“Love is possible only if two persons communicate with each other from the center of their existence, hence if each one of them experiences himself from the center of his existence. Only in this “central experience” is human reality, only here is aliveness, only here is the basis for love. Love, experienced thus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but a moving, growing, working together; even whether there is harmony or conflict, joy your sadness, is secondary to the fundamental fact that two people experience themselves from the essence of their existence, that they are one with each other by being one with themselves, rather than by fleeing from themselves. There’s only one proof for the presence of love: the depth of the relationship, and the aliveness and strength in each person concerned; this is the fruit by which love is recognized.”

�� Erich Fromm, The Art Of Loving

llleighsmith

maybe i am a bit codependent but also we were not made to face the world alone

breadyeast

Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

strangeuglywomen

Im allergic to hookup culture and too weird to participate anyway. Die in my arms.

A part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. The older you get, the more mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve missed, people you’ve disappointed. And every day you have to remind yourself to be kind and forgiving of yourself. You accept and love the you from the past and understand that it’s all a part of the process. Then you move on and live your best life, knowing now as old as you feel today, you’ll never be this young again.

the purest form of love, i think, is having someone who wants to learn about you, from you, and with you.

لن يشفيك الهرب، كل ��لشفاء بالمواجهة

Escaping won't heal you, all healing comes from confrontation.

Be the energy you want around you.

lips: soft face: soft hair: soft heart: soft

A Walk Round the Park

We did not say much to each other but we grinned,            because this love was so good you sucked the rib bones

and I licked my fingers like a cat. Now I’m            omniscient. I’m going to skip past the hard

parts that go on for a very long time. Here’s the future:            I laugh, because the pleasure was earned yet vouchsafed,

and I made room for what was dead past and what yet didn’t            exist. I was not always kind, but I was clear.

Sandra Lim (Academy of American Poets, 2019)

Reinventing myself into a whole new woman. I owe it to myself. I deserve everything I aspire. I want me on a whole new level. 

I just want to cuddle and feel a boner on my butt and strong arms around my body

i truly believe that no one deserves me

My home will be a home with no loud anger, no explosive rage, no slamming doors or breaking glass, no name calling, shaming or blackmail. My home will be gentle, it will be warm. It will keep my loved ones safe. No fear, no hurt and no worries.

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Sylvia Plath - from The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

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“I have much to live for, yet unaccountably I am sick and sad.”

— Sylvia Plath from The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

I love taking back the power and profiting off of men’s obsession with sexualizing me

How to Break free of Addiction to Approval

1. Recognise that other people do not determine your worth and value. It’s your life not there’s. They are responsible to themselves for their life; and you are responsible to yourself for your life. Don’t give up your “self” to please someone else.

2. Also, people change, have different values and outlooks and want different things for, and from, us. It’s simply impossible to please everyone all of the time, or even most of the time.

3. Recognise that spending our lives trying to make others happiness is a recipe for failure and low self-esteem. It’s a pointless way to spend your life. It will stop you being happy and true to yourself.

4. Be kind to yourself. Understand that we all have weaknesses, and things that we regret saying and doing.

5. Also, we’re all on our journey – and the journey is harder and more challenging for some than others. Perhaps you are dealing with obstacles that other people have not had to face.

6. Develop your self esteem from within. Decide on the type of person YOU want to be, and work on being true to that.

7. Think about what really matters to you, and the different goals you’d like to achieve – then set these as a priority. That is, decide what YOU want to do instead of worrying about what others would like you to do.

8. Develop a plan for the direction of your life. Focus your thinking, energy, choices and decisions around living a life that is meaningful to you. At the end of each day, check to ensure you’ve done something that is taking you in that direction.

9. Work on developing your self-reliance – so that although it is nice to have help and support from others, you’re not dependent upon it (or them). Also, being able to think, act and choose for yourself will greatly increase your self-confidence.

10. Work on accepting, valuing and loving yourself. Appreciate the good things about YOU. Notice your successes, and any moves towards living out your goals, and becoming the real you.

11. Choose to live in the moment. Decide not to keep going over the past, or worrying too much about what lies ahead. Notice and relish what is good about “right now”.

12. Choose joy. Allowing yourself to experience joy is freeing, motivating, energising. It keeps your focus on the positives in life.

You who never arrived

You who never arrived in my arms, Beloved, who were lost from the start, I don’t even know what songs would please you. I have given up trying to recognize you in the surging wave of the next moment. All the immense images in me – the far-off, deeply-felt landscape, cities, towers, and bridges, and unsuspected turns in the path, and those powerful lands that were once pulsing with the life of the gods– all rise within me to mean you, who forever elude me.

You, Beloved, who are all the gardens I have ever gazed at, longing. An open window in a country house– , and you almost stepped out, pensive, to meet me. Streets that I chanced upon,– you had just walked down them and vanished. And sometimes, in a shop, the mirrors were still dizzy with your presence and, startled, gave back my too-sudden image. Who knows? Perhaps the same bird echoed through both of us yesterday, separate, in the evening…

“The cure for pain is in the pain.” - Rumi

Grant me some illusion

Of a company,

Vividly illustrated in colours

That'd take me back to the time

When I felt like being rocked

Lovingly on a cradle.

Enclose me in a sensation

That'd melt away these

Obstinate lump of moments

Into a fragrance that we'll love

To breathe together.

We don't need to map any distance

Predict or draw conclusions and comment,

No need to answer

Nagging worries and questions.

Just a dreamy presence

We'll be to each other.

being alive is to have life telling you ‘ok now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave’ over and over and over until you learn it & then have to learn it again