Glad to see we’re uniting. Also sorry Orthodoxes I forgot to put you in there :(
Friendly reminder that right after “wives, submit to your husbands” we get “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” and a little later “So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5:22-33)
What does it mean to give yourself up for your wife? Is it just taking a bullet for her? Or does it also mean laying down your own selfish desires for her benefit, and putting her needs and happiness above your own?
It’s almost like that’s what the passage is about - both husband and wife putting each other above themselves. When that happens, you get a very happy and loving marriage.