Being an ADHD adult is fun when people seem to get... personally offended when you are aware that you've failed, forgotten, or neglected something before, and plan your life with that awareness in mind. Like how does that work, that being able to plan and prepare for things not working out as intended is mature and responsible, acknowledging your own faults and flaws is mature and responsible, but somehow it's childish and immature to acknowledge that you are the liability in every situation, and prepare accordingly?

Like they'll look at you like you just called their dog a slur and just go "don't just already assume that you're going to [have a symptom], just don't [have the symptom] in the first place!" Like oh shit right damn. Titanic only sank because of the lifeboats. If there had been zero lifeboats on the ship, the crew would have been more motivated to do their jobs perfectly and everything would have been fine. Failsafe plans are demons that summon failure, the only sensible thing is to only plan for perfection and naturally assume that everything can only go flawlessly.

Like bruh.

mmmm-books

Can’t believe Jane Austen wrote Pride and Prejudice in the 2000s

And in 2015 Emily Brontë released literary clsssic Wuthering Heights

Thank God someone paved the way for them…

nitrosplicer

if you think jk was the first woman author, you don’t actually care about women authors.

syrupie

Mary Shelley didnt fuck on her parents graves for this level of disrespect

adrianainthesnow

Murasaki Shikibu didn’t invent the novel for this.

steakplissken

Christine de Pizan did not sit down at her desk and write The Book of the City of Ladies, advocating for women’s education and finding value in women of all social classes and backgrounds, in 1405 for this.

ailorian

🎶SHAHARIZADE HAD A THOUSAND TALES🎶

captainlordauditor

This……….isn’t even true in 20th century fantasy or childrens books? Pierce, Lackey, Applegate, McCaffrey, Bradley, Butler, whomst?

amuseoffyre

Casual reminder that

khadij-al-kubra

And do I even need to mention what a badass pioneer Ursula Le Guin was for women author in the fantasy/sci-fi genre?

impatentpending

Not to mention Agatha Christie is literally second only to Shakespeare in terms of works sold – 4 billion compared to JKR’s paltry 500 million 

nightmare-your-worst

These women walked so JK Rowling could be limply dragged across the ground.

classy-fucking-elegance

In terms of children’s/YA authors of coming-of-age literature, you can’t forget Judy Blume.

Blume is quite arguably one of the most influential modern authors, and was certainly a huge influence on multiple generations of young readers. Although sadly, apparently not all readers picked up on her consistent theme of empathy:

MR: Are you a political person? Do you keep up with the terminology of feminism and the latest political definitions?

JB: Yes, I'm a political person. Do I think about the terminology of feminism? I don't know that I think about the terminology. Lately I've had to think about TERFs — that’s trans-exclusionary radical feminists.

MR: Do you have any thoughts on J.K. Rowling’s views?

JB: I am not a TERF.

MR: You shaped so much of modern womanhood…or at least so many modern women have read and probably been shaped by your books.

JB: And she was too. Because I met her once and she said, "Oh, my sister and I loved your books. And we used to get into bed at night and we read Deenie.”

I only met her once very, very early in her career. And I don't know what's going on there…I'm not participating in any of the online controversies about that. But I'm supportive of people who want to be whatever they need to be.

terrie01

One thing I’ve realized during the pandemic is that NTs are actually pretty rigid. Despite the fact that a certain rigidity of thinking and need for routine are often mentioned as hallmarks of neurodivergence (most often for people on the spectrum, but it does come up occasionally for other things like ADHD, anxiety, etc), the antimask crowd is overwhelmingly NT.

Among ND people I know, the response to masks has varied. Some really like them, because they don’t need to spend a ton of energy thinking about their facial expressions. Some have basically gone “I don’t like them, but whatever. It is what it is.” And a small few have had sensory issues they can’t figure out a work around for, so they just do curbside pickup and avoid situations where a mask is needed as much as possible.

And when you think about it, it’s not very surprising. ND people, whatever our individual issues, are pretty used to having to move through a world not designed for us. Why would a pandemic be any different?

Meanwhile, we got to witness NTs having meltdowns because they couldn’t get a haircut. The pandemic had interrupted their routine, and they couldn’t handle it. For the first time, they were living in a world that wasn’t designed around their desires.

So apparently rigidity and a need for routine aren’t a ND thing, so much as what happens when human beings live in a society that isn’t designed around their preferences.

earhartsease

yep, 95% of nt life is ritual, it’s just so normalised it’s invisible to them but we damn well notice

lavenderlion

@squigliez your tags were too good to not share

technoxenoholic

[ID: tags which read, “#i didnt think about it till now but plenty (caps) plenty (end caps) of NTs were exhibiting the maladaptive behaviors that have defined many ND disorders #so turns out they arent really symptoms of being ND but of living in a world where ur routine isnt respected and ur needs arent met always #so then why are we using those as criterion for diagnosing ND people? instead of idk. meeting them where theyre at #or anything else really. anything else”. a minor typo has been corrected in this transcription for accessibility. end ID]

googlepliers

Happy 21st of September!

pharmdup

Fun tags on this post

classy-fucking-elegance

So, setting aside the gastronomic plight of pharmacists: making necessary things more pleasant (or at least less unpleasant) actually increases the likelihood of people doing them.

The argument for things being unpleasant is often a circular one about necessity: the world is unpleasant, so you must learn to expect and accept the pervasive inevitability of unpleasantness. But ultimately this fails on its own terms, because unnecessary unpleasantness is inefficient. People as a whole are less likely to take their meds, see a doctor, file their paperwork, or otherwise interact with really any object or system which discourages them from doing so, thus ensuring worse outcomes for society as a whole.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for “building character”—the world can be rough, and it’s valuable to learn how to deal with that. But unsurprisingly, fetishizing misery only increases misery. Even from a purely utilitarian standpoint, nicer is better.

Black - Wonderful Life [Official music video w/ lyrics]

austexother

Fuck the holidays. I just want it to drop below 100°.

Samantha Arielle Harvey by Lauren Crow

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My body is magical. Every hill and valley. Every dip and turn. Every bump & roll. Pure intergalactic magic 👽☄✨

Photography|Taylor Giavasis for The Naked Diaries

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kaijuno

I saw this on time tabloid but I can’t stop laughing about the thought of Elon and his little clone babies he’s having with the cringe goth woman

iguessweallcrazyithinktho

Love when famous people think they're being different when naming their kids, but it shows how deranged they are

kaijuno

My sister is a school teacher in a WASP community. It’s not just a famous people problem, it’s a middle class white problem too lmao

harcodia

The are also calling their kid "Tau" for a nickname - - - -

It's a Warhammer 40k reference.

For reference

" The T'au Empire (pronounced "TOW" as in "WOW"), also spelled Tau Empire in older Imperial records, is a rapidly expanding, multispecies xenos stellar empire situated within the Imperium of Man's Ultima Segmentum, near the Eastern Fringes of the Milky Way Galaxy. It lies within the reach of the Astronomican.

The T'au Empire was founded by the T'au caste called the Ethereals, who lead the T'au Empire in the name of and in accordance with the utilitarian philosophy they have named the "Greater Good" (Tau'va in the T'au Lexicon). A large and growing number of other intelligent, alien races have allied themselves with the T'au within the empire."

kaijuno

My boyfriend is a big warhammer guy (and me as well to an extent, like I’ve played a few of the games) and I’m gonna show him this to make him suffer too :)

sparethedreamer

I don't understand why you all are taking such great offense to unconventional names. I think Musk is a horrible person, and yeah his kids names are pretty silly. But those names aren't hurting anyone, certainly not you. If anything, people with unusual names are being hurt by people like YOU. You are sitting here mocking and criticizing such a key aspect of someone's identity. You are deciding these names, and by extension, these people, are cringe and worth dismissing.

"lol white middle class people cringe" "lol mormons cringe" or you could stop othering people who are just as much as people as you.

Isn't creativity good? Shouldn't there be more than the same 3 names over and over and over? Isn't this how new, cool things are put into the world? Shouldn't people have the freedom to add their own little flair in life, even if that flair is naming their kid something they find meaningful and neat?

C'mon, we're better than this.

Love,

Someone who's name has been on all the (usa) top 10 lists for forever

kaijuno

Yeah I really loved my unconventional name and all the bullying I got as a child. Thanks mom and dad for being creative

gatorfisch

Bingo. It does hurt someone - the KID saddled with the name

daziechane

Creative = ok

Deranged and "kryee-ay-tyvve" = not ok.

So you want your kid to have an unusual name, that's fine. How many more Michaelas or Jasons do we need?

But keep in mind this is a PERSON you're naming, and that person has to grow up, get a job, live a life.

Let me tell you, as someone who has a name with an unusual spelling, it has been a PITA to explain "It's an A, not an E" and "This is how you pronounce it" for over 50 years.

So your name is bland and popular. Would you prefer being called "Techno" ??

kaijuno

Also like… “STOP OTHERING CHRISTIANS” babe………………..

classy-fucking-elegance

I don’t care how creative you are, we’re under no obligation to celebrate you for naming your kid “FærtlœrD 4D0f Pepperon-I SUPREME💋”.

If you want to give your kid a name which honors someone you admire, or speaks to your culture or a virtue or an aspiration, that’s one thing. But there’s a world of difference between giving your kid a name which is meaningful but a little unusual, and using your child as a prop joke to showcase your narcissistic genius.

You know, there are many democracies where you can’t just name your kid with whatever happens to fall out of your ass on a random Tuesday: there’s a large book of accepted names, and if you want something else, you need to make the case for it in front of a judge. And while that concept may seem shocking to American sensibilities, the reasoning is the same as for any other law against child abuse, because this shit is low-key child abuse.