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    To conflate any woman’s ability to fall in love — or worse yet, to be deserving of it — with her hairstyle is always harmful. Indeed, all women have long been subject to an impossible bodily scrutiny that at once demands we adhere to specific ideals (long hair, feminine presentation, thin bodies with the acceptable curves) and chastises us for working to achieve them. Lots of men profess to prefer the “natural look,” but regularly underestimate the amount of labor that aesthetic might involve.

    For black women, the stakes of slippery beauty standards are even higher, and the stigma of not achieving impossible ideals is even more layered. Countless song lyrics have derided women with extensions for being “fake” or “not loving themselves.” In the chorus of the recent magnum oafus “Ayo,” human garbage dumps Chris Brown and Tyga brag that “all [their] bitches got real hair.” The song’s music video features mostly non-black women, except for one wig-wearing presumed sex worker, who’s only depicted fellating a police officer. (That both men’s rumored real-life girlfriends do in fact sport extensions is, again, apparently irrelevant.)

    These unimaginative references and imagery come laced with anti-black sentiment; after all, women of all races get hair extensions, but movies like Chris Rock’s Good Hair only focus on (and stigmatize) black women. And yet it is wholly possible to love oneself, to love one’s hair, to love a partner, all while loving the versatility and styling options that weaves can offer. They are fun; flipping your hair takes on a whole new meaning when there’s 22 extra inches to toss around. They protect your own hair from the elements, helping it to grow longer and stay healthy even during adverse weather conditions (looking at you, Polar Vortex). But most important, they are a choice, just like any other. The decisions a black woman makes with her body are hers alone, not necessarily reflective of a man’s influence.

    offbeatorbit

    Oh, by the way, I forgot to share a piece I wrote about the whole black Hermione controversy and why I think that JKR’s enthusiasm is cool, but she can’t suddenly pretend as if white wasn’t always the default in the HP series. Check it out!

    catlovesmocalike

    I haaaaayyyyteeee heeeer

    theblacksmithsdaughter

    this doesn’t bother me as much as the dumbledore thing primarily, because she never said Hermione was meant to black just endorsed black Hermione and pointed out that Hermione really could be any race. I wish more authors authors would do this when their books were turned to movies or plays.

    i feel like people are implying a duplicitousness in this reaction which just isn’t there.

    offbeatorbit

    JKR was implying that is was us, the readers, who decided Hermione was white. I love JKR, but that's pretty insincere given the fact that her characters in the series are basically white until proven otherwise (description, last name, etc). She's never had a problem flat out describing non-white characters as such. My piece is putting emphasis on the fact that Hermione's race was never actually as dubious and JKR can approve of a black Hermione without acting like it was.

    Oh, by the way, I forgot to share a piece I wrote about the whole black Hermione controversy and why I think that JKR's enthusiasm is cool, but she can't suddenly pretend as if white wasn't always the default in the HP series. Check it out!

    crowry

    I had some of my Harry and Hermione art featured in this great article about racebending in Harry Potter fandom by Zeba Blay along with art by dellbelle39, vondellswain, foxville, refrigerator-art, aud-works, jimmymm-ilustra, conischedia, @mariannewiththesteadyhands, and @batcii. 

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    Ahh! I was gonna make a post about this later, but you beat me to it! Oooooh my gosh. Everyone read this article! It features some really awesome artists and it’s a really good read! I’m so honored to be included in this!

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    Louis Tomlinson‘s life is headed in a new direction: He’s going to be a dad.

    The One Direction hearthrob is expecting a baby with Los Angeles-based stylist Briana Jungwirth.

    “Louis is happy and very excited about becoming a dad and he thinks Briana will be an amazing mother. It was a surprise at first, but he and Briana are very, very close friends and this has brought them even closer,” a mutual friend of the couple tells PEOPLE.

    The British boy band member and Jungwirth, both 23, met through mutual friends earlier this year after his split from longterm girlfriend Eleanor Calder in March and were spotted on a number of dates in May.

    Tomlinson has vowed to be at Jungwirth’s side and to be a “hands-on dad” when the baby arrives early next year, according to the friend.

    He has even been looking for L.A. properties near Jungwirth, and has flown across the world to be by her side for every ultrasound so far.

    Says the friend: “Louis and Briana care about each other very much and have spent a lot of time together privately over the last few months.

    “They are both really happy and although they aren’t in a relationship, their friendship is extremely strong and they are both really excited about the baby. It’s early days and Briana and the baby’s health are the most important things right now.”

    Adds the pal, “Briana is a really lovely girl; she’s absolutely not interested in Louis’ fame. She’s very private and most of the time they spend together is out of the public eye, just hanging out with their friends.”

    In fact, Jungwirth had never even been to a One Direction concert until recently.

    The couple’s moms and stepdads are delighted and met for the first time in L.A. over the July 4 holiday weekend, when Tomlinson’s mom Johanna and stepfather Dan flew in for the occasion.

    The families “really hit it off when they met,” says the friend. “They are all excited and totally supportive.”

    For Johanna, it will be her first grandchild. She gave birth to twins Ernest andDoris in February 2014 — meaning Tomlinson has had plenty of practice with diapers!

    Johanna, a mom of seven, has grown close to Jungwirth over the past few months, the friend says.

    “Johanna is a midwife, so she’s been able to give advice and has been a great source of support for Briana.”

    While Tomlinson’s family may be growing, One Direction recently downsized when member Zayn Malik called it quits in March.

    Despite the temporary turmoil, Tomlinson insisted the group had no plans on breaking up. “We’re having too much fun!” the singer, who has also started his own record label, said in May.

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    IM SCREAMING

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    and for those interested, you can find the report HERE

    jadelyn

    Just in case any dudebros are unclear on what this means: it means that your buddy who totally just had some bitch trying to ruin his life by accusing him of rape…almost certainly actually did rape her.  

    Just keep that in mind.

    boldmatter

    Yeah man, imagine that, bitches don’t be lying.

    rememberyes

    Can we put this into context? It means that99.4% of rape allegations are true. 

    skyliting

    It means that99.4% of rape allegations are true.

    babyslime

    When you read through and learn about those 0.6% who did make false allegations, there are some seriously important things to note. Firstly :

    “Furthermore, the report shows that a significant number of these cases involved young, often vulnerable people. About half of the cases involved people aged 21 years old and under, and some involved people with mental health difficulties. In some cases, the person alleged to have made the false report had undoubtedly been the victim of some kind of offence (sic), even if not the one which he or she had reported.”

    And then, when you get into the case studies you find things like a 14 year old girl sleeping with an 18 year old. When discovered, she claimed the sex was non-consensual in fear of her father’s disapproval, but investigation of texts and emails found that to be untrue. THAT SAID, the 18 year old was found to have a history of pursuing and seducing many very young girls, and once he was counseled he expressed not only regret over his actions, but the knowledge that he was purposefully picking vulnerable girls who could be easily manipulated into consent.

    Another case was a married couple, where the wife claimed rape and domestic violence, so the husband was arrested and held. After some contact between the two while he was incarcerated, she went back to him and wanted the charges dropped. It’s okay because she still loves him. When the DA decided to keep going, she suddenly said that she made it up and he never raped her at all.
    Further counseling revealed that the allegations were true, but she didn’t want to be without him so she lied about the allegations being false.
    I don’t know about you, but this kind of sounds like classic domestic violence, and the kind of patterns you get into after living with an abuser. The point I’m trying to make is that even though there are 0.6% false claims… when you break them down you find that there’s generally a lot of skeevy shit going on, and like the above quote, many of the alleged rape victims are actual victims of other abuses. For some of them, I’m guessing that an allegation of rape was the only way to bring enough attention to their abuse to finally get protection by law enforcement, or enough care from family to be freed from their abusive situations and moved somewhere safe. Some are mentally ill and have been taken advantage of, or are victims of statutory rape because they are not even remotely mature enough to truly consent to a sexual relationship with an adult.
    These cases aren’t just as simple as, “some bitch regretted sex and cried rape”.

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    OH MY GOD

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    OH MY GOD

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    WHAT THE FUCK

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    HOW DID NOBODY NOTICE THIS EARLIER

    clearedcat-deactivated20150710

    lol i literally had to open up photoshop and use my color correcting skills i learned in photography to figure it out but yea

    that dress is blue and black, the white spot in the corner makes ppl who have a yellow color bias (like my self) think that its white and gold bc the...

    offbeatorbit

    I hate everything.

    James and Lily have been dating for a couple months. It’s like their fifth fight and Lily cannot believe James and she says “are you—” but she catches herself and knows better than to say “serious” because he will make a joke about Sirius so she quick edits to “are you kidding”...

    Hey, New York City-area teenagaires!

    Rookie staff writer Meredith and I, your humble ARS, one of Rookie’s story editors using her old Tumblr which she’s never posted on before, are putting together an unofficial Rookie reader meetup at the record...

    Man, some suffragettes were real dicks.

    Suffragette: Belle Kearney, 1863-1939 (Orator, novelist, Mississippi state senator)
    Hooray: “Equal pay for equal work.
    Wait,
    What: “The enfranchisement of women would insure immediate and durable white supremacy, honestly attained, for upon unquestioned authority it is stated that in every southern State but one there are more educated women than all the illiterate voters, white and black, native and foreign, combined. As you probably know, of all the women in the South who can read and write, ten out of every eleven are white. When it comes to the proportion of property between the races, that of the white outweighs that of the black immeasurably.”

    Suffragette: Rebecca Ann Latimer Felton, 1835-1930 (First woman to serve in the Senate)
    Hoora
    y: ”A Senator of the U.S., a woman, is still a sort of political joke with our masculine leaders in party politics…. But the trail has been blazed! The road is apparently rough—maybe rocky—but the trail has been located. It is an established fact. While it is also a romantic adventure, it will ever remain an historical precedent—never to be erased.
    Wait, What: ”I do not want to see a negro man walk to the polls and vote on who should handle my tax money, while I myself cannot vote at all…When there is not enough religion in the pulpit to organize a crusade against sin; nor justice in the court house to promptly punish crime; nor manhood enough in the nation to put a sheltering arm about innocence and virtue—-if it needs lynching to protect woman’s dearest possession from the ravening human beasts—-then I say lynch, a thousand times a week if necessary.”

    Click thru for more.