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Reflections of an incompetent genius

29. Florist. Geek. Gardener. Desisted/ex-trans. Radfem. Everything in moderation, including moderation.

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    ::Liberation Library::

    The continuously reblogged version of our Radical Feminist Book Club selections has broken links and outdated downloads, so this post will maintain the most up-to-date versions of everything.

    I also said the old masterpost would be updated, but at some point, for some reason, I deleted it. But there is a reliable, i.e., permanent desktop link here.

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    Anything in italics lacks a downloadable link. Everything else is a pdf or epub. What we’ve read since October 2016:

  • The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan
  • Who Cooked the Last Supper: the Women’s History of the World by Rosalind Miles
  • Love and Politics: Radical Feminist and Lesbian Theories by Carol Anne Douglas
  • 2017

  • Woman Hating by Andrea Dworkin
  • Backlash: the Undeclared War Against American Women by Susan Faludi
  • Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine
  • Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines
  • We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
  • The Women’s Room by Marilyn French
  • This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color edited by Cherie Moraga and Gloria Anzaldua
  • Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution by Rachel Moran
  • Loving to Survive: Sexual Terror, Male Violence, and Women’s Lives by Dee Graham
  • Galileo’s Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and One Scholar’s Search for Justice by Alice Dreger
  • Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction, and the Meaning of Liberty by Dorothy Roberts
  • Tales of the Lavender Menace: a Memoir of Liberation by Karla Jay
  • 2018

  • Right-Wing Women by Andrea Dworkin
  • The Women of Brewster Place by Gloria Naylor
  • Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
  • Female Chauvinist Pigs by Ariel Levy
  • Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy edited by Barbara Ehrenreich and Arlie Russell Hochschild
  • Outlaw Woman: A Memoir of the War Years, 1960-1975 by Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz
  • SCUM Manifesto by Valerie Solanas
  • Kill All Normies: Online Culture Wars from 4chan and Tumblr to Trump and the Alt-Right by Angela Nagle
  • Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture by Peggy Orenstein
  • Desert Blood: The Juárez Murders by Alicia Gaspar De Alba
  • Ask Me About My Uterus: A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women’s Pain by Abby Norman
  • Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde (bundled with Zami and Undersong)
  • 2019

  • Pornography: Men Possessing Women by Andrea Dworkin
  • Woman on the Edge of Time by Marge Piercy
  • Periods Gone Public: Taking a Stand for Menstrual Equality by Jennifer Weiss-Wolf
  • The Wind in My Hair: My Fight for Freedom in Modern Iran by Masih Alinejad
  • Fasting Girls: A History of Anorexia Nervosa by Joan Jacobs Brumberg
  • The Disappearing L: Erasure of Lesbian Spaces and Culture by Bonnie J. Morris
  • How We Get Free: Black Feminism and the Combahee River Collective by Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor
  • The Story of Jane: The Legendary Underground Feminist Abortion Service by Laura Kaplan
  • Virginia Woolf: the Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse on Her Life and Work by Louise A. DeSalvo
  • The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper by Hallie Rubenhold
  • Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez 
  • The Erotics of Talk: Women’s Writing and Feminist Paradigms by Carla Kaplan 
  • 2020

  • Intercourse by Andrea Dworkin
  • Sassafrass, Cypress, & Indigo: A Novel by Ntozake Shange (audiobook here)
  • Nobody’s Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls by Carrie Goldberg
  • The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Jennifer Gunter
  • t-radicans

    Had a startling realization about children’s exercise clothes the other day and how they’re influenced by patriarchy. If you go to the boy’s section, you’ll see loose sweatpants, t-shirts, and flowy knee length shorts. The colors tend to be darker, with deep reds, blues, greens, and black and gray dominating. The girl’s section, on the other hand, is completely different. It’s filled with tight leggings, tank tops, and bike shorts. The colors are usually more pastel, mostly pinks, purples, and light greens and oranges. Girls’ shirts also tend to have sparkles or glitters.

    This feels like a product of pedophilia culture mixed with the idea that women and girls must wear restrictive clothing to properly perform femininity. Children’s bodies, especially pre-puberty, are not so different that they need these different designs. Specifically, girls can exercise just as well in t-shirts and loose sweatpants. So why do we put them in tight pants and shorts, but we don’t expect the same of boys? Why do we need to infantilize girls (with the sparkles, the pastel colors, and the inane butterfly/unicorn/floral designs), while simultaneously sexualizing them by making skin-tight leggings and tiny shorts and bras their only options?

    Maybe I’m reading too much into this, but it’s undeniable that the clothing we create for children is both a product and perpetrator of gender socialization. Young girls can’t even play sports and wear exercise clothes without being subjected to patriarchal influence and misogyny.

    Compare these:

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    vs these:

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    Imagine putting one of the boys pictured in any of the girls’ clothes shown. Most people would find it humiliating or off-putting. The reverse–putting girls in loose pants and t-shirts–would not elicit the same reaction. That’s all you need to think about to realize that enforcing extreme femininity on girl children is unnecessary and harmful. Being female should not be defined by ritual degradation.

    book-dragon-not-worm

    Boys are children first; girls are young women

    radfemsafe

    Interesting read for the gender critical crowd.

    garden-owler

    "After having watched pornography for years while in the Army and being married to a woman who resisted my demands to become the ideal female, I became that female instead. At least in my head."

    [ We've been saying this all along, pornography damages reality. ]

    "Think of the word “transvestite.” They’ve succeeded in making it a vulgar word, even though it just means men dressing like women. People are no longer allowed to tell the truth about men like me. Everyone now has to call us transgender instead."

    [ True, why is this word not allowed? Same with transsexual]

    "Two fake gender identities couldn’t hide the truth of my biological reality. There is no third gender or third sex. Like me, intersex people are either male or female. Their condition is the result of a disorder of sexual development, and they need help and compassion.

    I played my part in pushing forward this grand illusion. I’m not the victim here. My wife, daughter, and the American taxpayers are—they are the real victims."

    [ I completely appreciate the humility but I have to disagree in part - this person, at a mental health low, was completely taken advantage of. This isn't just interesting for us, everyone should read this. ]

    womenslibber

    Haven't been on social media for some months now, so I've been missing out on the latest feminist news and drama. Can we start a thread on bigger events that has happened both online and irl re: trans activism, detrans activism, porn, prostitution, abortion rights, domestic violence and other feminist news? Small and big news, anything goes!

    Interested in relevant infighting and drama as well

    mycroft-valentine

    I'm on mobile so it's hard to link. But you can find info online about all the strides UK feminism is making. Maya Forstater won her case, and the courts in the UK have recognized gender critical beliefs as worthy as respect.

    noblepeasant

    Not to sound like a prude or anything, but the way some of y'all treat sexuality and pornography is absolutely fucked up.

    noblepeasant

    Like, seriously, if you've gotten to the stage where you cannot go a day or two without masturbating or having sex, or if you've got playlists of porn, or if your kinks have expanded to such a point that they are now integrated into your everyday life and not just your sex life and you consider not being allowed to display that kink openly as some kind of oppression, then you probably have an addiction, and you need to see a therapist and get it checked out.

    I’m a bad driver. I’ve accepted that. I’m a bad driver with split ends and an overbite. When my husband’s in the car with me, he says “oh, you shouldn’t drive so slow,” “oh, don’t let so many people pull out in front of you,” “you should use your horn more.” But I get nervous behind the wheel and driving’s all about confidence, so that’s why I’m not a good driver. I’m a bad driver. But you know, I’ve been thinking. I’ve never been in an accident. And I can drive stick, I can parallel park, I can merge, and you know, I actually think that I, actually, used to enjoy driving. Well, we have one car, and he doesn’t have to share it, he doesn’t have to share anything. He gets me all to himself because I never went back to school and he says that’s because I never finish things.

    Dear radfems and gender criticals

    I found a legit-seeming non-profit, non-religious organisation that openly talk against trans ideology. They offer critical reading materials and they have on option to send anonymously their books to schools, leaders and other people who could use the critical perspective. If you feel like you have money to spend read their books and possibly send it to an organisation that you think could use a different perspective!

    They have books that seem great like Desist, Detrans, & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult by PEC co-founder Maria Keffler. Amazon keeps pulling away gender-critical books so here is where you can find the forbidden books (not supporting Amazon is a great plus too).