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    Introduction

    Hello everyone!  I am pleased to be writing a blog about female led relationships, why they are necessary, and how you can have an incredibly fulfilling and lasting relationship where the passion never dies, and the sex life is always magical fun and exciting.  Why female led opposed to male led relationships?  Because female led relationships bring in more emotional connections and intimacy, based on trust and communication.  With this understanding, the relationship has an ability to soar to new levels, many never thought possible in male led relationships.

    This blog is not about women’s superiority to men, it is not about female supremacy.  It is about giving women the power they deserve.

    Introduction
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    esson   1 - Why Female Led Relationships?
    Lesson   2 - The Return of Chivalry.
    Lesson   3 - Vanilla Female Led Relationship
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    Lesson   5 - Emotional Intellige
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    Lesson   6 - T
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    Lesson   7 - Vulnerab
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    Lesson   8 - Inside the B
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    Lesson   9 - Outside The
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    Lesson 10 - Body
    Worship.
    Lesson 11 - The Submissi
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    Lesson 12 - The Dominant
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    Lesson 13 - The D/s
    Dynamic.
    Lesson 14 - How To Find A
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    Lesson 15 - Fantasy Vs
    Reality.
    Lesson 16 - Male
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    Lesson 17 - Male P
    leasure.
    Lesson 18 - Male
    Fantasy.
    Lesson 19 - Male C
    hastity.
    Lesson 20 - Male
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    Lesson 21 - Female Con
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    Lesson 22 - Femal
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    Lesson 23 - Femal
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    Lesson 24 - Femal
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    Lesson 25 - Female Respons
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    Lesson 26 - Gr
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    Lesson 27 - Microm
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    Lesson 28 - The
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    Lesson 29 - His Femin
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    Lesson 30 - Hi
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    Lesson 31 - Life
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    Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

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    I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

    Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

    Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

    I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

    DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

    This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

    Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

  • High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
  • Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
  • Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.
  • Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
  • Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
  • French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.
  • Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
  • Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
  • Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
  • Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
  • Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
  • Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
  • Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

  • Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)
  • EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

  • Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
  • Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
  • Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
  • Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

    Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

    Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

    Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

    Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

    • You degrading him.
  • Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
  • Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
  • Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”
  • Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.
  • Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
  • Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
    • Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
  • Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
  • Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).
  • Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
  • Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
  • Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

  • Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
  • Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
  • And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

    Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

  • Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
  • Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
  • If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
  • While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
  • Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
  • Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
  • However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
  • EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

    ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

    For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

    PAIN AND CONTROL

    DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

    There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

    Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

    Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

    Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

    Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

  • Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
  • Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
  • Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
  • Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
  • Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

    Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

  • Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.
  • Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
  • Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.
  • Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

    Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

    Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

    Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

    This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

    FRUSTRATION/TEASING

    This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

    Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

    There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

  • Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
  • Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.
  • Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
  • Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

    One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

    The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

    I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

    Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

    Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

    SERVICE

    So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

    Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

    Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

    As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

    The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

    But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

    Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

    This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

    Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

  • Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
  • Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 
  • Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 
  • Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
  • PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

    I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

    I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

    For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

    I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

    I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

    Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

    So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

    There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

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    A CD / Sissy / Trans que eu quero

    Estou em busca de uma CD / Sissy ou Trans, que tenha ou deseje vir a ter uma aparência feminina permanente. Gosto de conduzir, ensinar, ajudar a aprender a lidar com sua expressão feminina cada vez mais intensa e por isso, estou em busca daquelas que tenham até 25 anos. Vou ensinar desde a apresentação, higiene, depilação e principalmente ensinar a controlar sua musculatura anal e a ter prazer sendo penetrada, gozando sem tocar em seu penis. Sou branco, 43 anos, 1,71m, 86kg, olhos verdes, cabelos castanhos. Uma pica de 16 cms, grossa, que sei usar muito bem e também tenho vários brinquedos (plugs, consolos, vibradores,…) que serão usados para treinar o rabinho de minha menina. Gosto de lacear o cuzinho, deixá-lo receptivo e acolhedor, que doa cada vez menos, que acostume e aprenda a ser penetrada, a abrir e fechar o cuzinho voluntariamente. É preciso que aprecie vivenciar a submissão, dedicada e obediente, além de morar na grande SP.

    Facesitting

    For the kinky female led relationship, there is one activity that should not be overlooked, because it can play an important role in strengthening the D/s aspect for both the dominant and the submissive.  Many women may be hesitant to sit on a submissives face, and prefer he gets on his knees to perform oral, however, there could be massive benefits that are missed because of that hesitancy.

    Facesitting has a similar impact on both partners, as pegging does. Pegging humbles a submissive, and empowers a dominant, because it’s a complete role reversal. He’s the vulnerable one, he’s being penetrated, and he’s experiencing what it means to not be in control as she thrusts into him at her own pace. He’s helpless to stop her, and the first few times this is done, the power exchange felt is very intense.

    Knowing that she can take him with her cock at any time, just because she feels like it, brings out extra submission in him. Especially when she penetrates him when he’s not in the mood, her dominance over him becomes very real. As she discovers her power through this, she comes to enjoy the strap on, and can have orgasms of her own, just by using it on him. Pegging can be used as a disciplinary device as well, and is often more effective than painful punishments.

    Ordering him to get her cock, and help her put it on, then taking him with it can be very effective especially if he’s kept in chastity. Pegging can often be the only way he’s allowed sexual pleasure. It’s a complete shift in what he’s used to as a male, and that’s why it’s so powerful in the D/s dynamic.

    Facesitting can have the same effect, except, it doesn’t require role reversal, and instead, celebrates each other for who they are. It doesn’t create an inferior or superiority complex, but it really does compliment the dominant and submissive roles perfectly. While seeing a submissive on his knees is a pretty sight, facesitting takes it to a whole new level because of the psychological aspect.

    The idea of being under her, looking up at her beauty as she lowers herself onto his face, promotes some of the strongest submissive feelings a submissive can have. It’s also the perfect place for her to be, as she can control exactly where she wants him to pleasure her, be it the front or back door. The ability to grind on his face is also a bonus.

    She will feel like she owns him, and the view she can have, facing his body, can be of great amusement, as she gets to play with his body, perhaps out of discipline, or pleasure, while he is busy pleasuring her. It’s particularly powerful if his arms are tied down and he’s truly out of control. She can remain on his face for as long as she wishes, until she’s completely satisfied.

    Her scent will intoxicate him, and it will make him addicted to her more so than he was before. The feeling of powerlessness being under her will have him deep in subspace, more obedient than ever. Even more so than pegging. Pegging, chastity, and facesitting all compliment each other beautifully, and help to completely own him. It’s not just about owning his sex life. It’s also about owning exactly how he can give her pleasure. Facesitting becomes a luxury for him.

    She can have all sorts of fun with facesitting as well. Facesitting makes him eager to provide oral pleasure, but she can facesit him and take even that pleasure away with a face dildo. She can have good penetrative sex with him, using his face, and his only reward is her scent and fluids on his face. He’s quite literally an instrument of her pleasure, in total submission. Completely in his place.

    This opens her up to being able to use him in any way she pleases. Her pleasure becomes his reward. She becomes sacred to him. His face is her throne. There is no greater purpose for him, than when she is on his face. She is his universe. Completely owned, and totally devoted.

    Practical FLR Volumes 1-3

    Jenna’s quick guide to anal orgasms

    Since I still get asked a lot on how to do it, I’ll try to sum it up quickly for you guys :)

    DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor and I realize that not everybody is built the same. What works for me does not necessarily have to work for you. I also realize that there’s a difference between milking your prostate and having an anal orgasm. Short explanation: Milking feels nice and ends with ejaculation while an anal orgasm explodes inside your body and doesn’t always mean you eject semen.

    STEP 1

    Chastity. You don’t need a device to lock your penis away (even though I think it’s fucking awesome). But you shouldn’t jerk off for at least 10 days if it’s your first time. That’ll help, also when you’re having moral doubts for whatever reason. 

    STEP 2

    Hygiene. Give yourself an enema and make sure that you’re really clean. And make sure that ass is completely hairless. Objects entering your anus will pull on your hair down there and it will not feel nice.

    STEP 3

    Choose the right weapon. For me, a realistic dildo works the best. And it’s shape is very important. See this picture?

    The parts that I circled is the most important ones and are going to rub against your prostate. That’s right. Don’t poke your prostate like you’re trying to stab it. Firmly scrape against it with that part of the glans instead. Forget about your own penis. Don’t even touch it. I mean it. Only one cock matters right now and it’s not the one attached to your body.

    STEP 4

    Relax. There is absolutely no need to hurry. You don’t have any other place to go right now. It’s very important that you explore your ass gently with lots of lube until penetration does not feel uncomfortable at all. Fuck yourself for a while and don’t think about how much time already passed. Watch some anal porn while you’re at it and try to visualize how you might cum from getting fucked in the ass. Remember that awesome sex is mostly happening in your brain.

    STEP 5

    The right position. I have no explanation for this. But when I started with regular anal masturbation, doggy style worked the best for me to cum from getting fucked. But every person is different.

    STEP 6

    Don’t be a lazy fuck. Some people play with their asses for hours and expect a miracle to happen. That’s the wrong idea, in my opinion. You gotta work that cock. Like this:

    Well I realize that this little animation might look a bit silly. But that’s actually what I usually do. While my sphincter stays mostly relaxed during my fuck sessions, I flex the inner part of my ass against the cock that’s pounding it. 

    STEP 8

    Practice. It took me over a year to learn this. And when I first fucked the cum out of my balls anally I was playing with myself for more than an hour. But today it only takes me a few minutes, when I’m in the right mood. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t seem to work. Give your ass a few days rest and try again. And remember that no part of this should ever hurt. If it hurts you’re doing it wrong and you should stop before you injure yourself. Seriously.

    Good luck and happy assturbating!

    Finding my bi-curious husband

    I am married to a wonderful man and we have a great sex life. . I learned early in our marriage that my husband is both kinky and submissive. I loved being dominant in bed and making him do all kinds of kinky adventures. I never realized just how submissive and kinky Michael really was until this month.

    Over the years of marriage, we loved experimenting with sex. We are both very open- minded and have tried many different kinks. We have evolved sexually to the point where Michael wears women’s panties regularly, and is very submissive to me.

    Michael loves oral sex, both giving and receiving. I keep myself shaved and he loves nothing better than to lick and suck my bald pussy. He adores my mouth on his hard cock. Let me tell you how Michael has progressed sexually and how I helped him to finally suck another man’s hard cock.

    Over the years, I realized that my husband loved being dominated by me and loved being made to do kinkier and kinkier things. It started with me playing with his ass while sucking him off and led me to buy a strap-on dildo and fuck his ass. Today, he loves being bent over and fucked in the ass by me. I love fucking my husband’s ass, especially when he’s wearing women’s panties..

    Within the last year, I came upon a new kink that really turned on my husband and me during sex. Michael loves being forced to eat his own cum. It makes my pussy very wet watching my husband get hard as he licks up and swallows his own just spurted hot sperm. We have been very creative coming up with different ways to make him eat his cum. It started with creampies. I would tie up my husband to the bed, ride his cock until his shot his load into my shaved pussy and then I would crawl up and plant my wet, dripping freshly fucked pussy, full of cum on my husband’s hungry mouth. His cock would get hard again as he sucked his cum from my pussy. It has progressed to the point that every orgasm my husband has ends with him eating it. We love having him cum into a glass and drinking it. I have numerous pictures of him cumming in a glass and then drinking it. Another favorite is cumming on my big tits and licking it up. Michael loves being  taunted about cum eating, so I usually tease him while working his load from his cock.

    As I work my tongue in his sensitive bottom, I tell him, “Are you hungry tonight, honey? You know when you cum, I’m going to catch it and make you eat it and swallow it!” I can feel my husband quiver with lust as I tease him both verbally and with my tongue flicking in his ass. I plunge my tongue deep and hear Michael moan. I stroke again his twitching cock from behind. “Do you want it, baby…? Do you want to taste your cum?” I tease. “Oh please, Kim, please…” he begs. “Please what, honey, what do want? You need to beg me…if you want it…beg me, honey to feed you!” I taunt. This is what I love…my husband so submissive, so compliant to my demands.

    “Please
    , baby, make me cum….I need it..MMMMMMMM…!” he moans as I continue to tongue fuck his ass and stroke his hard cock. “Please what… tell me….what are you going to do…if I let you cum… what are you going to do for me? I want to hear you, Michael, beg me to feed it to you!”

    “Please, honey, please feed me…. Feed me my cum… make me eat it, OH! I want it so bad,
    make me eat my cum…. Please Kim make me swallow my own thick cum!” my husband begs. When he cums I catch it all in a wine glass and then I pour into his open mouth and tell him to swallow it all.

    For months, Michael has been eating his own cum and we’ve both been getting off on it. About 3 weeks ago, we had rented a female domination video from our local video store. We occasionally did this and usually ended up getting off on the kinky videos. Almost always, we get new ideas of domination for me. These videos involve women dominating men and usually it involved men getting fucked by women with strap-ons, men getting spanked, and men eating their own cum. As you can imagine, we have fun watching and getting ideas and experimenting. This movie we watched involved a dominatrix dominating a man. She dressed the man as a woman, putting on make-up and then using strap-on on him. Michael and I both got off watching this, but many videos we had rented involved this type of action. What was unique about this video was toward the end, the dominatrix tied her man up, and had another man come into the scene. As Michael and I watched, she had her submissive male suck off the other man and then take his cock up his ass. To say that Michael was turned on would be an understatement. His cock was hard and dripping. It was then that I started thinking that maybe my husband was kinkier than I realized.  Was my husband was bi-curious? Just the thought of it made my pussy quiver. I started thinking I would really like to see Michael with another man. My thoughts were confirmed later that night. After we had both gone to bed that night, I awoke to find Michael not in bed. I heard noises downstairs. When I came quietly down the stairs into our basement, there was my husband lying across our leather couch, masturbating watching the section of the video showing the sub male sucking another man off. As I watched and my pussy dripped, my husband stroked off and came watching the cocksucking. He moaned and seemed to really enjoy watching as the submissive male, looked up into the other man’s face as he licked and sucked his cock. My pussy dripped with lust as I realized how sexy it was to see a man submit sexually to another man.

    How sexy to watch a cuffed, kneeling man being forced to suck another man’s cock; the dominatrix was holding her sub male’s head and taunting him as he sucked cock for the first time. It was then that I realized that I wanted to see my husband suck cock. I was turned on by it and I wanted to see it. That night, I decided that I would help my husband become a cocksucker.

    That weekend I decided to train my husband to be an expert cocksucker. After a lovely dinner out, I had my husband kneeling in front of me wearing nothing but his little panties. I was wearing a nothing but my strap on. “Go on, touch it, you little slut, touch my cock, I know you want it.” I taunted. Michael reached up and stroked my strap on.

    I thrust my hips forward and grabbed his head and rubbed my strap on against Michael’s face. “What do you want, honey, do you want my cock?” I taunt. “OH, yes, Kim, I want it!” Michael announces. I slap the latex cock against my husband’s face and lips and say, “If you want this cock, you need to beg for it, you want to be my cocksucker don’t you, honey, tell me!” Michael moans and says, “Please, Kim, please let me suck your beautiful cock, feed it to me mistress!” That caused my pussy to twitch hearing my husband beg to suck my cock and calling me mistress. “Are you going to suck it for me, like a little faggot? Are you going to be my cocksucker? Do you want to be a cocksucker for me, Michael?” I taunted. “Yes, I want to be your cocksucker, Kim, make me suck your cock!” Michael responds.

    I grabbed my husband’s head forced my latex cock into his mouth. I held his head and slowly fucked his face. As I watched my husband slide his lips on my strap on cock, my pussy twitched in lust. “You know, Michael, when a cocksucker sucks a cock, he should always swallow the load of cum. Are you going to swallow my cum, cocksucker?” I taunted. “MMMMMMMM…” Michael moaned. “Tell me, honey, are you a good cocksucker? Are you going to eat my load?” I asked again.

    Michael reluctantly pulled his mouth off my cock to answer. “Y
    es, mistress, I want to suck you off, AND I want to swallow your cum, give it to me, baby, make me your cocksucker, make me a slut!” he begged. I grabbed his head again and assaulted his mouth again. I spent the next 20 minutes face fucking my husband, encouraging him with names like “cocksucker”, and “slut”.  I praised his skills, and taunted him more.  He obviously was enjoying my cock and sucked it hungrily. He was enjoying my sucking my cock and being my “cocksucker”.  I orgasmed twice as he mastered sucking my stiff cock.  . When I was sure he was really getting off sucking the strap-on, I decided it was time to feed him his cum. “Are you ready, cocksucker? I’m going to fill your mouth with my load! Get ready to swallow it all, faggot!” Michael continued sucking and slurping. “Stroke your cock, honey, while you suck my cock!” Michael stroked his cock and quickly was close to orgasm as I plunged in and out of his sucking mouth. I then handed him his empty wine glass and told him to fill it up. He quickly stroked off into the wine glass – shooting a large load of cum into the glass. He then handed the cum filled glass to me. I then pulled my cock from his mouth until just my strap on cockhead remained in his lips. I began pouring the glass of cum onto my strap on letting the thick sperm ooze down the latex shaft until it met my husband’s lips. I kept holding his head and demanded, “Swallow it bitch! Don’t you dare miss a drop! Eat it! Cocksucker, swallow it all When he had swallowed most of it, I pulled the dildo from his sucking lips. I then made him lick my cock clean and lick the glass clean. Over the next week, I taught Michael the finer points of cocksucking and swallowing cum using my strap-on.

    I couldn’t wait to see Michael being submissive to another man and sucking his cock and drinking another man’s semen. After continuing to practice cocksucking and assfucking with my husband, Michael finally admitted what I had known from that evening with the DVD. Michael admitted he was really getting off with our fantasy..

    I knew it all along. But, when I asked him specifically if he would like to find another man to suck his cock, he hesitated. It was then that I realized that my husband was truly bi-curious and he was also submissive to me. It was going to be my responsibility  to orchestrate a rendezvous to make him a cocksucker – just like in those DVD’s we loved. I then began using the internet to find a man to feed my husband his cock. Within a couple of weeks, I had found two very promising prospects. We began sending pictures back and forth. I sent photos of Michael wearing panties and eating his own cum. I also sent photos of Michael sucking my strap-on. Both men were in their 30’s, handsome, in great shape and dominant. They eagerly agreed that I would be in charge, but Michael would definitely be submissive to them. I told them both that my goal was to allow my bi-curious husband a chance to try cocksucking and then assfucking. I also explained that my husband was most turned on by sucking cock and eating cum.

    I finally decided to invite Bruce over because he had the largest cock. Bruce was to stop by this coming Friday night. He was to arrive exactly at 9 pm. Bruce had washboard abs, and a great looking 9 inch cock. I knew my bi-curious husband was about to realize his dream of a mouthful of cock. My plan was to handcuff Michael and taunt him Friday evening with my strap-on while having him dressed up as a little slut. The night started as all our scenes do, I had Michael in his fishnet stockings, black satin panties, and completely hairless. Tonight, as I dolled up Michael, I promised him a surprise, so I added lipstick I had Michael lying on his back, hands tied over his head with me straddling his chest and slowly feeding him my strap-on.

    When I hear the doorbell ring, Bruce is right on time. I re-position Michael to be kneeling on the floor next to our bed with his hands cuffed behind his back. I let Bruce in and after sharing a glass of wine, I tell Bruce to wait just outside the bedroom door. I return to my kneeling husband and continue to feed him my strap on cock, taunting him about cocksucking. Working him up so he will be very ready and eager for it. “You want a real cock, don’t you cocksucker! Tell me!” Michael pulls his wet mouth off the strap on. “Yes, please Kim!” he responds. “Yes please, what?” I demand. “Tell me, Michael, what do you want? What would you do if a real man wanted you to suck his very real hard cock? Would you suck it?” I taunt.

    “YESSSS!” he responds almost begging. “What about his cum, if you suck a cock, you’ll have to eat his cum?” “Please, Kim… that’s what I want!” Michael pleads.

    I am stroking Michael’s hair as he kneels between my legs, my strap on cock still wet with his saliva, inches from his lips. There is a knock on our bedroom door jam – the door is open. We both look up and see Bruce who is standing there with a wide grin on his face. I return his smile and say, “Come on in, Bruce! Bruce’s muscular frame fills the doorway. “Surprise!” I say. Michael’s face is flushed with embarrassment. “Well, hello, Bruce, welcome to our home! I say. Michael is kneeling, embarrassed, and nervous. “Michael, this is Bruce, Bruce, this is my husband Michael. I continue. My husband looks up at the beautiful stranger. “Um, hi.” He says. Bruce comes over to me and give me a hug. He then looks down at my husband and says, “Hi sexy, you look very nice.



    “Michael, you know why Bruce is here, don’t you?” I ask. Yes.” he responds. “Honey, please tell Bruce and me what you want tonight!” I demand. “I want…I want you to make me…a …cocksucker!” he stammers. “That’s right, honey, and if Bruce let’s you suck his cock, what must you do?” I taunt. Michael’s cock is still rock hard and throbbing in his panties. “I must…swallow, I will swallow his cum load.” He answers. “Oh, Michael, thats is so sexy and sweet! Bruce, would you allow us the privilege of making my husband a cocksucker?” I request. “I would love to!” Bruce responds.

    Then as I step back and begin removing my strap on, Bruce begins undressing in front of my kneeling husband. I realize we are about to realize our deepest fantasy of turning my husband into a cocksucker. My pussy drips thinking about it. Then, I almost orgasm, as Bruce strips down to his last piece of clothing. The muscular Bruce, completely clean shaven from head to toe, is standing in front of my submissive husband in nothing but a pair of sexy, French cut, black, satin women’s panties. His massive cock is not even erect and it fills the front of the panties to overflowing. As Bruce stands in front of my kneeling husband, I hear Michael let out a long deep breath and moan. I can tell he is very ready to suck his first cock. I watch as Michael is staring at Bruce’s bulge in his panties. He licks his lips. “Go on, honey, reach out and stroke him, stroke him through his silky panties!” I practically moan. My pussy begins quivering as I watch my husband reach out and touch another man for the first time. His hands almost look small compared to Bruce’s massive tool. Michael begins stroking up and down Bruce’s mighty satin covered shaft. “UUUUUUGGGGGGHHHH!” Bruce moans. “Oh, Michael, that feels so good!” Bruce moans. “Pull it out, baby, and start licking and kissing it!” I beg. I stare intently as Michael then pulls Bruce’s 9 inches of semi-erect cock from his panties. I feel myself go over the edge in orgasm as I watch Michael’s tongue flick out and begin licking the cockhead of another man. Michael needs no more encouragement. He is in his own world as he fulfills his fantasy of cocksucking. He is kissing and licking and swirling his tongue on Bruce’s now very erect cock like a pornstar. Bruce then takes control and grabs Michael by the back of the head and as I watch in lust, pushes his massive cock into Michael’s eager mouth. Michael is now kneeling beside our bed, Bruce’s massive hard on is half way plugged into my husband’s sucking lips. I hear Michael moan around the thickly veined shaft sliding between his lips. “Suck it, my wonderful cocksucker, this is what you’ve always wanted, isn’t it?  You like being a  cocksucking slut,don’t you?  Suck our boyfriend’s big cock for me, baby, eat it up!” I taunt.

    Michael is sucking, and swirling his tongue on Bruce’s cock and slowly bobbing his head back and forth. I am twisting my erect nipples and rubbing my soaking pussy. I want so badly to watch Bruce fill my husband’s mouth with his seed. Our bedroom is filled with wet sounds of sucking, slurping as men moaning as my husband sucks his first cock. After watching Michael suck cock for 15 minutes, Bruce is ready to explode.


    “Are you ready, cocksucker? I’m gonna cum in your mouth!” Bruce announces. Michael stays focused on sucking and flicking his tongue on the big tool in his mouth. Bruce is holding Michael’s head and then…“UUUUUGGGGGHHHHH!!!” he begins cumming in my husband’s sucking mouth. “OH GOD!!!! I moan as I watch another man unload into my husband’s mouth. Bruce is cumming directly into the back of Michael’s mouth. I watch as my husband begins swallowing rapidly as his cheeks draw in - sucking hard on the spurting cock. Then Bruce grips the base of his cock and pulls out of Michael’s still sucking lips and begins drooling the last of his load onto my husband’s lips and chin. My husband’s mouth is completely coated in another man’s thick, gooey sperm. I orgasm again as I watch my husband lick his lips clean. Once his lips are free of sperm, Bruce pushes his still erect cock back into Michael’s mouth and tells him to lick it clean.

    Later that evening, I watched as Bruce pushed his hard cock into my husband’s ass. Bruce savagely fucked Michael’s ass as my husband begged for it. The night of bi-curious sex ended for my husband as Bruce pulled out of Michael’s ass and cum in his mouth again.

    My husband and I went to bed that night exhausted and satisfied. Michael had two loads of another man’s sperm in his belly and my husband and I found a new fetish to explore. 

    Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

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    I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

    Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

    Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

    I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

    DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

    This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

    Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

  • High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
  • Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
  • Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.
  • Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
  • Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
  • French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.
  • Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
  • Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
  • Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
  • Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
  • Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
  • Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
  • Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

  • Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)
  • EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

  • Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
  • Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
  • Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
  • Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

    Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

    Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

    Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

    Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

    • You degrading him.
  • Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
  • Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
  • Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”
  • Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.
  • Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
  • Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
    • Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
  • Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
  • Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).
  • Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
  • Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
  • Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

  • Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
  • Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
  • And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

    Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

  • Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
  • Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
  • If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
  • While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
  • Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
  • Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
  • However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
  • EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

    ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

    For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

    PAIN AND CONTROL

    DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

    There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

    Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

    Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

    Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

    Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

  • Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
  • Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
  • Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
  • Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
  • Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

    Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

  • Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.
  • Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
  • Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.
  • Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

    Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

    Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

    Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

    This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

    FRUSTRATION/TEASING

    This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

    Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

    There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

  • Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
  • Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.
  • Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
  • Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

    One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

    The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

    I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

    Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

    Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

    SERVICE

    So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

    Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

    Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

    As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

    The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

    But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

    Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

    This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

    Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

  • Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
  • Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 
  • Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 
  • Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
  • PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

    I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

    I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

    For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

    I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

    I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

    Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

    So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

    There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

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    Those little things subs do that absolutely drive us doms insane - in a very good way - and turn us on way more than you can imagine

    💕 The innocent smile they gift you with after you thought you brought them to their limit, that smile that says “Ah but I’m still good, why not continue, pretty please?”

    💕 Every single time they got enough courage to ask or beg for something they really, really want, and they still turn bright red when you grin at them for being so sweet

    💕 When they’re very, very desperate to be dominated, because of hormones or something else, and they subtly try to provoke you and turn on your dom mode

    Drooling

    💕 Being so eager to touch you in a session where they were tied up or not allowed to lay a single finger on you for the most time

    💕 Moaning/whining/screaming/whispering your title

    💕 When you ask them if they want to be a good little slut/fucktoy/whore for you, and they just nod instantly and very eager, sometimes combined with a “Yes, very”

    💕 Showing off how well behaved they are by going down to their knees without getting asked to do it

    💕 Thanking you for bruises, hickeys, bite marks or any other kind of mark that you caused during a session

    💕 “Can I please taste you? Please, please”

    💕 Confidently teasing you

    💕 Shyly teasing you

    T e a s i n g

    💕 Softly trying to fight back when you’ve tied them up because they want you to push them down harder and show them their place

    💕 Being so, so, so well behaved when they really want to be rewarded

    Puppy eyes

    💕 Initiating a session themselves by coming into the room naked, or wearing lingerie, or wearing their collar

    💕 Showing you things they saw online that are very fucking hot because they really want to try them

    💕 Wiggling their butt when they want to be spanked

    💕 “I’ve been really naughty, you have to punish me”

    💕 Starting to touch themselves in front of you without permission to get your attention and turn you on

    💕 Biting or scratching you when you’re fucking them real good

    💕 Smiling at you innocently when they provoked you and you asked them if they’ll behave from now on or need a reminder who they’re talking to instead

    (DONT INTERACT IF YOU’RE A CGL/DDLG BLOG!)

    You have no idea how much I want to domme you right now, darling. Be very rough with you, see where your limits are, enjoy every second of taking away your control. I want to play with you, use you, see how often you’re able to cum, before your body’s only able to tremble under my touches and you can barely talk anymore, not even able to beg me to stop. I’d love to hurt you in every possible way, using ice and wax at the same time on your sensitive skin, leave bite marks on places where they hurt the most, run my fingernails along your thighs, your ass and your neck.

    I want to destroy you so bad right now. And I know for sure that you’d still smile at me afterwards and thank me for every second. My needy, beautiful whore.

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    Tutorial: How to eat own creampie of GFs freshly fucked pussy.

    Well, if we’ re talking about creampie eating the biggest problem is losing interest in eating cum immediately after ejaculation. When we are aroused, the idea of eating cum is mindblowing but soon after cumming the desire disapears. 

    What we love after sex is 69. First impression isn’t great but then…when cum drips to your mouth…oh boy - boner guaranteed. Why is this working? Because she will lick your cummed cock as well and it can be extremly exciting.

    Second solution is that you let your girlfriend be more dominating. Lets say that you’re bound and U can’t do anything - she just sits on your face after intercourse - no mercy. She can also order you to do it.That’s hot too.

    Another one: do it slowly - after you cummed in her pussy don’t go out. Start to kiss her deeply, afterwards lick her gently, kiss her tits and slowly move your tongue down. After few minutes you will be ready to fuck her again but before u do, go out of her pussy and lick your cream - that should work.

    And the last: start experimenting with frozen cum during the intercourse or masturbation - you will get used to cum. You can also use a condom. Leave it after sex or masturbation within easy reach and use the cum during second session to lubricate her pussy or your cock.

    Thats normal that you lose interest after ejaculation. Solution are simple:

    - you truly want to do it

    - she orders you to do your job

    - you have no exit

    - you have to wait until you’re ready

    REGARDS!

    Have Fun with your Chastised Cuckold

    Once you put your cuckold in chastity you can have so much fun teasing, tempting, and arousing him. Just look.

    Your bull fucks you doggystyle. Your cuckold does not. Why not tease him while he’s locked? Bend over and offer your pussy. If only he was unlocked he could slide inside you. He could have his way with your just like your bull does. It’s unfortunate that his cock is in its chastity device.

    You can give him a blowjob while he’s in chastity. He won’t really be able to feel it, of course. It’s a perfect form of temptation and teasing. His little cock is soft and locked up and he can get a little bit of the sensation of your tongue on him, but that’s it.

    He’ll thank you for the teasing. That’s the amazing thing about a cuckold. He wants you to lock his cock and refuse to let him out. He wants to feel your lips around his cock and be unable to truly enjoy it.

    The best kind of lap dance is the one you give to your locked cuckold. He’ll moan, groan, and beg you to release him. You’ll rub your beautiful ass all over his chastised dick and refuse to let him out.

    When you rub your perfect pussy all over his locked cock, make sure you verbally tease him too.

    “Do you want to feel my perfect pussy around your cock, cuckold? Don’t you wish you could fuck me? Don’t you wish you could be inside me? Too bad. Your cock is going to stay in chastity for as long as I desire.”

    Want to drive him crazy? Tell him you’re going to have sex and then keep his cock locked up while you ride a dildo in front of him. Even better, have him wear a strapon to fuck you.

    Your feet can be objects of pleasure, especially if he’s got a fetish. If you want to up the teasing, masturbate and moan while you’re playing with his cock in chastity. Even better, talk about how much you want another man’s cock inside you while you’re doing it.

    You own his balls, so have a little fun with them. They can take more squeezing and pain than you might know, so feel free to give them a good tug while he’s locked up.

    Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

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    I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

    Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

    Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

    I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

    DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

    This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

    Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

  • High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
  • Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
  • Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.
  • Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
  • Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
  • French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.
  • Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
  • Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
  • Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
  • Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
  • Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
  • Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
  • Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

  • Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)
  • EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

  • Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
  • Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
  • Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
  • Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

    Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

    Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

    Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

    Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

    • You degrading him.
  • Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
  • Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
  • Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”
  • Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.
  • Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
  • Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
    • Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
  • Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
  • Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).
  • Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
  • Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
  • Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

  • Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
  • Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
  • And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

    Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

  • Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
  • Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
  • If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
  • While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
  • Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
  • Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
  • However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
  • EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

    ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

    For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

    PAIN AND CONTROL

    DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

    There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

    Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

    Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

    Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

    Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

  • Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
  • Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
  • Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
  • Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
  • Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

    Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

  • Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.
  • Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
  • Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.
  • Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

    Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

    Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

    Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

    This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

    FRUSTRATION/TEASING

    This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

    Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

    There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

  • Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
  • Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.
  • Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
  • Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

    One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

    The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

    I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

    Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

    Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

    SERVICE

    So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

    Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

    Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

    As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

    The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

    But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

    Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

    This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

    Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

  • Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
  • Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 
  • Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 
  • Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
  • PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

    I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

    I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

    For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

    I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

    I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

    Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

    So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

    There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

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    cuckieman

    Finding my bi-curious husband

    I am married to a wonderful man and we have a great sex life. . I learned early in our marriage that my husband is both kinky and submissive. I loved being dominant in bed and making him do all kinds of kinky adventures. I never realized just how submissive and kinky Michael really was until this month.

    Over the years of marriage, we loved experimenting with sex. We are both very open- minded and have tried many different kinks. We have evolved sexually to the point where Michael wears women’s panties regularly, and is very submissive to me.

    Michael loves oral sex, both giving and receiving. I keep myself shaved and he loves nothing better than to lick and suck my bald pussy. He adores my mouth on his hard cock. Let me tell you how Michael has progressed sexually and how I helped him to finally suck another man’s hard cock.

    Over the years, I realized that my husband loved being dominated by me and loved being made to do kinkier and kinkier things. It started with me playing with his ass while sucking him off and led me to buy a strap-on dildo and fuck his ass. Today, he loves being bent over and fucked in the ass by me. I love fucking my husband’s ass, especially when he’s wearing women’s panties..

    Within the last year, I came upon a new kink that really turned on my husband and me during sex. Michael loves being forced to eat his own cum. It makes my pussy very wet watching my husband get hard as he licks up and swallows his own just spurted hot sperm. We have been very creative coming up with different ways to make him eat his cum. It started with creampies. I would tie up my husband to the bed, ride his cock until his shot his load into my shaved pussy and then I would crawl up and plant my wet, dripping freshly fucked pussy, full of cum on my husband’s hungry mouth. His cock would get hard again as he sucked his cum from my pussy. It has progressed to the point that every orgasm my husband has ends with him eating it. We love having him cum into a glass and drinking it. I have numerous pictures of him cumming in a glass and then drinking it. Another favorite is cumming on my big tits and licking it up. Michael loves being  taunted about cum eating, so I usually tease him while working his load from his cock.

    As I work my tongue in his sensitive bottom, I tell him, “Are you hungry tonight, honey? You know when you cum, I’m going to catch it and make you eat it and swallow it!” I can feel my husband quiver with lust as I tease him both verbally and with my tongue flicking in his ass. I plunge my tongue deep and hear Michael moan. I stroke again his twitching cock from behind. “Do you want it, baby…? Do you want to taste your cum?” I tease. “Oh please, Kim, please…” he begs. “Please what, honey, what do want? You need to beg me…if you want it…beg me, honey to feed you!” I taunt. This is what I love…my husband so submissive, so compliant to my demands.

    “Please
    , baby, make me cum….I need it..MMMMMMMM…!” he moans as I continue to tongue fuck his ass and stroke his hard cock. “Please what… tell me….what are you going to do…if I let you cum… what are you going to do for me? I want to hear you, Michael, beg me to feed it to you!”

    “Please, honey, please feed me…. Feed me my cum… make me eat it, OH! I want it so bad,
    make me eat my cum…. Please Kim make me swallow my own thick cum!” my husband begs. When he cums I catch it all in a wine glass and then I pour into his open mouth and tell him to swallow it all.

    For months, Michael has been eating his own cum and we’ve both been getting off on it. About 3 weeks ago, we had rented a female domination video from our local video store. We occasionally did this and usually ended up getting off on the kinky videos. Almost always, we get new ideas of domination for me. These videos involve women dominating men and usually it involved men getting fucked by women with strap-ons, men getting spanked, and men eating their own cum. As you can imagine, we have fun watching and getting ideas and experimenting. This movie we watched involved a dominatrix dominating a man. She dressed the man as a woman, putting on make-up and then using strap-on on him. Michael and I both got off watching this, but many videos we had rented involved this type of action. What was unique about this video was toward the end, the dominatrix tied her man up, and had another man come into the scene. As Michael and I watched, she had her submissive male suck off the other man and then take his cock up his ass. To say that Michael was turned on would be an understatement. His cock was hard and dripping. It was then that I started thinking that maybe my husband was kinkier than I realized.  Was my husband was bi-curious? Just the thought of it made my pussy quiver. I started thinking I would really like to see Michael with another man. My thoughts were confirmed later that night. After we had both gone to bed that night, I awoke to find Michael not in bed. I heard noises downstairs. When I came quietly down the stairs into our basement, there was my husband lying across our leather couch, masturbating watching the section of the video showing the sub male sucking another man off. As I watched and my pussy dripped, my husband stroked off and came watching the cocksucking. He moaned and seemed to really enjoy watching as the submissive male, looked up into the other man’s face as he licked and sucked his cock. My pussy dripped with lust as I realized how sexy it was to see a man submit sexually to another man.

    How sexy to watch a cuffed, kneeling man being forced to suck another man’s cock; the dominatrix was holding her sub male’s head and taunting him as he sucked cock for the first time. It was then that I realized that I wanted to see my husband suck cock. I was turned on by it and I wanted to see it. That night, I decided that I would help my husband become a cocksucker.

    That weekend I decided to train my husband to be an expert cocksucker. After a lovely dinner out, I had my husband kneeling in front of me wearing nothing but his little panties. I was wearing a nothing but my strap on. “Go on, touch it, you little slut, touch my cock, I know you want it.” I taunted. Michael reached up and stroked my strap on.

    I thrust my hips forward and grabbed his head and rubbed my strap on against Michael’s face. “What do you want, honey, do you want my cock?” I taunt. “OH, yes, Kim, I want it!” Michael announces. I slap the latex cock against my husband’s face and lips and say, “If you want this cock, you need to beg for it, you want to be my cocksucker don’t you, honey, tell me!” Michael moans and says, “Please, Kim, please let me suck your beautiful cock, feed it to me mistress!” That caused my pussy to twitch hearing my husband beg to suck my cock and calling me mistress. “Are you going to suck it for me, like a little faggot? Are you going to be my cocksucker? Do you want to be a cocksucker for me, Michael?” I taunted. “Yes, I want to be your cocksucker, Kim, make me suck your cock!” Michael responds.

    I grabbed my husband’s head forced my latex cock into his mouth. I held his head and slowly fucked his face. As I watched my husband slide his lips on my strap on cock, my pussy twitched in lust. “You know, Michael, when a cocksucker sucks a cock, he should always swallow the load of cum. Are you going to swallow my cum, cocksucker?” I taunted. “MMMMMMMM…” Michael moaned. “Tell me, honey, are you a good cocksucker? Are you going to eat my load?” I asked again.

    Michael reluctantly pulled his mouth off my cock to answer. “Y
    es, mistress, I want to suck you off, AND I want to swallow your cum, give it to me, baby, make me your cocksucker, make me a slut!” he begged. I grabbed his head again and assaulted his mouth again. I spent the next 20 minutes face fucking my husband, encouraging him with names like “cocksucker”, and “slut”.  I praised his skills, and taunted him more.  He obviously was enjoying my cock and sucked it hungrily. He was enjoying my sucking my cock and being my “cocksucker”.  I orgasmed twice as he mastered sucking my stiff cock.  . When I was sure he was really getting off sucking the strap-on, I decided it was time to feed him his cum. “Are you ready, cocksucker? I’m going to fill your mouth with my load! Get ready to swallow it all, faggot!” Michael continued sucking and slurping. “Stroke your cock, honey, while you suck my cock!” Michael stroked his cock and quickly was close to orgasm as I plunged in and out of his sucking mouth. I then handed him his empty wine glass and told him to fill it up. He quickly stroked off into the wine glass – shooting a large load of cum into the glass. He then handed the cum filled glass to me. I then pulled my cock from his mouth until just my strap on cockhead remained in his lips. I began pouring the glass of cum onto my strap on letting the thick sperm ooze down the latex shaft until it met my husband’s lips. I kept holding his head and demanded, “Swallow it bitch! Don’t you dare miss a drop! Eat it! Cocksucker, swallow it all When he had swallowed most of it, I pulled the dildo from his sucking lips. I then made him lick my cock clean and lick the glass clean. Over the next week, I taught Michael the finer points of cocksucking and swallowing cum using my strap-on.

    I couldn’t wait to see Michael being submissive to another man and sucking his cock and drinking another man’s semen. After continuing to practice cocksucking and assfucking with my husband, Michael finally admitted what I had known from that evening with the DVD. Michael admitted he was really getting off with our fantasy..

    I knew it all along. But, when I asked him specifically if he would like to find another man to suck his cock, he hesitated. It was then that I realized that my husband was truly bi-curious and he was also submissive to me. It was going to be my responsibility  to orchestrate a rendezvous to make him a cocksucker – just like in those DVD’s we loved. I then began using the internet to find a man to feed my husband his cock. Within a couple of weeks, I had found two very promising prospects. We began sending pictures back and forth. I sent photos of Michael wearing panties and eating his own cum. I also sent photos of Michael sucking my strap-on. Both men were in their 30’s, handsome, in great shape and dominant. They eagerly agreed that I would be in charge, but Michael would definitely be submissive to them. I told them both that my goal was to allow my bi-curious husband a chance to try cocksucking and then assfucking. I also explained that my husband was most turned on by sucking cock and eating cum.

    I finally decided to invite Bruce over because he had the largest cock. Bruce was to stop by this coming Friday night. He was to arrive exactly at 9 pm. Bruce had washboard abs, and a great looking 9 inch cock. I knew my bi-curious husband was about to realize his dream of a mouthful of cock. My plan was to handcuff Michael and taunt him Friday evening with my strap-on while having him dressed up as a little slut. The night started as all our scenes do, I had Michael in his fishnet stockings, black satin panties, and completely hairless. Tonight, as I dolled up Michael, I promised him a surprise, so I added lipstick I had Michael lying on his back, hands tied over his head with me straddling his chest and slowly feeding him my strap-on.

    When I hear the doorbell ring, Bruce is right on time. I re-position Michael to be kneeling on the floor next to our bed with his hands cuffed behind his back. I let Bruce in and after sharing a glass of wine, I tell Bruce to wait just outside the bedroom door. I return to my kneeling husband and continue to feed him my strap on cock, taunting him about cocksucking. Working him up so he will be very ready and eager for it. “You want a real cock, don’t you cocksucker! Tell me!” Michael pulls his wet mouth off the strap on. “Yes, please Kim!” he responds. “Yes please, what?” I demand. “Tell me, Michael, what do you want? What would you do if a real man wanted you to suck his very real hard cock? Would you suck it?” I taunt.

    “YESSSS!” he responds almost begging. “What about his cum, if you suck a cock, you’ll have to eat his cum?” “Please, Kim… that’s what I want!” Michael pleads.

    I am stroking Michael’s hair as he kneels between my legs, my strap on cock still wet with his saliva, inches from his lips. There is a knock on our bedroom door jam – the door is open. We both look up and see Bruce who is standing there with a wide grin on his face. I return his smile and say, “Come on in, Bruce! Bruce’s muscular frame fills the doorway. “Surprise!” I say. Michael’s face is flushed with embarrassment. “Well, hello, Bruce, welcome to our home! I say. Michael is kneeling, embarrassed, and nervous. “Michael, this is Bruce, Bruce, this is my husband Michael. I continue. My husband looks up at the beautiful stranger. “Um, hi.” He says. Bruce comes over to me and give me a hug. He then looks down at my husband and says, “Hi sexy, you look very nice.



    “Michael, you know why Bruce is here, don’t you?” I ask. Yes.” he responds. “Honey, please tell Bruce and me what you want tonight!” I demand. “I want…I want you to make me…a …cocksucker!” he stammers. “That’s right, honey, and if Bruce let’s you suck his cock, what must you do?” I taunt. Michael’s cock is still rock hard and throbbing in his panties. “I must…swallow, I will swallow his cum load.” He answers. “Oh, Michael, thats is so sexy and sweet! Bruce, would you allow us the privilege of making my husband a cocksucker?” I request. “I would love to!” Bruce responds.

    Then as I step back and begin removing my strap on, Bruce begins undressing in front of my kneeling husband. I realize we are about to realize our deepest fantasy of turning my husband into a cocksucker. My pussy drips thinking about it. Then, I almost orgasm, as Bruce strips down to his last piece of clothing. The muscular Bruce, completely clean shaven from head to toe, is standing in front of my submissive husband in nothing but a pair of sexy, French cut, black, satin women’s panties. His massive cock is not even erect and it fills the front of the panties to overflowing. As Bruce stands in front of my kneeling husband, I hear Michael let out a long deep breath and moan. I can tell he is very ready to suck his first cock. I watch as Michael is staring at Bruce’s bulge in his panties. He licks his lips. “Go on, honey, reach out and stroke him, stroke him through his silky panties!” I practically moan. My pussy begins quivering as I watch my husband reach out and touch another man for the first time. His hands almost look small compared to Bruce’s massive tool. Michael begins stroking up and down Bruce’s mighty satin covered shaft. “UUUUUUGGGGGGHHHH!” Bruce moans. “Oh, Michael, that feels so good!” Bruce moans. “Pull it out, baby, and start licking and kissing it!” I beg. I stare intently as Michael then pulls Bruce’s 9 inches of semi-erect cock from his panties. I feel myself go over the edge in orgasm as I watch Michael’s tongue flick out and begin licking the cockhead of another man. Michael needs no more encouragement. He is in his own world as he fulfills his fantasy of cocksucking. He is kissing and licking and swirling his tongue on Bruce’s now very erect cock like a pornstar. Bruce then takes control and grabs Michael by the back of the head and as I watch in lust, pushes his massive cock into Michael’s eager mouth. Michael is now kneeling beside our bed, Bruce’s massive hard on is half way plugged into my husband’s sucking lips. I hear Michael moan around the thickly veined shaft sliding between his lips. “Suck it, my wonderful cocksucker, this is what you’ve always wanted, isn’t it?  You like being a  cocksucking slut,don’t you?  Suck our boyfriend’s big cock for me, baby, eat it up!” I taunt.

    Michael is sucking, and swirling his tongue on Bruce’s cock and slowly bobbing his head back and forth. I am twisting my erect nipples and rubbing my soaking pussy. I want so badly to watch Bruce fill my husband’s mouth with his seed. Our bedroom is filled with wet sounds of sucking, slurping as men moaning as my husband sucks his first cock. After watching Michael suck cock for 15 minutes, Bruce is ready to explode.


    “Are you ready, cocksucker? I’m gonna cum in your mouth!” Bruce announces. Michael stays focused on sucking and flicking his tongue on the big tool in his mouth. Bruce is holding Michael’s head and then…“UUUUUGGGGGHHHHH!!!” he begins cumming in my husband’s sucking mouth. “OH GOD!!!! I moan as I watch another man unload into my husband’s mouth. Bruce is cumming directly into the back of Michael’s mouth. I watch as my husband begins swallowing rapidly as his cheeks draw in - sucking hard on the spurting cock. Then Bruce grips the base of his cock and pulls out of Michael’s still sucking lips and begins drooling the last of his load onto my husband’s lips and chin. My husband’s mouth is completely coated in another man’s thick, gooey sperm. I orgasm again as I watch my husband lick his lips clean. Once his lips are free of sperm, Bruce pushes his still erect cock back into Michael’s mouth and tells him to lick it clean.

    Later that evening, I watched as Bruce pushed his hard cock into my husband’s ass. Bruce savagely fucked Michael’s ass as my husband begged for it. The night of bi-curious sex ended for my husband as Bruce pulled out of Michael’s ass and cum in his mouth again.

    My husband and I went to bed that night exhausted and satisfied. Michael had two loads of another man’s sperm in his belly and my husband and I found a new fetish to explore. 

    rosetrout

    @cherriecheeks69 OMG YES!!!🔥🔥😍😍

    sissy-slut-roxy

    Yes so hot I need a women like this

    mistresslslave

    Amazing story

    jizzrocketman

    Well that got me stroking!!!

    Jenna’s quick guide to anal orgasms

    Since I still get asked a lot on how to do it, I’ll try to sum it up quickly for you guys :)

    DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor and I realize that not everybody is built the same. What works for me does not necessarily have to work for you. I also realize that there’s a difference between milking your prostate and having an anal orgasm. Short explanation: Milking feels nice and ends with ejaculation while an anal orgasm explodes inside your body and doesn’t always mean you eject semen.

    STEP 1

    Chastity. You don’t need a device to lock your penis away (even though I think it’s fucking awesome). But you shouldn’t jerk off for at least 10 days if it’s your first time. That’ll help, also when you’re having moral doubts for whatever reason. 

    STEP 2

    Hygiene. Give yourself an enema and make sure that you’re really clean. And make sure that ass is completely hairless. Objects entering your anus will pull on your hair down there and it will not feel nice.

    STEP 3

    Choose the right weapon. For me, a realistic dildo works the best. And it’s shape is very important. See this picture?

    The parts that I circled is the most important ones and are going to rub against your prostate. That’s right. Don’t poke your prostate like you’re trying to stab it. Firmly scrape against it with that part of the glans instead. Forget about your own penis. Don’t even touch it. I mean it. Only one cock matters right now and it’s not the one attached to your body.

    STEP 4

    Relax. There is absolutely no need to hurry. You don’t have any other place to go right now. It’s very important that you explore your ass gently with lots of lube until penetration does not feel uncomfortable at all. Fuck yourself for a while and don’t think about how much time already passed. Watch some anal porn while you’re at it and try to visualize how you might cum from getting fucked in the ass. Remember that awesome sex is mostly happening in your brain.

    STEP 5

    The right position. I have no explanation for this. But when I started with regular anal masturbation, doggy style worked the best for me to cum from getting fucked. But every person is different.

    STEP 6

    Don’t be a lazy fuck. Some people play with their asses for hours and expect a miracle to happen. That’s the wrong idea, in my opinion. You gotta work that cock. Like this:

    Well I realize that this little animation might look a bit silly. But that’s actually what I usually do. While my sphincter stays mostly relaxed during my fuck sessions, I flex the inner part of my ass against the cock that’s pounding it. 

    STEP 8

    Practice. It took me over a year to learn this. And when I first fucked the cum out of my balls anally I was playing with myself for more than an hour. But today it only takes me a few minutes, when I’m in the right mood. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t seem to work. Give your ass a few days rest and try again. And remember that no part of this should ever hurt. If it hurts you’re doing it wrong and you should stop before you injure yourself. Seriously.

    Good luck and happy assturbating!

    Quieres entrar en mi reino ? Quieres confesar tus mas escondidas e innombrables fantasias a una Mistress que sepa conducirte a experimentar delicias ? Quieres abdicar tu propia voluntad ? Quiere tenerme en tu mente, siempre ? Quieres que hagas de ti mi fiel sumiso sin que te de cuenta ? Ven a visitarme, arrodillarte ante tu Mistress, y complacerme.

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    His Orgasm. Lesson 30

    Understanding his orgasm is a very important aspect of an FLR, be it a D/s FLR or a Vanilla FLR.  Lessons 8 and 17 both touched on this subject for a vanilla FLR, and the importance of denying him orgasm until she is ready to allow for it. This lesson is going to look deeper at his orgasm, and the different types of orgasms he is capable of.  Now that we understand the battle raging within him, between his ego, and his submissive desire, mentioned in lesson 28, it’s time to understand where his arousal comes into play. 

    Ego driven arousal, tends to lead to a frustrated horny submissive male.  Submissive desire driven arousal, tends to lead to a dedicated horny submissive male.  And more often than not, he is somewhere between the two.  She can use this to her advantage and help train him to her needs, using his own arousal against him.  There is a practice known as orgasm denial, and it’s an extremely common practice used in a D/s relationship be it female led, or male led.  Orgasm denial is a very powerful practice for enhancing the D/s aspect, and it is often the only kink many couples ever venture into, because its so powerful for both of them, that it’s all they need.  

    As a D/s FLR progresses, she is going to notice, that when he has an ejaculatory orgasm, he goes through a refractory period, his submissive desire drops off the map, he may not even want to be touched, his need for intimacy disappears.  His passion is gone, in a conventional relationship, it’s known as being spent.  This total drop in libido, desire, passion, intimacy, and submission, is considered normal and it can take him anywhere between 2 hours and a week to fully recover.  In a D/s FLR this is whats known as “sub drop” and it’s important to be aware of because the unexpected change in power dynamics directly after his ejaculation, hits suddenly, and it can cause emotional hardship. So it is important that she is aware of this refractory period that he experiences and take it into account before she allows him to have a full release ejaculation. This way she can be supportive of him, without being dominant, she can still be his leader, but the domination factor has to cool off temporarily because he won’t respond well to it.

    The longer she decides to keep him denied between full releases, the stronger his ejaculations will be, each release will be mind blowing for him.  However, more often than not, the stronger his orgasm, the stronger the refractory period.  He may notice, that on top of his libido and submission dropping away, he actually feels down, maybe even slightly depressed, empty, drained, as if he gave up something.  All of his sexual feelings will have disappeared, and the state of being remaining without libido, feels dull and boring.  This is why so many submissive males, fall in love with being denied orgasm, because as long as he is denied, he never has to experience that. He discovers, over time, that denial and being horny, is a preferred state of being.  He typically will not be able stay in that state, due to weak will power, without her, and he knows it, creating a deep need for her.  She can work with this to cater to her own needs, and use his submissive desire through this and he will fall more and more in love with her as a result.  Full release orgasms are extremely pleasurable for him, and he will always crave one, while also wishing to be denied one.  This is the classic tug of war between his frustrated ego driven libido, and his dedicated submissive desire. This enables her to offer the possibility of a full release, perhaps if he is good.  It can be a lot of fun to play with this in a variety of ways through D/s.

    If she doesn’t feel like giving him a full release, but still wants to play with him, and tease him, and make him more frustrated there are other kinds of orgasms she may give him.  She understands, that by teasing him, and bringing him to extreme arousal, his submissive desire increases exponentially as does her power. So teasing him can be incredibly arousing for her as well, not to mention fun.  She may decide to tie his hands to the bed, and simply be sensual with him, and bring him to the edge of orgasm.  She will learn a lot of things about him while doing this, including discovering that communication is more non-verbal than it is verbal.  She will begin to discover the signs his body makes, when he is getting close to the edge. It can take a bit of practice to notice the subtle signs, such as,  his abs tensing, or his breathing quickening, his toes may curl, his genitals will darken… Individual signs for each male.   As she gets to know these signs, she will develop intuition on when to stop stimulating him.  She can do this for as long as she likes and drive him wild in horny frustration/pleasure.  If chastity play is involved, she may decide to re-lock him without any release at all, making for a very submissive frustrated male.

    If she does decide to give him a release, she can give him what’s known as a ruined orgasm. A ruined orgasm is one where she monitors his body very carefully, and allows him to go over the point of no return.  The point of no return is when ejaculation is going to happen, and there’s nothing that can stop it.  She can communicate with her submissive and have him tell her when he is getting close to this point. From there, she must read the signs, and instead of stimulating him over the edge, she brings him right to the edge, and then stimulates him just enough, to tip him over it.  If done correctly, there may be a few seconds delay, and then his semen will begin to dribble out, giving him a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm is much less pleasurable than a full release one.  He will still feel it, but it will be more of a tease, like he’s about to have an orgasm, but he just can’t quite make it happen.  Afterward, he will feel less pressure, he will feel a little bit of sexual release, but his general horny and submissive desires will remain intact.  The refractory period is significantly reduced if not eliminated entirely, and he will still have ejaculated, keeping the D/s aspect fully intact.  This is often the preferred method of orgasm for him in an FLR, as he still get a tremendous amount of pleasure from it, and she has a lot of fun, its very intimate.

    He is capable of another kind of orgasm, but it requires a slightly more open minded or kinky D/s couple.  All men have a prostate. The prostate is stimulated through anal play.  For the more adventurous D/s FLR couple, anal play will likely become a normal experience.  Using toys such as a butt plug on a submissive male, can greatly increase his submissive desire and sexual arousal.  Since there is something penetrating him, he feels vulnerable, and vulnerability is always arousing to a submissive. The feeling of being violated with every step, or the fullness feeling it brings him, humbles him.  Butt plugs can often be used as a way of pleasurable punishment.  She may decide to make him sleep with one in, or go to work with one, and there can be various sizes from comfortable to uncomfortable, giving her options.  A butt plug or a strap on can both be used to stimulate the prostate.

    If he relaxes enough, he can experience a prostate orgasm through anal stimulation.  There are three different types of orgasms associated with stimulating the prostate.  One of these orgasms, is commonly called the super-O, because it causes an ejaculatory orgasm with a far greater amount of semen than usual, since it drains the prostate entirely.  This type of orgasm will drain him completely, and sometimes the refractory period from this orgasm, is lesser than a regular full release, because his prostate often radiates pleasure through his entire body, leaving him with a body high. A super-O is typically done with penis stimulation after his prostate has been stimulated into pleasurable sensations.  It can take a while for the prostate to feel pleasurable from stimulation, typically he needs to relax and let it happen, putting him into a very submissive state.  His erection will disappear for a while, but once the prostate pleasure starts it will come back. If both are stimulated when it does come back, the climax can deliver out of this world shattering orgasms. I would imagine he would have to be a very good submissive for her to give him one of these.

    The second type of prostate orgasm, is a dry one. These orgasms can also be very intense, but since there is no penis stimulation at all, there is no refractory period, and no semen.  These orgasms typically come from the acceptance, and being humbled by, being taken with a strap on.  Accepting the power exchange, and surrendering completely to being taken by her.  This can often become the new sex for him, and he can begin to crave dry prostate orgasms as a replacement for a regular full release, especially when a full release is rare.  She may decide to take him this way at any time, and since he is kept in a submissive state fueled by his own arousal, he will be quite happy to submit to her for this, even if it makes him feel vulnerable, the D/s dynamics here can be played with to a variety of degrees.  In one degree, it could be a way of feminizing him, in another degree, she could simply become a strict mistress. It all depends on her style as mentioned in previous lessons.

    The third type of prostate orgasm, is what’s known on the internet, as a sissygasm. This type of orgasm requires direct anal stimulation of the prostate, repetitively, with no stimulation of the penis whatsoever, until the prostate releases its fluids and he ejaculates hands free.  Often, this is done with him wearing a chastity device the entire time, keeping him in a submissive state all the way through it, even if he drops his libido for a while, his submissive desire, is more powerful than his ego, and he remains submissive even without libido.  This is typically for more advanced D/s FLRs, and many never need to go this far. But it can be comforting for her to know, that as the relationship progresses, there are different kinds of orgasms she can give him, that suit their relationship, and her style as she evolves.

    Lastly, there is a way to make him ejaculate without an orgasm at all. This is known as milking.  If she wishes to deny him for extended periods of time, without giving him any orgasmic release whatsoever, she can still keep him healthy through milking him.  This will drain his sexual fluids, taking a bit of the pressure off, but there will be no refractory period, and his submission and libido will remain fully intact. To milk him, the prostate must be stimulated in a very specific way, and the first time can take a little while, but it will get easier with him, especially if his prostate is full. She can use a finger, or a smaller device, to gently apply pressure on the prostate, and ignore his penis.  Since there is little friction, and only gentle pressure, there is no pleasure, it may in fact be uncomfortable, and he will feel like he needs to pee.  Soon, fluid will begin to drip out of his flaccid penis and she can continue this until he is dry.  There should be no pain, and no pleasure, just a light discomfort sensation of being drained. Then his denial continues.

    Orgasm control, and orgasm denial, can be a huge aspect of a D/s FLR. The amount of power it gives her, the level of submission it takes him into, can be an incredible aspect between them.  Determining what he gets, when he gets it, and experimenting with it in the process is what makes an FLR so much fun and intimate.  It can often be the only kink necessary, there often isn’t a need for anything beyond it, because it can be that fulfilling and exciting for both partners. Especially when his orgasm is entirely based on the quality of orgasms he gives her. It makes for a dedicated submissive to her pleasure.  In the end, her pleasure will be the focus, and she can bring him so deep into submission, that he will actually be able to feel her orgasms, through his body. She orgasms for the both of them. Known as a tantric orgasm, the ultimate orgasm of an FLR.  The D/s dynamics can get that interesting!

    Por que ela não me responde???

    Você enviou uma mensagem aqui no Tumblr e eu não te respondo.

    O que há de errado com sua mensagem?

    Você deixou claro sua vontade de fazer “qualquer coisa”. O que mais eu poderia pedir?

    O problema aqui é a FORMA como você se apresenta.

    Você não tem idéia do número de propostas “eu faria qualquer coisa” que recebo.

    Não é preciso que se passe uma semana de contato para que todos que se apresentam dessa maneira (e eu disse TODOS, sem exceção), já tenham sido descartados.

    Não sem antes tomar meu precioso tempo e fazendo com que minha paciência tenha se esgotado.

    Acredite em mim, se você quer realmente me servir, vai preferir que minha paciência seja usada em outros momentos.

    Apresente-se de forma decente, clara, objetiva.

    Faça com que eu conheça aquilo que é importante para que eu possa te considerar como um escravo com bom potencial.

    1 - Conte sobre você.

    Em primeiro lugar, lembre-se que eu não tenho a mínima ideia de quem você é.

    Comece com sua aparência, de preferência, ilustre com fotos / vídeos. Sou extremamente discreta e sigilosa e suas informações serão somente do meu conhecimento, sem divulgação. Doenças? Alergias? Traumas? Limitações físicas?

    E não é porque mandou uma foto, que uma descrição não seja muito bem-vinda. Não economize aqui.

    Segundo ponto: Onde e como vive.

    Como eu já digo no meu Tumblr, sou de SP.

    Quero saber onde vive, onde trabalha e um pouco da sua rotina e principalmente, da sua DISPONIBILIDADE. Não precisa me passar endereços, mas quero sim, dados aproximados.

    Qual o tempo (dias e horários) que você dispõe para ser meu escravo? Você tem algum relacionamento que limite sua servidão? Se sim, de que forma.

    Terceiro aspecto: Que experiências você tem e com quais práticas você já teve contato e com quais quer ter??

    Se você se apresentou decentemente nos itens anteriores, aqui você não precisa ser muito detalhista. Quero conhecer o seu perfil básico como escravo.

    Você é masoquista? Gosta da dor? Quanto suporta? De que forma? É submisso? É obediente? Rebelde? Gosta de que práticas? Com que intensidade? Em que formas? Aprecia humilhação? Tem algum problema em situações públicas (dentro do ambiente S&M)?

    Não me diga aqui que fará qualquer coisa.

    Você precisa ser honesto consigo mesmo antes de poder ser honesto comigo.

    Questione-se e responda com sinceridade.

    Você quer o S&M como um estilo de vida ou como sessões eventuais?

    Se você tem sentimentos mais detalhados, expresse-os.

    Quanto mais sinceras as palavras que você apresente sobre si mesmo, melhores serão suas chances.

    Não há nada a ganhar tentando encontrar alguém que você não pode satisfazer ou que seria inadequada para você.

    Por fim, Contato.

    Apesar de você estar usando o Tumblr para entrar em contato comigo, seu objetivo é que tenhamos um contato pessoal, portanto, me apresente contatos mais pessoais seus.

    Para que possamos nos conhecer melhor, dê o próximo passo e informe outros modos de contato, seja e-mails, mensagens instantâneas (whatsapp, preferencialmente) ou telefones.

    As coisas podem ou não progredir entre nós, mas se dedicou em ler até aqui e percebeu que eu dediquei meu tempo para que houvesse uma chance proveitosa de contato, faça valer a pena.