I Have No Idea What I'm Doing

Just a geeky millennial adult who swears.

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OCD, Anxiety, Pain, Depression and more!

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2021-05-14 23:32:21

    Restaurants and bars really love to test your sobriety by making the route to their bathrooms as labyrinthine as possible


    Me: I'm not that drunk

    Me trying to figure out where the Fuck they've hidden the restrooms in this bar: So this is how Odysseus felt huh


    Everyone tagging this post with their local bars/restaurants that have ridiculous bathroom layouts.....I see u. I am u. We are all Odysseus, and our Ithaca is a toilet covered in stickers.


    ok I just HAVE to include this picture from inside the bathroom door of this one bar I went to

    only one of these knobs work and it's not the one that's a different color from the rest


    One of the best tips for writing descriptions of pain is actually a snippet I remember from a story where a character is given a host of colored pencils and asked to draw an egg.

    The character says that there’s no white pencil.  But you don’t need a white pencil to draw a white egg.  We already know the egg is white.  What we need to draw is the luminance of the yellow lamp and the reflection of the blue cloth and the shadows and the shading.

    We know a broken bone hurts.  We know a knife wound hurts.  We know grief hurts.  Show us what else it does.

    You don’t need to describe the character in pain.  You need to describe how the pain affects the character - how they’re unable to move, how they’re sweating, how they’re cold, how their muscles ache and their fingers tremble and their eyes prickle.

    Draw around the egg.  Write around the pain.  And we will all be able to see the finished product.


    This is actually a good way to talk to your doctor about pain too. Dont just say “it hurts”. Tell them how you need X amount if medication to be able to get through a day somewhat normally and if you dont you curl into a useless ball. Tell them the pain is so intense it wakes you from a dead sleep thinking you needed to call an ambulance because you couldnt breathe through it. Dont tell them you have pain. Tell them how it affects your life.


    This is also helpful for people who cannot identify pain on the standard 1-10 scale that is often used in healthcare settings. I don’t have great object permanence or relativity when it comes to remembering the pain i’m in compared to other times i’ve been in pain so because of that, the relative 1-10 has never been particularly useful.

    Instead I think about how much the pain i’m in is preventing me from doing my usual activities. If it’s noticeable, but not distracting or impairing, that’s 2-3. If it’s distracting me from activities or preventing me from doing things I can normally do, that 4-6 (depending on how distracting/ which tasks I can no longer perform). If I am unable to do anything but rest, 7-8. 9 and 10 are if the pain is all I can think about. I prefer to not use the 1-10 pain scale at all, but if I am asked to, this way of translating my current limitations into numbers has been incredibly helpful.

    I have found that the strategy of talking ‘around’ symptoms as mentioned in this post has made a highly positive change in my interactions with doctors and other healthcare providers in terms of the quality of information I can provide, and therefore the quality of care I can receive. Hope this can help the people who might need it.