thechekhov

    *this is especially important: these days on Tumblr there’s a wonderful atmosphere of being able to talk openly about your mental illness or your struggle. And that’s great! But there’s a difference between sharing in order to help yourself and other people and sharing just because you have no other coping mechanisms. As much as you’re able, try to work on developing a different outlet. People aren’t qualified to be your therapist because they’re nice to you a couple of times. Please remember that they have lives too, and their job is not to make you feel better or pity you, no matter how difficult your life is. 

    And last but not least: 

    But… 

    I really don’t have a way to better this. 

    Your interests are your own. I can’t advise anyone to change their interests to fit in with a certain group of people - that’s stupid, and actually quite damaging to your sense of self. 

    Instead, I would recommend that, maybe if you feel like your topics of conversation are falling flat with this group of people, you move on to other, greener pastures. There are bound to be places where your ideas mesh better with an audience. 

    And of course - try to be considerate about what you say and how you say it. 

    Sometimes, what might seem like a harmless comment to you might be a very discomforting thought to another person. I recently had a conversation on a forum with a guy who was telling me that his headcanon was that Pearl (from SU) would soon get a male love interest who loved mechanics and weapons next, and that would be her best arc, because she would finally get a ‘healthy’ love interest. 

    His intentions were good, but he was entirely unaware of how cringey this kind of thing was to a bunch of (probably queer) people, who have spent their entire lives being told that the only ‘good’ character development for them would be to get a ‘male love interest’. No one wanted to be the jerk to say “fuck off, we don’t want that to happen” but everyone was answering him in a flat way, trying to discourage the discussion further. Instead of picking up on the hint, he bulldozed on, thinking he was having a ‘lively conversation’ which was, in fact, in its late stages of death. 

    I know I’ll probably get a few messages to this saying: What about people on the Autistic Spectrum? Sometimes, people can’t pick up social cues or ‘hints’. And if that’s the case, it’s incredibly difficult to understand why you’re not having any luck communicating despite your best efforts. 

    I feel that on a person level, please believe me. I made this infograph for THAT VERY REASON. Because I WAS that awkward kid who didn’t pick up on hints well. In fact, I still have trouble talking to people. If any of you have had the misfortune of being my conversational partner, you’ll know that I tend to be overly blunt and come off as very unfriendly. It’s something that I, myself, am working on currently in order to grow into a better person. It’s a struggle in progress, but I am aiming towards the progress side, and I just wanted to help out others while I was at it. 

    the-real-seebs

    This is a really good starting guide to the social skills everyone thinks you should have just picked up magically.

    So, yes, this is exactly the advice I think autistic people would benefit from; it actually tells you concrete, actionable, things you could do. I wish someone had told me this stuff when I was a kid.

    mcsqu1bb

    My autistic brother created a new family Christmas tradition

    Okay, so last year, my mom bought this Christmas moose that she lovingly named Barry

    This is him

    Cute, right?

    Well, for whatever reason only known to my brother, he decided that he wanted to put Barry in different rooms of our house and it usually scares the shit out of whomever happens upon Barry; usually the person who finds him is the person that my brother wanted to scare.

    So far, Barry has been found

    On our dining room table

    On my dad's side of my parents' bed

    In my parents' closet

    Outside their bedroom door (at 5 in the morning and scared my mother shitless)

    Near the kitchen door

    Near my fucking bed

    At the bottom of my sister's stairwell

    In our bathroom

    And down the hallway

    This has gone on for 9 days and it doesn't seem to show signs of stopping. Most of the time we know who gets Barry because it's always followed with a very loud "FUCKING BARRY!!!!!"

    My brother is the funniest fucking person I know.

    mcsqu1bb

    Update:

    He found his way into my sister's room.

    And my brother is cackling maniacally downstairs.

    mcsqu1bb

    Holy fuck this doll is creepy

    mcsqu1bb

    Another update:

    The soft glow of the Christmas tree seems to quell his bloodlust

    thesaltofcarthage

    vote to replace the evil surveillance Elf on the Shelf with Barry the Chrismoose

    annethecatdetective

    Broke: Elf on the Shelf Woke: Moose on the Loose