*this is especially important: these days on Tumblr thereâs a wonderful atmosphere of being able to talk openly about your mental illness or your struggle. And thatâs great! But thereâs a difference between sharing in order to help yourself and other people and sharing just because you have no other coping mechanisms. As much as youâre able, try to work on developing a different outlet. People arenât qualified to be your therapist because theyâre nice to you a couple of times. Please remember that they have lives too, and their job is not to make you feel better or pity you, no matter how difficult your life is.Â
And last but not least:Â
I really donât have a way to better this.Â
Your interests are your own. I canât advise anyone to change their interests to fit in with a certain group of people - thatâs stupid, and actually quite damaging to your sense of self.Â
Instead, I would recommend that, maybe if you feel like your topics of conversation are falling flat with this group of people, you move on to other, greener pastures. There are bound to be places where your ideas mesh better with an audience.Â
And of course - try to be considerate about what you say and how you say it.Â
Sometimes, what might seem like a harmless comment to you might be a very discomforting thought to another person. I recently had a conversation on a forum with a guy who was telling me that his headcanon was that Pearl (from SU) would soon get a male love interest who loved mechanics and weapons next, and that would be her best arc, because she would finally get a âhealthyâ love interest.Â
His intentions were good, but he was entirely unaware of how cringey this kind of thing was to a bunch of (probably queer) people, who have spent their entire lives being told that the onlyÂ âgoodâ character development for them would be to get aÂ âmale love interestâ. No one wanted to be the jerk to sayÂ âfuck off, we donât want that to happenâ but everyone was answering him in a flat way, trying to discourage the discussion further. Instead of picking up on the hint, he bulldozed on, thinking he was having aÂ âlively conversationâ which was, in fact, in its late stages of death.Â
I know Iâll probably get a few messages to this saying: What about people on the Autistic Spectrum? Sometimes, people canât pick up social cues orÂ âhintsâ. And if thatâs the case, itâs incredibly difficult to understand why youâre not having any luck communicating despite your best efforts.Â
I feel that on a person level, please believe me. I made this infograph for THAT VERY REASON. Because I WAS that awkward kid who didnât pick up on hints well. In fact, I still have trouble talking to people. If any of you have had the misfortune of being my conversational partner, youâll know that I tend to be overly blunt and come off as very unfriendly. Itâs something that I, myself, am working on currently in order to grow into a better person. Itâs a struggle in progress, but I am aiming towards the progress side, and I just wanted to help out others while I was at it.Â
This is a really good starting guide to the social skills everyone thinks you should have just picked up magically.
So, yes, this is exactly the advice I think autistic people would benefit from; it actually tells you concrete, actionable, things you could do. I wish someone had told me this stuff when I was a kid.
My autistic brother created a new family Christmas tradition
Okay, so last year, my mom bought this Christmas moose that she lovingly named Barry
This is him
Well, for whatever reason only known to my brother, he decided that he wanted to put Barry in different rooms of our house and it usually scares the shit out of whomever happens upon Barry; usually the person who finds him is the person that my brother wanted to scare.
So far, Barry has been found
On our dining room table
On my dad's side of my parents' bed
In my parents' closet
Outside their bedroom door (at 5 in the morning and scared my mother shitless)
Near the kitchen door
Near my fucking bed
At the bottom of my sister's stairwell
In our bathroom
And down the hallway
This has gone on for 9 days and it doesn't seem to show signs of stopping. Most of the time we know who gets Barry because it's always followed with a very loud "FUCKING BARRY!!!!!"
My brother is the funniest fucking person I know.
He found his way into my sister's room.
And my brother is cackling maniacally downstairs.
Holy fuck this doll is creepy
The soft glow of the Christmas tree seems to quell his bloodlust
vote to replace the evil surveillance Elf on the Shelf withÂ Barry the Chrismoose
Broke: Elf on the Shelf Woke: Moose on the Loose