100 good questions to ask your friends at 4:02 am when you can’t sleep (can also function as an asks list)

    • Are you bothered by your cosmic insignificance?
    • Do you mourn for a place or person you’ve never known?
    • Do you really think there is somebody for everybody?
    • Do you place any value in gender roles?
    • Do you have to be related to be family?
    • Are your platonic relationships just as valuable as romantic or family ones?
    • Are you in love? Do you want to be?
    • Do you think you can put love into categories (family, platonic, romantic, etc.) or is it just one general sensation?
    • Would you be happy with a life without romance? 
    • Are you always going to be a little in love with somebody?
    • Would you change your appearance if you could?
    • Do you have the feeling you’ve lost something you might have had in another life - whether it be a person, a place, a world, a language, etc.?
    • Do you believe in reincarnation?
    • Would you want to be reincarnated?
    • Do you think you’re special, or just another person amongst billions? Can you be both?
    • Do theoretical ethical debates have any value? Is it important people discuss ethical dilemmas, e.g. the trolley problem?
    • Did you have imaginary friends? Do you still have them?
    • Are you religious? Do you think your religion is ‘correct’?
    • If you aren’t religious, do you wish you were? Why?
    • Do you want a grand adventure?
    • Do you have somebody, whether it be a friend or stranger, who you think you could have loved if the circumstances were different?
    • How long does it take you to fall in love with somebody?Is the sensation of ‘falling in love’ or ‘being in love’ better?
    • Is love about convenience or something more? Can it be about both?
    • Do you think you really understand your gender and sexuality?
    • How fluid is your concept of gender and sexuality?
    • What’s the most life-changing choice you’ve made so far?
    • Are you afraid of growing old?
    • Would you want to live forever? How about for a billion years, a million, a millennium, a century?
    • Do you believe in some form of god/s?
    • Are your choices fated or of your own free will?
    • Do you have a hunch about how you’re going to die?
    • Do you believe in star signs?
    • How old do you have to be to be considered an adult?
    • Was your childhood happy?
    • What are you missing from your life?
    • Have you ever met someone who had a very similar personality to your own? Did you get along?
    • Do opposites attract?
    • Is your life what you expected it would be five years ago?
    • Do you know what you want out of life?
    • What makes a person ‘good’? Are you a ‘good person’?
    • What fundamentally matters do you?
    • Is freewill an illusion?
    • Do you create art? How do you define art?
    • How often do you lie? Is all lying inherently bad? Are you generally truthful?
    • Do you want to be remembered after your death? What for?
    • Is true world peace ever possible?
    • Do you have to suffer to truly understand the human condition? What is the human condition? How can you really experience it?
    • Are you free? Will you ever be? Can anyone be truly free?
    • Do you hold yourself to higher standards than you hold others?
    • What do you expect from a friend or partner?
    • What question could you ask to find out the most about a person?
    • Do you justify all your beliefs or have you just inherited/absorbed some?
    • Which beliefs do you have that is most likely to be wrong?
    • Can human really understand the complete nature of the universe, space and time?
    • Is a conscious what makes someone a person?
    • What do you think about artificial intelligence?
    • Do you thinks humans are obsessed with escapism (books, video games, movies, etc.)? Are you looking for an escape? Do you think that’s a bad thing?
    • Are we eventually going to ‘run out’ of new combinations for music, art, language, etc.? Is there a limit to human creativity?
    • What do you think the next era of music will be like?
    • What do you think the next era of fashion will be like?
    • Do we live in tumultuous times, or do they just seem so strange because we’re living in them?
    • Would you want to meet a clone of yourself? Would you like them?
    • How confident are you, really?
    • How consistent is your perception of time?
    • What age should people be allowed to vote? Should children and teenagers be allowed to vote?
    • How do you feel about the idea ‘an eye for an eye’?
    • What’s the worse thing a person can be?
    • How do you feel about monogamy?
    • Can you be in love with someone and still fall in love with someone else?
    • What’s the tragedy of your life?
    • Would your life make a good play?
    • Should people be prosecuted for crimes that weren’t considered crimes at the time?
    • Would you fight for your country? Do you feel a sense of loyalty to your nation?
    • Do you believe in gender equality in every aspect?
    • Do we have a moral obligation to care for others? To what extent?
    • Do you crave approval and/or praise?
    • Is there comedy in all tragedy and tragedy in all comedy?
    • Are you ever going to be satisfied?
    • When you are sad, do you listen to music that conveys your emotions or music that makes you happy?
    • Is your music organised by mood or sensation or do you just listen to everything at any time?
    • Would you marry a friend if they needed you to (e.g. for citizenship)?
    • Are you a deep person?
    • Given the chance to live your life on Mars, with no hope of returning to Earth but with the promise of scientific discovery and glory, would you take it?
    • Are you who people think you are?
    • Do you think you would be happier if you had been born a different gender, sexuality, race, ethnicity, nationality or religion?
    • What’s your toxic trait? Are you trying to improve yourself and fix it?
    • Do you anger easily?
    • Are you a jealous person?
    • If you lost all your memories, would you have the same personality?
    • Given the chance to reset your life (with none of the knowledge you currently have), would you take it?
    • Is hate as strong as love? Who do you hate?
    • Do you speak multiple languages? Which do you dream in? What language would you want to learn?
    • Do you draw meaning from your dreams, or do you disregard them?
    • How would you describe yourself when you love? Do you love forcefully, unconditionally, gently, quietly, desperately?
    • Is unrequited love real love?
    • Is your perception of yourself similar or the same to how others perceive you?
    • Are you overly analytical?
    • Do you ever feel that you are really a terrible person, and only act good out of societal or some other obligation?
    • Do you believe in magic? Are you superstitious?
    • What belief do you have that isn’t logically grounded, but you still firmly believe in?

    yo being black and depressed is hard as fuck. being black with anxiety is hard as fuck. being black with a chronic illness or disability is hard a fuck. everybody expects you to be ‘strong’ at all times and no one sees black people as complex or nuanced enough to be capable of suffering. no one ever thinks we could possibly need help. and if you’re a black woman, the moment you stop thinking about others and try to tend to yourself you’re a selfish lazy ungrateful bitch.

    support black people, esp women, who need help. don’t just call us strong or tell us we’ll get through it, help us. protect us. uplift us. allow us to be beings capable of suffering. give us the same space you’d give white women to express our pain and be there for us like you would for anyone else. 

    Emotionally unavalaible men are not attractive. “Bad boys” are not attractive. Good looking men who use you just for sex are not attractive. Men who act like your boyfriend but don’t want to commit are not attractive. Fuckboys are not attractive. Men who treat you like crap, don’t reciprocate your feelings, leave you feeling confused about your situation are not attractive. Please value yourself.