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    anonymous

    I think my girlfriend may have some cuckquean tendencies. She's bi and often attracted to girls, but she's had arousing dreams of watching me getting sexual with women she's attracted to, and once had me finger her while I described an experience from her past. Plus, she's really eager to bring another girl in for a threesome, though much of that is her own interest in girls. It's important to me not to hurt her, so how can I investigate to see how far this possibility goes?

              Good question and your concern is commendable. She is a lucky girl but unless you put a ring on her finger she will never be a Cuckquean because Cuckqueanery all hinges on the adultery aspect of relationships. Risking the commitment you made to each other in front of all your families and friends when you legally committed and bound your lives together- by bringing others into the marriage bed. That risk adds to the excitement. This is not an agreement to swing, this is a specific and unique arrangement between a husband and a wife.          Technicalities aside, it really is touching how concerned you are for your girlfriend’s sexual freedom. You seem like a really superb boyfriend. But at this point, all you can do is talk to her, have the conversation. Tell her exactly what you wrote to me. Start your own blog together to share your desires. You might find once she knows she has an ally in you, your sexual world will open up. As always. Be happy & BE SAFE.

    -Q

    Hello My KinkyFriends.

    O.o- Look what happened as I was logged in last weekend..... 
    7000 of you sexy-minded people have taken the time to follow m
    e.
    Holy Shit & Thank you.

    News: We have been chatting about planning a serious new escapade with someone special, lots to write about, she just gave me permission to share the naked pics she sent us. We have been teasing each other for months now, I will tell you about it soon. 

    Enjoy the weekend. 
    -Q

    (I have a few posts to catch up on, been a busy few months for me.
    Going to be trying out some new layouts, bear with me.
    If anyone has any suggestions on good readable layouts-inbox me
    .) 

    anonymous

    hey, my girlfriend is bisexual and a potential cucquean. how to go about it to encourage her?

    Well, Mr Mega. (nice name- nice blog btw :) Good question. I used to get asked this a lot, sorry but the answer is very wordy.I am pretty sure not every bisexual is a potential cuckquean, and perhaps, not every cuckquean is even bisexual. It is very hard to slot us all into these roles and labels. 

    In my mind, (I am not claiming to be an authority on the fetish but since you asked), there is a distinction between Cuckqueanery and bisexual/threesome play. 

    The difference (for me) is the commitment involved between a husband and a wife. The vows we have taken to each other, the shared history, the lives we have wrapped up with one another, the risk of igniting something uncontrollable, the boundless trust, the limitless love for one another and of course, the sense of humour. These elements have to combine to set off a true cuckqueaning experience. (Elements of power play, humiliation, bdsm etc can be added and subtracted as desired), but that’s the bare bones of the fetish, as I see it, and enjoy it. 

    (All of this is of course applicable to those who are not married, absolutely, but there is just something extra delicious about playing with taboos whilst wearing a wedding ring. )

    Now, in answer to your original question- How to encourage your girlfriend into cuckqueanery…? You cannot. 

    You can introduce the concept, of course. I have been chatting to a lot of people who are pretty relieved to put a name to their desire. There is so much male-skewed cuckholding out there but so little of the reverse that women can be forgiven for feeling alone in their fantasies. 

    As for encouraging her one way or another, impossible, not fair to her, do not do it. You can only discuss your fantasy with her, because it is your personal fantasy at this stage. Once you open the lines of communication, who knows? She could be/(should be:) totally into it. Read some of my stories with her. She might totally dig it and you two can begin a life of sharing each other. Put her first, above all.

    But a word of warning, do not be in too much of a rush to include others in your relationship. In whatever capacity. There is no going back. You cannot put the genie back in the bottle. The image of your GF/wife with another person will be emblazoned in your mind forever and likewise, she will have many images and emotions to process of you fucking another woman. Are you both strong enough and committed enough to get through that without doing damage to each other? 

    I have said this before, but, you only have one life to live. Plato said ‘An unexamined life is not worth living’, this ancient wisdom is just as applicable to the sexual aspect of our being as well. 

    -hope this helps

    -Q x