his needs.

    -      Remember, You both need to be happy.  But happiness comes from different places for different people.  If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

    -      A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.

    6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

    - Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.

    - Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.

    - Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

    - Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.

    - Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc.  In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

    - Make him masturbate for You.

    - Slap him in the face.

    - Spit on him.

    - Treat him as an inferior in public.  (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes  etc.)

    - Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

    - Talk down to him in front of others

    7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You. Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

    - If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so.  Control his workouts, diet etc.  Make sure and be realistic with this one.

    - Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.

    - Put him on a sleeping schedule.  Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times.  The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.

    - Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.

    - Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You.  (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)

    - Change their grooming habits to Your liking.

    8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has.  Make sure You are at the top of that list.  One great way to do this is to deny him things.  Yep, it’s time to say “No.”  Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

    - You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

    - Make him show his gratitude to You often.  Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.

    - Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.

    - You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes.  (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.)  Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.

    - Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.  

    9:  None of these actions will work without real trust.

    - If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.

    -  If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you.  The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.

    -Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something.  Follow through always.

    -  When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.

    - Subs need constant reassurance.  Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours.  If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

    - If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape.  Giving  sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time.  If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.

    -Talk to Your sub often.  Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.

    - By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back.  Also, nothing he has is his forever.  You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right.  Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog.  Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned

    -Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family.  Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member.  Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them.  Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.

    Please note: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub.  This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub.  This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc.  These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene.  Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will work for You.

    Stop the Thrusting

    I have recently been thinking on ways to ensure our lovemaking reflects our wife-led marriage. When people make love the woman usually lies there passively while the male thrusts into her giving them both pleasure. For the male, thrusting his hips is a biological urge hardwired into his brain as the way to have sex and dominate his wife.

    I have decided to train my husband to never thrust his hips. On the rare occasions my husband is allowed to be inside me, I am always on top controlling the action. If he thrusts in the slightest, I climb off of him and it is over. His penis gets locked up and he finishes me with our strapon head harness, which is the only thing he is allowed to thrust with.

    This changes the dynamic of our lovemaking. If he is inside me, His penis plays the passive role while my pussy hungrily engulfs and consumes him. Sometimes I like to just sit there on top of him with him inside me.

    During his more regular releases with my hand, the same rules apply. He has to keep his hips perfectly still while I pleasure and manipulate his genitals or I stop touching him immediately. He has accidentaly ruined his own orgasms at times by losing control of himself just before cumming and i pulled my hand away. I just laugh at him while he growls in frustration, then kiss him and lock him back up. Poor baby!