anonymous

hey, my girlfriend is bisexual and a potential cucquean. how to go about it to encourage her?

Well, Mr Mega. (nice name- nice blog btw :) Good question. I used to get asked this a lot, sorry but the answer is very wordy.I am pretty sure not every bisexual is a potential cuckquean, and perhaps, not every cuckquean is even bisexual. It is very hard to slot us all into these roles and labels. 

In my mind, (I am not claiming to be an authority on the fetish but since you asked), there is a distinction between Cuckqueanery and bisexual/threesome play. 

The difference (for me) is the commitment involved between a husband and a wife. The vows we have taken to each other, the shared history, the lives we have wrapped up with one another, the risk of igniting something uncontrollable, the boundless trust, the limitless love for one another and of course, the sense of humour. These elements have to combine to set off a true cuckqueaning experience. (Elements of power play, humiliation, bdsm etc can be added and subtracted as desired), but that’s the bare bones of the fetish, as I see it, and enjoy it. 

(All of this is of course applicable to those who are not married, absolutely, but there is just something extra delicious about playing with taboos whilst wearing a wedding ring. )

Now, in answer to your original question- How to encourage your girlfriend into cuckqueanery…? You cannot. 

You can introduce the concept, of course. I have been chatting to a lot of people who are pretty relieved to put a name to their desire. There is so much male-skewed cuckholding out there but so little of the reverse that women can be forgiven for feeling alone in their fantasies. 

As for encouraging her one way or another, impossible, not fair to her, do not do it. You can only discuss your fantasy with her, because it is your personal fantasy at this stage. Once you open the lines of communication, who knows? She could be/(should be:) totally into it. Read some of my stories with her. She might totally dig it and you two can begin a life of sharing each other. Put her first, above all.

But a word of warning, do not be in too much of a rush to include others in your relationship. In whatever capacity. There is no going back. You cannot put the genie back in the bottle. The image of your GF/wife with another person will be emblazoned in your mind forever and likewise, she will have many images and emotions to process of you fucking another woman. Are you both strong enough and committed enough to get through that without doing damage to each other? 

I have said this before, but, you only have one life to live. Plato said ‘An unexamined life is not worth living’, this ancient wisdom is just as applicable to the sexual aspect of our being as well. 

-hope this helps

-Q x