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justforsmiles

I’m quitting Tumblr

I’m making the decision to leave Tumblr. @staff @support

Having been on Tumblr since 2010, I never really thought about when this day would come, but now more than ever, I don’t see why not. 

It has been a great journey, I won’t forget that. From writing little poems to writing more about my personal experiences to reblogging Cyanide and Happiness comics, to memes, dogs,  motivational quotes, inspirational images and building a positive community of my own, it felt so empowering and gave me something to look forward to during my high school and my college years. 

It was addictive. It felt rewarding when I was featured on Tumblr’s “radar”- hand-picked showcase of creative, interesting, and awesome posts. It was my go-to mood booster. I read up on news, learned new terms, saved a ton of hilarious, fun gifs (back when Tumblr did not have a button to easily look up gifs and what not), became heavily invested in social justice issues, posted my ideas, learnings, what I stand for, and have people thank me and my blog for existing.   

I connected with other people from all over the world. I met up with two of my Tumblr friends in person. I could share my thoughts, genuine interests, and have it liked and reblogged by thousands? It felt like a platform I was never ever going to see myself exit from. 

Until the start of this year. I don’t feel safe on Tumblr.

On December 17, 2018, Tumblr’s ban on adult content went into effect (after the fact that Tumblr’s official app was removed from Apple’s App Store over the discovery of child pornography on the site). That meant that all pictures, GIFs, and videos that feature erotic content will be removed from the site. 

A reblogged photo from back in 2011 of a newborn’s feet was flagged but when a porn blog (blacksinasian) decides to share my (fully clothed) self portraits and write crude things on it, impersonate me in writing those things to lead people to my Tumblr and social media- that is not okay. 

I had to find out through Instagram DMs when some people let me know that they saw me on Tumblr, asked if I had Tumblr and if I knew that my pictures were being circulated on Tumblr. 

This is screwed up on so many levels. I never agreed to allow my content to be used in this way. The blog decided to repeatedly take my content and twist it in their own nasty words. 

This is unwanted harassment and violation of community guidelines, but Tumblr decides to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.��

I sent in a support request January 21, 2019. I received NO reply whatsoever and followed up on February 5, 2019 to which I receive a reply to on February 11, 2019 with the following:

Hello,

Thank you for writing in. It sounds like you may be reporting a violation of our Community Guidelines instead of a technical issue on the site. In order to more quickly and efficiently handle this, we ask that you use our online Abuse forms located here:

https://www.tumblr.com/abuse

To report a post in the mobile apps, just click the share icon (that paper airplane) and choose “Report.” That’ll open the form and you can tell us what you’re reporting from there. To report an entire blog, tap the blog’s username to view their blog, then tap the little human icon, and then tap “Report.”

Please select the form that most closely corresponds to the violation you’re reporting, which will help us correctly route your complaint.

We appreciate you taking the time to write in.

Jay,

Tumblr Community Support

_

That was a slap in the face. It was a response that was like, oh, seems like you sent in your request to the wrong department, here, try again, I won’t bother reading your request and helping you to route it to the right place and resolve it ASAP. That was terrible customer service for someone who has been a loyal user since 2010. Thanks a lot, Justin. Or as you called yourself in the email, Jay. 

After reporting abuse and writing the description of the abuse AGAIN, I received an automatic message from Tumblr Trust & Safety with the below message:

Hello,

Thanks for bringing this to our attention. We’re checking out the content and will determine an action appropriate to our policies and procedures.

In the meantime, we do strongly suggest you block this user. If you need help doing so, have a look at the docs (

https://www.tumblr.com/docs/en/social#blockactions

). Blocked users can’t follow you, can’t see your posts on their dashboard, reblog your posts, like your posts, or do anything else with your posts. You also won’t get Asks or Fan Mail from users you’ve blocked, and you won’t appear in their search results.

Keep in mind that we don’t notify bloggers that you’ve blocked them—although they may realize it if they try to reblog one of your posts, say, and are prevented from doing so.

Tumblr Trust & Safety

Tumblr.com/abuse

_

Gee, thank you so darn much. Can you tell me something actually valuable in less words? The fact that Tumblr could not give less of a crap about this shows just how hopeless Tumblr is. Take a hard look at your own Community Guidelines�� and tell me that you’ve done everything you can to uphold all of that. Theblacksinasian blog clearly violated some of these guidelines and they’re still out there, posting away. No suspended account, no consequences. And I’m left here spending countless amount of time and effort in writing something that Tumblr will most likely ignore for the umpteenth time. 

Yeah sure, thank you for being the platform from which I got to experience laughs, meaningful conversations, humor, and encouragement. That can be found elsewhere. This just isn’t worth it. 

Goodbye. 

To all my wonderful mutuals and friends old or new on here, you can find me on Instagram.

justforsmiles

@staff @support Look who’s back for a hot second! I contacted Tumblr several times via the phone to get support on this matter, guess what? I kept receiving automated messages about them not being available and them reaching back out as soon as possible. I highly doubt customer service actually is a thing. 

I’m quitting Tumblr

I’m making the decision to leave Tumblr. @staff @support

Having been on Tumblr since 2010, I never really thought about when this day would come, but now more than ever, I don’t see why not. 

It has been a great journey, I won’t forget that. From writing little poems to writing more about my personal experiences to reblogging Cyanide and Happiness comics, to memes, dogs,  motivational quotes, inspirational images and building a positive community of my own, it felt so empowering and gave me something to look forward to during my high school and my college years. 

It was addictive. It felt rewarding when I was featured on Tumblr’s “radar”- hand-picked showcase of creative, interesting, and awesome posts. It was my go-to mood booster. I read up on news, learned new terms, saved a ton of hilarious, fun gifs (back when Tumblr did not have a button to easily look up gifs and what not), became heavily invested in social justice issues, posted my ideas, learnings, what I stand for, and have people thank me and my blog for existing.   

I connected with other people from all over the world. I met up with two of my Tumblr friends in person. I could share my thoughts, genuine interests, and have it liked and reblogged by thousands? It felt like a platform I was never ever going to see myself exit from. 

Until the start of this year. I don’t feel safe on Tumblr.

On December 17, 2018, Tumblr’s ban on adult content went into effect (after the fact that Tumblr’s official app was removed from Apple’s App Store over the discovery of child pornography on the site). That meant that all pictures, GIFs, and videos that feature erotic content will be removed from the site. 

A reblogged photo from back in 2011 of a newborn’s feet was flagged but when a porn blog (blacksinasian) decides to share my (fully clothed) self portraits and write crude things on it, impersonate me in writing those things to lead people to my Tumblr and social media- that is not okay. 

I had to find out through Instagram DMs when some people let me know that they saw me on Tumblr, asked if I had Tumblr and if I knew that my pictures were being circulated on Tumblr. 

This is screwed up on so many levels. I never agreed to allow my content to be used in this way. The blog decided to repeatedly take my content and twist it in their own nasty words. 

This is unwanted harassment and violation of community guidelines, but Tumblr decides to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.��

I sent in a support request January 21, 2019. I received NO reply whatsoever and followed up on February 5, 2019 to which I receive a reply to on February 11, 2019 with the following:

Hello,

Thank you for writing in. It sounds like you may be reporting a violation of our Community Guidelines instead of a technical issue on the site. In order to more quickly and efficiently handle this, we ask that you use our online Abuse forms located here:

https://www.tumblr.com/abuse

To report a post in the mobile apps, just click the share icon (that paper airplane) and choose "Report." That'll open the form and you can tell us what you're reporting from there. To report an entire blog, tap the blog's username to view their blog, then tap the little human icon, and then tap "Report."

Please select the form that most closely corresponds to the violation you’re reporting, which will help us correctly route your complaint.

We appreciate you taking the time to write in.

Jay,

Tumblr Community Support

_

That was a slap in the face. It was a response that was like, oh, seems like you sent in your request to the wrong department, here, try again, I won’t bother reading your request and helping you to route it to the right place and resolve it ASAP. That was terrible customer service for someone who has been a loyal user since 2010. Thanks a lot, Justin. Or as you called yourself in the email, Jay. 

After reporting abuse and writing the description of the abuse AGAIN, I received an automatic message from Tumblr Trust & Safety with the below message:

Hello,

Thanks for bringing this to our attention. We're checking out the content and will determine an action appropriate to our policies and procedures.

In the meantime, we do strongly suggest you block this user. If you need help doing so, have a look at the docs (

https://www.tumblr.com/docs/en/social#blockactions

). Blocked users can't follow you, can’t see your posts on their dashboard, reblog your posts, like your posts, or do anything else with your posts. You also won't get Asks or Fan Mail from users you've blocked, and you won’t appear in their search results.

Keep in mind that we don’t notify bloggers that you’ve blocked them—although they may realize it if they try to reblog one of your posts, say, and are prevented from doing so.

Tumblr Trust & Safety

Tumblr.com/abuse

_

Gee, thank you so darn much. Can you tell me something actually valuable in less words? The fact that Tumblr could not give less of a crap about this shows just how hopeless Tumblr is. Take a hard look at your own Community Guidelines�� and tell me that you’ve done everything you can to uphold all of that. Theblacksinasian blog clearly violated some of these guidelines and they’re still out there, posting away. No suspended account, no consequences. And I’m left here spending countless amount of time and effort in writing something that Tumblr will most likely ignore for the umpteenth time. 

Yeah sure, thank you for being the platform from which I got to experience laughs, meaningful conversations, humor, and encouragement. That can be found elsewhere. This just isn’t worth it. 

Goodbye. 

To all my wonderful mutuals and friends old or new on here, you can find me on Instagram.

Insulting others is never a way of correcting them. Instead it cause more damage and proves that we need help ourselves.

Mufti Ismail Menk (via islamic-art-and-quotes)

If you want to control other people, first control yourself.

Abu Bakr (RA)

Hey, friends! I’ve been quite inactive on Tumblr. There will be a post coming soon on why that is. I’ve been more active outdoors and Instagram instead so you can catch me there. 

I am currently editing a script on the topic of demisexuality for Psych2Go 
:-) Cool stuff. Who else is excited for that to drop on YouTube soon? 

What is everyone else up to? 

No matter what you’ve done in your past, to yourself, or to others, you will be able to make things right. You are a good person. 

you are you and that / is all you can be. so, be / you as best you can

haiku: you (via imperiallefty)

Choose to love yourself; choose to respect yourself; and promise with all your heart and soul that you will never leave you.

Kimberly Kirberger (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.

(via purplebuddhaquotes)

Find yourself first, like yourself first, love yourself first, and friendship, companionship, and love will naturally find you.

Mandy Hale (via purplebuddhaquotes)

Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.

Eleanor Brown (via purplebuddhaquotes)

Whenever you notice yourself engrossed in scarcity thinking, simply replace the thoughts with an abundance affirmation. Over time, this will rewrite your scarcity program and deepen your experience of abundance.

Naisha Aishan, The Little Book of Infinite Abundance (via icreatewhatibelieve)

Life has many ways of testing a person’s will - either by having nothing happen at all, or by having everything happen at once.

Paulo Coelho
(via purplebuddhaquotes)

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

Steve Maraboli (via purplebuddhaquotes)

We are torn between nostalgia for the familiar and an urge for the foreign and strange. As often as not, we are homesick most for the places we have never known.

Carson Mccullers
(via purplebuddhaquotes)

SKIN CARE IS A FORM OF SELF-CARE. Watch me rave about this product I’ve had for years and love to death...finally made a review/demo/ingredients analysis video on this. Anyone else love this product or have tried this before?

theambassadorposts

Y'all could’ve investigated how the state and MTA itself are constantly dropping the ball on improving crumbling infrastructure and service times. But let’s instead victimize random commuters who, for all we know, can’t afford the fares. What a move.

blackreigen

some news source wrote an article abt how stupid this video is, but the best part is teens shown above responding 

heres the article trashing the video w the teens edition added in [link]

justforsmiles

Ha, what an attempt to blame fare evasion and society for MTA’s financial problems. This whole system is corrupt. The MTA has been in a state of emergency for SO long. Train tracks on fire, no AC trains during 100 degree weather over the summer, signal malfunctions (they occur twice as frequently as a decade ago), derailments, and constant delays. It has been years in the making. The decision makers have consistently steered money away from addressing the issues of this system. The MTA’s operating budget is HUGE. Is it fair that the MTA keeps sucking away money from people when their cards read “invalid” and then for some people like me, having to wait over 6 months and still receive nothing? Not everyone is doing so great to just throw $121 away every single month and then extra when their card decides to read invalid and have to purchase another one while waiting for reimbursements that never seem to arrive. Don’t blame subway ride beaters for fare hikes and mismanaged funds. Why don’t you try to address the corruption or maybe capture the machines stealing $80 from someone, the turnstiles taking an additional few swipes’ money or when monthly MetroCards read “invalid” and you lose out on 20 days instead of people trying to save three bucks to use a deeply broken, antiquated transit system?

you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay. you will be okay.